rant: name change + expat pains
the desire to legally change my name to Vesper is steadily growing….. but the more i think about the actual process, the more i curse being an expat. ;( being an expat makes so many things dually difficult.
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that feel when…
….you think about how impossible it is to “pass” as a non-binary person.
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totally random Yukihari / hazardaĵo pri Yukihari
does anyone else do this and it really piss you off that you do? talk in a ridiculously high voice and use wordage you’d otherwise NEVER use because you’re: talking to an animal talking to a young child/baby working a customer service job goddamn society conditioning me to do crap i detest, making it so hard for me to NOT automatically do it. i nearly deleted this video as soon as i saw it because my voice etc really disgusts me, but then i couldn’t delete Yuki’s cuteness. ;(
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maverique: why i coined the word
there are words being coined for this and that all the time, especially on Tumblr, so i feel like i should explain why i’ve coined the word “maverique” and why i feel like the word “neutrois” is no longer enough for me. before i begin, however, i want to make it clear that i am NOT coining a gender identity. i am simply coining a word and applying it to an already existent gender which the English language currently lacks a word for. genders themselves are not coined nor invented. my gender has never changed; i have always been the gender that i am. what’s changing is the word i use to describe that gender because now, finally, i have a word that is more accurate. i have identified as neutrois for over a year… why am i changing that now? how is maverique different and why is neutrois no longer enough?
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“the faces of Vesper”
one day the locs that frame my face will be gone and i can’t help but wonder if i’ll even recognize my own face without them— they’ve become such A Thing. either way, the love-hate relationship with my hair continues for now…
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“maverique” v1.0
….this is me attempting to further define my own gender while phrasing it in such a way that assumes that there may be others out there who have a similar gender identity and who may someday like to use this term for themselves. a huge assumption on my part.
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the privilege of ethnic identity
all too often people take for granted the fact that they know their family history, can trace their heritage and are able to identify as a member of an ethnic group (or ethnic groups) with any sort of conviction beyond appearance.
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The Neutrois “Standard”
so, there’s a thread on AVEN that opens like this… A new (to me) concept was recently thrown in my path. It’s the idea that there are sex orientations as well as gender orientations; ie that sex is not strictly what you physically look like, but what you want to look like (sexual characteristics-wise). For example, neutrois would count as a sex orientation, not a gender one; neutrois, as I understand it, is a desire to present as neutrally as possible, with the characteristics of neither binary sex. However, agender and genderless are gender orientations, because they specifically refer to the construct of gender, not physical aspects. This made a lot of sense to me, intuitively. It allows us to think of a single person as both neutrois and agender, to follow the above examples. Or neutrois and demi-guy, or androgynous man, or female agender, or any combination. I’m wondering how many…
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QAC 21 – Gender Identity & Feminism
i’ve never identified as a feminist and yet when it came to questioning my gender identity i somehow felt guilty for wanting to identify as anything other than my assigned gender, ie female. was i betraying myself? someone else? women everywhere?? i guess my relationship with feminism was and will always be more complicated than i’d thought. surely it’s not just me?
