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  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “What’s the best way to tell him without ruining our relationship??”

    July 5, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: So I recently began flirting with a coworker as a joke, but then I thought maybe I was attracted to him. I invited him over and we talked and watched movies and then we started kissing and it was so nice and I felt so loved, but for the past week now I feel like I can’t even make eye contact with him bc I feel so awkward. I know I’m lithromantic, but I always hope that maybe I’m not whenever I’m attracted to someone. What’s the best way to tell him without ruining our relationship?? sorry for sitting on your ask for two months, anon. chances are that responding to it now won’t be of any use to you. on top of that, i’m also no good at giving relationship / communication advice, so apologies for that as well. having said all that, i’m generally a fan…

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    Vesper H.

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    May 25, 2016
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “So I got a very flirty personality. My flirting however is I’d say 90% non sexual…”

    July 3, 2017 / No Comments

    songsandtimetravel said: Ok. So I got a very flirty personality. My flirting however is I’d say 90% non sexual, and the other 10% is with the people I feel a mutual sexual “connection” with. I know that my friendliness have been confused with sexual attraction before with non-ace people. I love my personality but as I get more involved with the queer and non binary community I get get to know more Ace-people too, and I don’t want to come off as overly sexual or make them uncomfortable.Got any thoughts on what I can do?   sorry for taking so long getting back to you. not sure if you even still want to hear my thoughts, but… i think that the situation that you’ve found yourself in is reflective of an overarching problem within society as a whole rather than being reflective of a problem with flirting or your personality.…

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I was wondering if maverique individuals can sexually/medically transition.”

    July 3, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi! I currently started identifying as your term maverique and I was wondering if maverique individuals can sexually/medically transition. I’m DFAB and I used to identify as trans non binary hi! sorry for taking so long to get back to you. while the concept of “transitioning” by undergoing surgery and / or other pursuing other medical changes to one’s body is most commonly associated with (binary) transgender people, anyone of any gender can (and do) pursue these things. including maveriques.

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    QAC 21 – Gender Identity & Feminism

    January 3, 2014

    …the things i do to not be a ひきこもり (その①)

    March 11, 2016

    …annnd that’s a wrap!

    May 7, 2017
  • Japan[ese],  Q&A

    Q&A: “have you/would you ever made a vlog where you speak japanese?”

    July 2, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: have you/would you ever made a vlog where you speak japanese? i’m a japanese learner and aside from all of your other vlogs which are of personal interest to me, i thought it would be really cool to hear you speak japanese! (of course you’re not obligated to if you don’t want to ^^) also, do you have any tips on learning? i studied a bit in school but now i’m entirely self-studying and i feel like i’m hitting a plateau first off, thanks for watching my vlogs and sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. re: speaking Japanese in a future video i haven’t spoken Japanese in any of my videos to date and haven’t really given any thought to speaking Japanese in my vlogs since i know that 99% of my channel’s viewership doesn’t speak Japanese and may not be particularly interested in…

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    spotted: same-gender marriage feature on Japanese news

    October 12, 2015

    Ace & Non-binary Pride @Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2015 (04/26/15)

    May 10, 2015

    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2015 (4/26/15)

    May 10, 2015
  • YouTube Tokyo Pride Academy 2017
    YouTube Tokyo Pride Academy 2017
    Japan[ese],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    YouTube Pride Academy 2017

    July 1, 2017 / 1 Comment

    ever so aptly timed with YouTube’s second attempt at spotlighting LGBTQIA YouTube with the hashtag #ProudToBe, the first ever Pride Academy was held at YouTube Space Tokyo today. the name of the event itself being a play on one of YouTube’s programs for creators, Creator Academy. the event was aimed at encouraging and offering support to LGBTQIA people in Japan who might be interested in creating a channel on YouTube– regardless of the content that they chose to put on their channel. another aim of the event was to host a 交流会 (networking event) after the presentations in the hopes of fostering community among LGBTQIA youtubers in Japan by giving them a chance to meet each other. to that end, Google promoted the event at its booth during Tokyo Rainbow Pride this past May and i was pleasantly surprised to see the turn out, given the current state of LGBTQIA…

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    September 1, 2016

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    November 15, 2013
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    commentary: “Where Is The Asexual Representation in LGBTQ Pride?”

