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  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018 / 2 Comments

    note: this post has been ported over as-is from Tumblr for my own future reference. anonymous submitted: (i had a long question, so, i hope it’s ok to use submit instead of sending multiple asks.) as a disclaimer, i ask this as an ace person who usually just ids as queer ace or grey ace. i’m not asking to be combative or make anyone feel bad.

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    Vesper H.

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  • Japan[ese],  Q&A

    Q&A: what’s it like being a QPOC living in Japan?

    February 14, 2018 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: Hey! Since you’re living in Japan and are a Lgbt Person of colour, do you get discriminated or something like that? (Cuz You’re not white (asian) or because you’re lgbt+?) I want to move to Japan (or south korea) and I’m also a poc and Trans*, so I wanna know how it is to live there as a Lgbt+ Person of colour. (Sry for my english haha it’s not my first language~) hi. 🙂 ahhh, this is a complicated question with complicated answers, but the short of it is “yes” regarding discrimination / prejudice based on race and “yes and no” regarding discrimination / prejudice based on sexuality / gender. you might be interested in checking out my #black in japan tag and / or #LGBTQIA in Japan page for more information, but generally speaking… life for me in Japan may or may not be anything like what life for you…

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    …one of many examples of why navigating セクマイ / LGBTQIA spaces in Japan can be painful at times.

    October 7, 2016

    this quote though

    November 7, 2015

    …the things i do to not be a ひきこもり (その①)

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  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I thought that my feelings for a certain someone was platonic, but…”

    February 14, 2018 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: May I ask you a question? For a long time, I thought that my feelings for a certain someone was platonic, but after reading up some things you wrote (mainly, “romantic = wanting to be as close as possible physically”), I suddenly feel uncertain. I don’t know if I’m having a crush or a squish. The bottom line is that there is this person I’m fond to be with, and want to help out 24/7. I don’t want to be in a relationship with him but tbh I’ll take anything I can. What do you think? hi, anon. sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. you’re more than welcome to ask me a question, although i may not have an answer for you. before i respond with my thoughts regarding your situation, i feel the need to express confusion at having ever said what you’ve…

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A

    Q&A: “just wondering if anyone knew a good place to find safe binders for…”

    January 6, 2018 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: Hey, just wondering if anyone knew a good place to find safe binders for someone with really small ribs (only 28 inches around) but an extremely large chest (H+ cup) or if it was even possible? I’m getting surgery in a year and a half or so, but I have kind of awful dysphoria sometimes to the point I dissociate because it triggers my anxiety and then turns into “well that’s not you, that’s someone else, you’re not here” hi, anon. i’m afraid that i won’t be of much help to you as i can’t say that i’ve read any binder reviews, or heard of any explicit statements on the behalf of the companies that make them, about a binder being made with measurements like yours in mind. that said, i did a quick search and found this that may (or may not) be of help to you?…

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  • Q&A,  YouTube[r]

    Q&A: “what do you use for recording and editing your videos?”

    December 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: If you don’t mind my asking, what do you use for recording and editing your videos? I’ve thought about doing youtube before but have little idea of what kinds of equipment to invest in. i don’t mind at all, anon. actually, i wouldn’t recommend investing too much, if anything at all, into YouTube starting out. a lot of people have really strong intentions starting out and rush out to buy a nice camera, but end up not continuing with their channel for whatever unforseen reason. also, until you’ve actually given YouTube a try, it’s hard to know what exactly works best for you in terms of equipment, setup, etc. having said all that, to finally answer your question, i use some relatively high-end equipment that isn’t at all what i started out with, nor what i’d recommend to someone just starting out. i have a Canon 5D Mark…

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “…I can kind of relate to what your earlier post is about the representations of androgyny and nonbinary people…”

    December 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: hey I just wanted to say that I can kind of relate to what your earlier post is about, not in that i’m black but in that i’m amab and the representations of androgyny and nonbinary people I see tend to be of a white, slim, crew cut hair cut with afab secondary sex characteristics, like a white pre-t trans man. my face is distincitvely male so it’s really not possible for me to pull off that look you were talking about because I can’t fit into that narrow somewhat accepted box. I might be getting a bit philosphical but I think that society see things in categories, like the light spectrum, even though there are infinite shades we demarcate them into 8 colours, in the past lgbt was pretty much all the colours there were, now there’s lgbtqia+. So if it’s any consolation as someone who is…

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  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I identify as homoflexible, it’s what fits me best, but I didn’t realize it was biphobic…”

    December 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said Hi I saw your post about homoflexibility and I wanted to ask you about it. I think I identify as homoflexible, it’s what fits me best, but I didn’t realize it was biphobic and I’m really freaked out because I don’t want to be biphobic it’s just what fits me best. I don’t consider myself bi because while I occasionally can have attraction to guys I don’t want a relationship(or sex) with a guy, I just don’t. But I’m not a lesbian either because I can occasionally experience attraction to guys. hi anon, first of all, sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. i hope you’re well. i’m guessing that the post that you’re referring to is this one? as i tried to make clear in the original post, i was only voicing my own personal qualms with common definitions of homoflexible (and heteroflexible) and…

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    May 7, 2017
  • Feedback

    Feedback: “I love your cat”

    November 28, 2017 /

    anonymous said: I love your cat

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

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    Feedback: “I’m really glad you’re here…”

    November 28, 2017 /

    anonymous said: I’m really glad you’re here, and for your blog. Thank you for sharing your work and ideas with all of us. you’re too kind, anon. thank you. <3

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A

    Q&A: “Are there any gender-inclusive terms that can take the place of “ma’am” and “sir”…”

    November 19, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Are there any gender-inclusive terms that can take the place of “ma’am” and “sir” when trying to get someone’s attention? Or for addressing people when you need to be extra polite. I haven’t had any luck finding one. “Hey, you” doesn’t quite cut it. i usually just drop such words entirely rather than attempt to replace them. “excuse me, sir / ma’am.” “pardon me, sir / ma’am.” “i’m sorry, sir / ma’am, but do you…?” in writing, you could replace “sir / ma’am” with “mx” (pronounced ‘mix’), but in a verbal situation that calls for politeness, that’s probably not the way to go. anyone else have any suggestions for anon?

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VESPER H.

YouTuber & Blogger

Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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