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  • Hitachinaka Matsuri 2018 . i think this was the last 祭り/festival that i got to see before leaving Japan... but at least i got to see it with @nonbinaryish.
  • 「迷い道」 . ...i really miss the 雰囲気 of urban jungles like Tokyo... ;( . . . . . . . . #tokyo #japan #igersjp #urbanexploration #urbanphotography #urbanjungle #citylife #citylights #nightlife #cityview #bw_captures #bw_lover #bnw_society #bnwmood #bnw_captures #新橋 #東京 #光 #夜景 #モノクロ #白黒
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  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018 / 2 Comments

    note: this post has been ported over as-is from Tumblr for my own future reference. anonymous submitted: (i had a long question, so, i hope it’s ok to use submit instead of sending multiple asks.) as a disclaimer, i ask this as an ace person who usually just ids as queer ace or grey ace. i’m not asking to be combative or make anyone feel bad.

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    Vesper H.

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  • Japan[ese],  Q&A

    Q&A: communication in Japan

    February 19, 2018 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: hi, ive sent you a question before about worrying of getting into the jet program and before i could finish my application one of the two big eikawas i applied to wanted to hire me on the spot! im leaving at the start of march im excited and have done my research but im worried about communication between me and my japanese co workers, being american i p much am a really direct person and i know japan isnt like that from living there for a few months, so do you have any advice on communication? ( re: this post ) congrats!! and 久しぶりです。 thanks for coming back and sharing the good news. 🙂 when it comes to advice, as i said to a recent anon, every situation is different. in fact, especially when it comes to advice, your mileage will vary no matter what i tell you,…

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    Vesper H.

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    December 30, 2014
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A

    Q&A: non-binary and dealing with one’s monthly cycle

    February 14, 2018 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: Hello. I’m nonbinary and i been trying to think of ways to deal with the monthly cycle and the fact that i dont want to birth kids but still want the option of a 2 in the future if i can. So i want something that doesn’t mean birth control or and i dont wanna take T(still undecided but leaning to no)&I was on birth control but it messed with my hormones&health to much so i feel like it isnt an option anymore. But im scared of pregnacy and i know I can’t handle that. What’s a better option? cw: menstruation, pregnancy, child birth hi. 🙂 i wish i could think of a better option, but no alternative is coming to mind at the moment… i feel like in the interest of keeping child bearing open as an option in the future, dealing with monthly hell and avoiding…

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    Vesper H.

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    October 18, 2016
  • Japan[ese],  Q&A

    Q&A: what’s it like being a QPOC living in Japan?

    February 14, 2018 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: Hey! Since you’re living in Japan and are a Lgbt Person of colour, do you get discriminated or something like that? (Cuz You’re not white (asian) or because you’re lgbt+?) I want to move to Japan (or south korea) and I’m also a poc and Trans*, so I wanna know how it is to live there as a Lgbt+ Person of colour. (Sry for my english haha it’s not my first language~) hi. 🙂 ahhh, this is a complicated question with complicated answers, but the short of it is “yes” regarding discrimination / prejudice based on race and “yes and no” regarding discrimination / prejudice based on sexuality / gender. you might be interested in checking out my #black in japan tag and / or #LGBTQIA in Japan page for more information, but generally speaking… life for me in Japan may or may not be anything like what life for you…

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    Vesper H.

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    July 31, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Japan[ese],  Q&A

    Q&A: “I share very similar feelings on the topic of asexuality [in Japan]….”

    February 14, 2018 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: I share very similar feelings on the topic of asexuality. I am also an asexual living in Japan, and I’m embarrassed to admit that I just recently learned the words and meanings for Aセクシュアル and ノンセクシュアル. Since I am not aromantic, that would mean I’m “nonsexual,” but I feel like the “A”/”ace”/”asexual” word itself is a big part of my identity. I feel a little upset over it. I want to still identify as asexual, but I also don’t want to confuse and have to explain thoroughly everytime. Thoughts? Ty! (for those interested, see: [ these ] [ relevant ] [ posts ] and [ this page ] of links) i felt and still feel the same way, so i just use Aセクシャル / アセクシャル / Aセク and deal with whatever confusion or misunderstanding may eventually result from that on a case-by-case basis. that, or i straight up…