    June 10, 2017 / No Comments

    …i mean, i know i’m particularly depressed and irritable right now, but is it really too much to ask for people to not throw others under the bus like this while trying to get theirs (or in this case, ace-friendly brownie points)? whether a particular post, article– whatever is written by an ace or not, i am just as tired of the asexual community’s uncritical consumption and promotion of writing and publications like this as i am of aces themselves being the ones writing it. sigh.

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    bitter.

    June 2, 2017 / No Comments

    never not going to be bitter about having been essentially told to ‘shut up’ and ‘stay in my lane’ repeatedly by aro aces because i ‘already have enough [media] representation’, all based on them deciding for me that i’m an (allo)ro ace. let’s not forget the added irony that i am in fact not (allo)ro– the very premise of their claims which were subsequently used to fuel an inquisition against (allo)ro people in general, be they ace or not– but more importantly, i was being told this specifically over a show that is ripe with homophobic tropes, erases one of its lead characters’ bisexuality in addition to another lead character’s asexuality– all while simultaneously perpetrating biphobia; a show that also lacks a single non-binary character and in fact only has a couple of black characters because they were inserted into it as tokens. yeah, never going to not be bitter about that.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016

    Documentary Explores The Reality Of Being Black And Gay In The Church

    November 14, 2015

    QAC 35 – Body Image: An Intersection of Black, Non-binary & Asexual Identity

    March 16, 2015
  • Mental [Un]health,  Uncategorized,  YouTube[r]

    …the state of this blog, basically.

    May 28, 2017 / 1 Comment

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    QAC 58 – Escaping Womanhood || Non-Binary | AFAB | Internalized Misogyny

    August 16, 2017

    landscapes and fissures: navigating ace terminology in Japanese & English

    June 1, 2018
  • [A]sexuality,  Black[ness],  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    #DoTell Podcast: QueerAsCat (Interview)

    May 24, 2017 / No Comments

    nearly a year ago i sat down for an interview with the amazing Dandy of @dotellpodcast​, a podcast that was created to make a safe space for queer people of color to tell their stories. each week a new episode featuring someone’s intensely personal story is released and this week’s episode is mine. while i certainly wouldn’t hesitate to recommend any one of the other episodes of the #DoTell Podcast, especially to fellow QPOC looking to hear the stories of other QPOC, i can’t help but feel obligated to forewarn you that my episode is fifty-some-odd minutes of me quite literally spilling my guts to the world… and i absolutely will not be offended if you find my guts to be uninteresting and would prefer to tippy-toe through it. as such, here are few jump points? 00:00 ~ introduction 03:34 ~ how i ended up in Japan 05:01 ~ dysfunctional…

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    spotted: LGBT 101 on Japanese TV

    February 21, 2015

    QAC 73 – 【Asexuality In JAPAN】An Interview ♠【アセクシャルって?】日本x英語圏  || #AAW2018

    October 26, 2018

    fuck your Oppression Olympics

    September 15, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    Japanese gender / queer theory, anyone?

    May 22, 2017 / No Comments

    …so i randomly went to Book Off (used bookstore) today after work and happened to find two used books on gender studies / gender theory that not only ① explicitly discuss binarism and how society ignores those who are neither of the binary genders (male / female) nor either of the binary sexualities (gay / straight)– there’s also ② explicit mention of asexuality and the alphabet soup where the acronym LGBTIAQ is used and I is defined as “Intersex”, A as “Asexual” and Q as “Queer”. notably, these books were published in ① 2013 & ② 2006 and are original works by Japanese authors rather than books imported into Japan and translated into Japanese. below are super rough (because i’m starving, exhausted and need to go to bed damnit) English translations for the above snippets.

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    October 12, 2013

    …mmm, so.

    March 24, 2017

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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