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[A]sexuality, Gender[queer], Mental [Un]health, Queer[ness], YouTube[r]

QAC 34 – Distancing Yourself From Family

February 16, 2015 / No Comments

dealing with family can be tough. really tough. it took many years for me to finally realize and admit to myself that i have been coping by physically distancing myself from my family and this has actually helped me a lot over the years. to those of you out there struggling while living with your family, i hope this video will be of encouragement to you. no matter how bleak things may seem at times, stay strong. you can get through it! i had no idea what to do for this video’s thumbnail, so there you go.

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Vesper H.

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a convo with 10yo students (100% unedited)

December 28, 2014 / No Comments

student K: sensei, do you have kids? me: ….??? NO. student K: why not? me: because i don’t. do your work. student K: sensei, you’re almost 30! you have to get married! me: …..why do you remember my age and why are /you/ telling me this??? student K: *cheeky grin* because everyone gets married and has kids by 30, of course! students H & D: *nod in agreement* me: ……… *face in hand*

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Vesper H.

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QAC 32 – Get To Know Me! (Self-Intro + Q&A)

December 1, 2014 / No Comments

it’s been over a year since i made this channel about being non-binary, queer, panromantic / biromantic asexual and a person of color, but there’s more to me than just my gender, sexuality and ethnicity. mind getting to know me a little? i’ve even added timestamps to make doing so easier. 😉 ======= Navigation ======== @00:00 – Channel introduction @00:39 – About me ========= Q & A ========= @03:00 – What are your favorite books/literature/authors? @04:02 – Who’re your top 3 musical artists? @04:26 – What are your favorite anime series or manga? @05:13 – Do you/did you play any instruments? @6:16 – What inspires you? @7:59 – Any dreams for the future? @08:50 – Do you consider yourself African American or just American or what? @10:46 – Is Japan expensive? @11:16 – What’s your other YouTube channel? @11:54 – What’s been the most difficult thing about living in Japan?…

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Vesper H.

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QAC 31 – Relationships… Meh.

November 17, 2014 / No Comments

in this video i think aloud about past relationships (friendships & romantic), social normative bullshit, international relationships and the future. the topic of relationships is something that at this point in my life i don’t care to think much about, let alone talk about, but i gave it a try. perhaps i’m somewhere among the gray-aromantic spectrum in addition to being biromantic / panromantic…? meh. more stuff i don’t feel like facing atm. for more information about types of attraction and/or romantic orientations, watch this video: http://youtu.be/Gi1AoGmo84o

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Vesper H.

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QAC 03 – Romantic Orientations & Other Types of Attraction
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ANNOYING.

September 24, 2014 / No Comments

…that feel when some random guy chats you up while you’re sitting around in some government building for hours (ie. a DMV) so you have literally no means of escape and eventually he manages to get contact info out of you because you’re too nice and then he starts messaging you and flirting and you just want him to stop and go away because it’s annoyinnnnng.

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Vesper H.

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QAC 29 – (Not) Coping + 3 More Years in Japan

August 24, 2014 / No Comments

coping with dysphoria and being in the closet is tough for anyone, right? but as things are now, am i really coping at all or am i just setting myself up for disaster in the future? after all, going through life numb to your own feelings and thoughts can’t be a good thing… and on top of this, i’ve just signed a contract sentencing myself to 3 more years of dysphoria and life in the closet. i must be insane?

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Vesper H.

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for the umpteenth time

August 14, 2014 / No Comments

…god, America is so full of crap. pisses me off…

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Vesper H.

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…therapy smerapy!

August 3, 2014 / No Comments

so lately i’ve been thinking about therapy. part of me thinks that it might be a good idea. another part of me is convinced that it’s a pointless waste of money when i need to be saving money, plus i don’t /need/ therapy anyway, so why bother? i can’t seem to come to any decision. meh.

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Vesper H.

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QAC 28 – On “Blackness”, Queer Identity & Intersectionality (a rant)

July 14, 2014 / No Comments

i’m all over the place in this video. i rant about my personal experiences with the policing that takes place within the black community, concepts of “blackness” (and in turn, “whitewashing”) in the black community, being a black asexual, fears of transitioning as a black non-binary person, being black abroad and intersectionality, to varying degrees. i’m sure i’ll get ill feelings directed at me for some of the feelings and views expressed in this video, but whatever. my feelings and experiences are what they are and they needed to be (and deserve to be) expressed. that said, got your own personal experiences with race/ethnicity and sexuality/gender that you’d like to share? i’d love to hear about them. 🙂 sigh! this is why i don’t generally talk about this kind of stuff. “too much feels”…

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Vesper H.

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QAC 27 – Goodbye Neutrois, Hello Maverique (ie. me changing labels)

July 7, 2014 / No Comments

my gender identity may be changing, but my gender itself is not. in this video i blurb about why i no longer identify as neutrois and instead have coined a new gender identity: maverique. what is maverique? http://maveriques.tumblr.com/maverique my issues with some people’s use of neutrois: http://bit.ly/1oqQMXK basically a verbal rehashing of this post for the YouTube crowd. see also: a noteable discussion that stemmed from this video [ 1 ] + [ 2 ] + [ 3 ]

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Vesper H.

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