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    May 1, 2019
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I thought that my feelings for a certain someone was platonic, but…”

    February 14, 2018 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: May I ask you a question? For a long time, I thought that my feelings for a certain someone was platonic, but after reading up some things you wrote (mainly, “romantic = wanting to be as close as possible physically”), I suddenly feel uncertain. I don’t know if I’m having a crush or a squish. The bottom line is that there is this person I’m fond to be with, and want to help out 24/7. I don’t want to be in a relationship with him but tbh I’ll take anything I can. What do you think? hi, anon. sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. you’re more than welcome to ask me a question, although i may not have an answer for you. before i respond with my thoughts regarding your situation, i feel the need to express confusion at having ever said what you’ve…

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    Vesper H.

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A

    Q&A: “just wondering if anyone knew a good place to find safe binders for…”

    January 6, 2018 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: Hey, just wondering if anyone knew a good place to find safe binders for someone with really small ribs (only 28 inches around) but an extremely large chest (H+ cup) or if it was even possible? I’m getting surgery in a year and a half or so, but I have kind of awful dysphoria sometimes to the point I dissociate because it triggers my anxiety and then turns into “well that’s not you, that’s someone else, you’re not here” hi, anon. i’m afraid that i won’t be of much help to you as i can’t say that i’ve read any binder reviews, or heard of any explicit statements on the behalf of the companies that make them, about a binder being made with measurements like yours in mind. that said, i did a quick search and found this that may (or may not) be of help to you?…

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    Vesper H.

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  • Feedback,  Q&A

    Feedback: “Just wanted to drop by and say that I love your youtube channel!”

    January 6, 2018 /

    anonymous said: Just wanted to drop by and say that I love your youtube channel! I really like the way that you narrate topics, and put them into a very plain, digestible, and easy to understand manner. When coming out to friends I have actually linked them to some of your videos for better definition and clarity. Please keep up the good work. Wishing you all the best in 2018 ? thanks for dropping by and leaving such a kind message. i really am flattered that you’ve found my channel helpful enough to have shared my videos with others. happy new year and best wishes to you too. 🙂

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Art[sy Fartsy],  Q&A

    Q&A: “You like photography!?…”

    December 24, 2017 / No Comments

    @citricsunshine said: You like photography!? 8D What do you like to take pictures of? (besides your cat of course, who is super cute!) thanks. 🙂 i usually take photos of: ? architecture   ? nature   ? cityscape     ? patterns / shapes  

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “I don’t have any interest in a romantic or sexual relationship, but I know I can feel romantic attraction…”

    December 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi Vesper. I’m pretty certain that I like on both the aro- and Ace-spectrums; I’m not exactly sure where, but I’m not comfortable using the q word (I’m not sure what your blog’s policy in the word is, but better safe than sorry). I don’t have any interest in a romantic or sexual relationship, but I know I can feel romantic attraction. I’ve recently started just describing myself as “basically Aroace” and was wondering what your thoughts on the acceptability of this are. my opinion is that you should and have every right to use whatever words feel comfortable for you in describing yourself and that any and all consideration given to the “acceptability” of it can and should get the fuck out of your way if its making things difficult or uncomfortable for you, but that’s just me. having only gotten 6ish hours of sleep over the…

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    February 23, 2016
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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  • Hitachinaka Matsuri 2018 . i think this was the last 祭り/festival that i got to see before leaving Japan... but at least i got to see it with @nonbinaryish.
  • STORMcell . . . . . . . . . . . . #clouds #cloudscape #storm #weather #sky #ig_skylovers #instasky #instaclouds #blackandwhite #bnwmood #bw_captures #bnw_society #bw_photooftheday #yokohama #桜木町 #横浜 #モノクロ #白黒
  • 「迷い道」 . ...i really miss the 雰囲気 of urban jungles like Tokyo... ;( . . . . . . . . #tokyo #japan #igersjp #urbanexploration #urbanphotography #urbanjungle #citylife #citylights #nightlife #cityview #bw_captures #bw_lover #bnw_society #bnwmood #bnw_captures #新橋 #東京 #光 #夜景 #モノクロ #白黒
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