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Burnt Out & Neurotic: The Toll of Blogging While Ace and Mentally Ill

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December 26, 2018

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December 22, 2018
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “is there a sexuality between straight and bisexual?”

    July 6, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: is there a sexuality between straight and bisexual? coz i used to think i’m straight but now i’m a bit attracted to girls??? maybe i’m simply just bi-curious??? if you mean is there a word for being primarily attracted to people that society has decided are “the opposite” gender from you, but occasionally / fleetingly / sporadically / spontaneously being attracted to people society has decided are “the same” gender as you, heteroflexibility, bi-curiosity and bisexuality come to mind. heteroflexibility is probably closest to the word that you’re looking for, but at the same time i hate to see bi-curiosity being dismissed as being “simply just” anything like this. society as a whole has this ridiculous tendency to be dismissive of bi-curiosity and people who feel a tie to this word, with such bullshit quips as “everyone’s a little bi!” similarly, people are quick to decide that someone isn’t bi…

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    Vesper H.

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness],  Queer[ness]

    Black Mirror: “San Junipero”

    July 6, 2017 / No Comments

    got home from work, made dinner and sat down to watch another episode of Black Mirror on Netflix before bed, as one does. was totally not prepared for what turned out not to be the queerbaiting i first assumed it to be, but to instead be a heart-wrenching queer romance between a bi / multiple gender attracted black woman and a gay woman exploring intimacy for the first time. not only was the story itself a tear-jerker, the characters themselves were well-developed and included quite possibly the most in-depth and positive representation that i’ve ever seen of a bi black woman character in particular in popular media. even consent– something that a lot of media doesn’t put enough thought into– was handled fairly well (imho) and the episode certainly explored things that other media tends to only dance around if touch upon at all, all crammed into a 60 minute…

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “[i] need help finding a word for my gender identity, if possible?”

    July 5, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: need help finding a word for my gender identity, if possible? agender was close, but its not that i dont have a gender, its that my gender is neutral. neutrois appears to be the closest thing, from the definitions ive seen. while i do have dysphoria & have thought abt certain aspects of transitioning, and a desire to be neutral in appearance – all aspects of definitions of neutrois ive seen – it appears to /require/ these things. and that heavy medical/clinical emphasis makes me v uncomfortable. oh, anon… if only you knew how ironic if feels to be on the receiving end of this ask. and in fact, i’ve been on the receiving end of an ask like this before. you aren’t alone in your discomfort. the irony, though? that i feel the same way and have felt this way since 2012, back when neutrois was much…

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  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “What’s the best way to tell him without ruining our relationship??”

    July 5, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: So I recently began flirting with a coworker as a joke, but then I thought maybe I was attracted to him. I invited him over and we talked and watched movies and then we started kissing and it was so nice and I felt so loved, but for the past week now I feel like I can’t even make eye contact with him bc I feel so awkward. I know I’m lithromantic, but I always hope that maybe I’m not whenever I’m attracted to someone. What’s the best way to tell him without ruining our relationship?? sorry for sitting on your ask for two months, anon. chances are that responding to it now won’t be of any use to you. on top of that, i’m also no good at giving relationship / communication advice, so apologies for that as well. having said all that, i’m generally a fan…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “So I got a very flirty personality. My flirting however is I’d say 90% non sexual…”

    July 3, 2017 / No Comments

    songsandtimetravel said: Ok. So I got a very flirty personality. My flirting however is I’d say 90% non sexual, and the other 10% is with the people I feel a mutual sexual “connection” with. I know that my friendliness have been confused with sexual attraction before with non-ace people. I love my personality but as I get more involved with the queer and non binary community I get get to know more Ace-people too, and I don’t want to come off as overly sexual or make them uncomfortable.Got any thoughts on what I can do?   sorry for taking so long getting back to you. not sure if you even still want to hear my thoughts, but… i think that the situation that you’ve found yourself in is reflective of an overarching problem within society as a whole rather than being reflective of a problem with flirting or your personality.…

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I was wondering if maverique individuals can sexually/medically transition.”

    July 3, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi! I currently started identifying as your term maverique and I was wondering if maverique individuals can sexually/medically transition. I’m DFAB and I used to identify as trans non binary hi! sorry for taking so long to get back to you. while the concept of “transitioning” by undergoing surgery and / or other pursuing other medical changes to one’s body is most commonly associated with (binary) transgender people, anyone of any gender can (and do) pursue these things. including maveriques.

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  • Japan[ese],  Q&A

    Q&A: “have you/would you ever made a vlog where you speak japanese?”

    July 2, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: have you/would you ever made a vlog where you speak japanese? i’m a japanese learner and aside from all of your other vlogs which are of personal interest to me, i thought it would be really cool to hear you speak japanese! (of course you’re not obligated to if you don’t want to ^^) also, do you have any tips on learning? i studied a bit in school but now i’m entirely self-studying and i feel like i’m hitting a plateau first off, thanks for watching my vlogs and sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. re: speaking Japanese in a future video i haven’t spoken Japanese in any of my videos to date and haven’t really given any thought to speaking Japanese in my vlogs since i know that 99% of my channel’s viewership doesn’t speak Japanese and may not be particularly interested in…

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  • YouTube Tokyo Pride Academy 2017
    YouTube Tokyo Pride Academy 2017
    Japan[ese],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    YouTube Pride Academy 2017

    July 1, 2017 / 1 Comment

    ever so aptly timed with YouTube’s second attempt at spotlighting LGBTQIA YouTube with the hashtag #ProudToBe, the first ever Pride Academy was held at YouTube Space Tokyo today. the name of the event itself being a play on one of YouTube’s programs for creators, Creator Academy. the event was aimed at encouraging and offering support to LGBTQIA people in Japan who might be interested in creating a channel on YouTube– regardless of the content that they chose to put on their channel. another aim of the event was to host a 交流会 (networking event) after the presentations in the hopes of fostering community among LGBTQIA youtubers in Japan by giving them a chance to meet each other. to that end, Google promoted the event at its booth during Tokyo Rainbow Pride this past May and i was pleasantly surprised to see the turn out, given the current state of LGBTQIA…

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    commentary: “Where Is The Asexual Representation in LGBTQ Pride?”

    June 10, 2017 / No Comments

    …i mean, i know i’m particularly depressed and irritable right now, but is it really too much to ask for people to not throw others under the bus like this while trying to get theirs (or in this case, ace-friendly brownie points)? whether a particular post, article– whatever is written by an ace or not, i am just as tired of the asexual community’s uncritical consumption and promotion of writing and publications like this as i am of aces themselves being the ones writing it. sigh.

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    bitter.

    June 2, 2017 / No Comments

    never not going to be bitter about having been essentially told to ‘shut up’ and ‘stay in my lane’ repeatedly by aro aces because i ‘already have enough [media] representation’, all based on them deciding for me that i’m an (allo)ro ace. let’s not forget the added irony that i am in fact not (allo)ro– the very premise of their claims which were subsequently used to fuel an inquisition against (allo)ro people in general, be they ace or not– but more importantly, i was being told this specifically over a show that is ripe with homophobic tropes, erases one of its lead characters’ bisexuality in addition to another lead character’s asexuality– all while simultaneously perpetrating biphobia; a show that also lacks a single non-binary character and in fact only has a couple of black characters because they were inserted into it as tokens. yeah, never going to not be bitter about that.

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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