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  • Q&A

    Q&A not Q&A: “a person told me that I was “stealing other experiences” and “hurting other people that felt that way…”

    September 24, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I have used the label neutrois for a a time now, but now I am using demiguy. I add that people could consider me a trans man now. I announce this decision on a group in facebook and a person told me that I was “stealing other experiences” and “hurting other people that felt that way” I said I was experimenting with label until I can find the one that “stick” and they think is a whim.   not only is that person trying to invalidate your identity, they also seem to be trying to guilt trip you by suggesting that you are somehow hurting other people. gender/identity police and would-be gatekeepers are such asshats, i swear. i’m sorry that you’re dealing with a person (or even people) like this. for one, you are not “stealing” anything. no one owns nor has a monopoly on what it means to…

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    Vesper H.

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    April 5, 2018

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Is it normal to go back and forth on my sexuality?”

    July 10, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Is it normal to go back and forth on my sexuality? Like for a year claim im bi, then like turn around and the next year say im a lesbian but then question it again 2 years later?…   not everyone is always (or ever) 100% certain of their sexuality. sexuality is very, very complex. hell, for some people it even changes over time. as such, some people question their sexuality for months or years, some people are perpetually in a state of uncertainty and some eventually identify as one thing or another only to question that identity again down the road. and all of this is 100% ok. there is nothing wrong with or strange about questioning one’s sexuality. there is nothing wrong with changing the word(s) you use to describe yourself, no matter how many times you do it. regardless of whether it is just the…

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018
  • Feedback,  Q&A

    Q&A not Q&A: “For the longest time, I identified as demiro, for a pretty similar reason.”

    April 4, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: For the longest time, I identified as demiro, for a pretty similar reason. I never understood romance for what it apparently is– I don’t now, either– but I have always had pretty intense squishes. Romance seemed like the “answer”– a grown-up, committed relationship, more than friendship. But, similar to what you’ve said, I was never the one to initiate it. My confusion really culminated when my romantic partner way back when told me that he loved me, and I…just couldn’t say it back. I got even more confused later as I kept seeing these squishes as romance, questioning my “sexuality” as I developed one on a same-gendered friend, who later shot me down horribly. Another relationship revealed that I thought of my partner as a sibling, not as anything romantic. I’m in a QPR now, after figuring things out “enough,” but there’s still a lot of confusion; I still…

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 27 – Goodbye Neutrois, Hello Maverique (ie. me changing labels)

    July 7, 2014 / No Comments

    my gender identity may be changing, but my gender itself is not. in this video i blurb about why i no longer identify as neutrois and instead have coined a new gender identity: maverique. what is maverique? http://maveriques.tumblr.com/maverique my issues with some people’s use of neutrois: http://bit.ly/1oqQMXK basically a verbal rehashing of this post for the YouTube crowd. see also: a noteable discussion that stemmed from this video [ 1 ] + [ 2 ] + [ 3 ]

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    Vesper H.

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    December 30, 2016

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    November 17, 2014

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    May 15, 2016
  • Art[sy Fartsy],  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    the maverique flag

    June 16, 2014 / No Comments

    this is the flag that i’ve designed for maverique, the gender i’ve recently coined. the “short & sweet” explanation of the colors is: yellow (#fff344): primary/elementary* gender; non-binary gender white (#ffffff): autonomy; independence orange (#f49622): inner conviction; maverick but of course there is much more to the meanings and color selections than that. yellow is a primary color (see: subtractive color / CMYK), meaning that it isn’t obtainable from combining any other colors and thus is entirely independent from the other primary colors, cyan (blue) and magenta (pink). *i feel that this is the perfect analogy for maverique’s relationship to male/masculinity and female/femininity. yellow is also often associated with non-binary gender. white represents autonomy or independence from the gender binary and even from the spectrum of colors (genders) created by combinations of cyan/blue (male/masculinity) and magenta/pink (female/femininity). white represents the figurative blank gender slate upon which maverique is based. orange represents the deep, burning inner conviction that a maverique feels in…

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    Vesper H.

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    February 15, 2015

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    February 15, 2015
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    maverique: why i coined the word

    June 16, 2014 / 2 Comments

    there are words being coined for this and that all the time, especially on Tumblr, so i feel like i should explain why i’ve coined the word “maverique” and why i feel like the word “neutrois” is no longer enough for me. before i begin, however, i want to make it clear that i am NOT coining a gender identity. i am simply coining a word and applying it to an already existent gender which the English language currently lacks a word for. genders themselves are not coined nor invented. my gender has never changed; i have always been the gender that i am. what’s changing is the word i use to describe that gender because now, finally, i have a word that is more accurate. i have identified as neutrois for over a year… why am i changing that now? how is maverique different and why is neutrois no longer enough?

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    Vesper H.

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    November 28, 2017

    re: gaslighting in the aftermath of the 2016 US presidential election

    November 19, 2016

    『[4コマ]☆AセクシュアルとAce(エース)☆』

    July 27, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    hmm….

    June 15, 2014 / No Comments

    so i just stumbled upon a new gender that has recently been coined by someone else called “aporagender”. aporagender: Aporagender is a term newly coined, meaning a gender separate from male, female, and anything in between while still having a very strong and specific gendered feeling. I have a checklist for if your gender if aporagender: Your sense of gender is stronger than that is “normal” (I hate saying normal to describe this but I can’t think of a better way to do it) Your gender is completely and totally not male or female and while i like it (it’s actually similar to the gender i’m coining, maverique), i agree with lithrobotics about the problematic wording. wtf does having a sense of gender that’s stronger than “normal”, “average” whatever word you want to use even mean? this is highly presumptive, arbitrary and meaningless. sorry, creator of this word. i also agree about the use of “checklist”. i didn’t…

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    Vesper H.

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    January 2, 2017

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    July 4, 2018

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    September 18, 2017
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    “maverique” v2.0

    June 15, 2014 / No Comments

    [ edit: please see the reworded definition here. ] a faded yellow, white and orange pride flag on which black text reads: maverique /mav ˈrēk/ franglais coined by Vesper H. from the English eponym “maverick” and the French suffix “-ique”. pronounciation is “mav-REEK”,  rhyming with “antique”. a non-binary gender characterized by autonomy and inner conviction regarding a sense of gender which is unorthodox, unconventional and entirely independent of conventional concepts of gender. this is an updated description of maverique with the (current) design of the maverique flag faded in the background for ease of reading. i’m trying to keep things shorter and concise compared to the last version, but in doing so i feel like i may be making this more difficult for others to understand…. feedback would be much appreciated. :/

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    Vesper H.

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    QAC 48 – Non-Binary Gender Norms & (A)sexuality: Yeah, No.

    March 27, 2016

    『[4コマ]☆ノンセクシュアル☆』

    May 25, 2016

    willpower, sweat, and tears

    January 30, 2020
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    “maverique” v1.0

    June 1, 2014 / 1 Comment

    ….this is me attempting to further define my own gender while phrasing it in such a way that assumes that there may be others out there who have a similar gender identity and who may someday like to use this term for themselves. a huge assumption on my part.

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    Vesper H.

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    November 19, 2016

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  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 24 – Labels: Why They’re Important + Why I Use Them

    March 17, 2014 / No Comments

    a blurb about labels, their importance and why i use them. because i talk too damn much: @00:00 – update about my mom @00:52 – labels: more than just identity @05:22 – labels can suck @07:08 – why labels are important & why i use them i’m a little crazy in the beginning, but i swear i start making sense towards the end. ;(  

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    Vesper H.

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    March 20, 2017

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    April 5, 2018

    QAC 71 – Testosterone, Libido & Asexuality: Has HRT Changed My Sexuality? || The T Files #009

    July 9, 2018
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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