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QAC 74 – 1 Year on HRT: Non-Binary Dysphoria | Euphoria | “Passing” || The T Files #010

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January 3, 2019

allo by default: hypocrisy in “aspec” spaces

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February 25, 2017

Sixty-six // Thirty-three

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December 22, 2018

5 years and counting…

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May 14, 2018

Burnt Out & Neurotic: The Toll of Blogging While Ace and Mentally Ill

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December 26, 2018
  • Black[ness],  Queer[ness]

    Preference Or Prejudice? | Queer Britain – Episode 4

    January 6, 2018 / No Comments

    blaqueer:   From a mixed-race household with Middle Eastern and Irish heritage, Riyadh – with his unusual name and fair complexion – knows first-hand how judgemental the gay community online can be. With his perceived ‘white privilege’, he explores the casual racism in the LGBTQ+ community and asks, when does preference become prejudice? Queer Britain is a six-part series, and new episodes will be released each Sunday morning. cw: blatant racism, sexual objectification, explicit genitalia & sex talk… mind your triggers. there was one part of this where i had to pause the video (multiple times) and silently scream streams of expletives. guess when that was. come on, i dare you. suffice it to say that by the time the episode finally moved on from focusing on the gay scene, i was legit relieved. even so, residual silent screaming.

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    Vesper H.

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A

    Q&A: “just wondering if anyone knew a good place to find safe binders for…”

    January 6, 2018 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: Hey, just wondering if anyone knew a good place to find safe binders for someone with really small ribs (only 28 inches around) but an extremely large chest (H+ cup) or if it was even possible? I’m getting surgery in a year and a half or so, but I have kind of awful dysphoria sometimes to the point I dissociate because it triggers my anxiety and then turns into “well that’s not you, that’s someone else, you’re not here” hi, anon. i’m afraid that i won’t be of much help to you as i can’t say that i’ve read any binder reviews, or heard of any explicit statements on the behalf of the companies that make them, about a binder being made with measurements like yours in mind. that said, i did a quick search and found this that may (or may not) be of help to you?…

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  • Feedback,  Q&A

    Feedback: “Just wanted to drop by and say that I love your youtube channel!”

    January 6, 2018 /

    anonymous said: Just wanted to drop by and say that I love your youtube channel! I really like the way that you narrate topics, and put them into a very plain, digestible, and easy to understand manner. When coming out to friends I have actually linked them to some of your videos for better definition and clarity. Please keep up the good work. Wishing you all the best in 2018 ? thanks for dropping by and leaving such a kind message. i really am flattered that you’ve found my channel helpful enough to have shared my videos with others. happy new year and best wishes to you too. 🙂

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Art[sy Fartsy],  Q&A

    Q&A: “You like photography!?…”

    December 24, 2017 / No Comments

    @citricsunshine said: You like photography!? 8D What do you like to take pictures of? (besides your cat of course, who is super cute!) thanks. 🙂 i usually take photos of: ? architecture   ? nature   ? cityscape     ? patterns / shapes  

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “I don’t have any interest in a romantic or sexual relationship, but I know I can feel romantic attraction…”

    December 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi Vesper. I’m pretty certain that I like on both the aro- and Ace-spectrums; I’m not exactly sure where, but I’m not comfortable using the q word (I’m not sure what your blog’s policy in the word is, but better safe than sorry). I don’t have any interest in a romantic or sexual relationship, but I know I can feel romantic attraction. I’ve recently started just describing myself as “basically Aroace” and was wondering what your thoughts on the acceptability of this are. my opinion is that you should and have every right to use whatever words feel comfortable for you in describing yourself and that any and all consideration given to the “acceptability” of it can and should get the fuck out of your way if its making things difficult or uncomfortable for you, but that’s just me. having only gotten 6ish hours of sleep over the…

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

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    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

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  • Q&A,  YouTube[r]

    Q&A: “what do you use for recording and editing your videos?”

    December 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: If you don’t mind my asking, what do you use for recording and editing your videos? I’ve thought about doing youtube before but have little idea of what kinds of equipment to invest in. i don’t mind at all, anon. actually, i wouldn’t recommend investing too much, if anything at all, into YouTube starting out. a lot of people have really strong intentions starting out and rush out to buy a nice camera, but end up not continuing with their channel for whatever unforseen reason. also, until you’ve actually given YouTube a try, it’s hard to know what exactly works best for you in terms of equipment, setup, etc. having said all that, to finally answer your question, i use some relatively high-end equipment that isn’t at all what i started out with, nor what i’d recommend to someone just starting out. i have a Canon 5D Mark…

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A

    Q&A: “Can a maverique person consider themself man or woman-aligned?”

    December 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: You may have answered a similar question before, and if so I apologize, it’s possible that I missed it! I was wondering, can a maverique person consider themself man or woman-aligned? And if a person considered themself woman-aligned and maverique, could they consider themself sapphic, or would you say being sapphic is inherently at odds with being maverique? Navigating the recent alignment discourse as a maverique has been rough for me, and I’d like to hear your thoughts. hi, anon. no worries. i’ve answered a similar question before, but not on this blog. check out what i said [ here ] over on @maveriques​. i’m afraid that my answer to the question you’ve asked has not changed at all since responding to the linked ask. that said, i’m really sorry to hear that recent aligned terminology (i’m not caught up at all on any related discourse) has been rough…

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “…I can kind of relate to what your earlier post is about the representations of androgyny and nonbinary people…”

    December 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: hey I just wanted to say that I can kind of relate to what your earlier post is about, not in that i’m black but in that i’m amab and the representations of androgyny and nonbinary people I see tend to be of a white, slim, crew cut hair cut with afab secondary sex characteristics, like a white pre-t trans man. my face is distincitvely male so it’s really not possible for me to pull off that look you were talking about because I can’t fit into that narrow somewhat accepted box. I might be getting a bit philosphical but I think that society see things in categories, like the light spectrum, even though there are infinite shades we demarcate them into 8 colours, in the past lgbt was pretty much all the colours there were, now there’s lgbtqia+. So if it’s any consolation as someone who is…

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    July 7, 2014
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I identify as homoflexible, it’s what fits me best, but I didn’t realize it was biphobic…”

    December 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said Hi I saw your post about homoflexibility and I wanted to ask you about it. I think I identify as homoflexible, it’s what fits me best, but I didn’t realize it was biphobic and I’m really freaked out because I don’t want to be biphobic it’s just what fits me best. I don’t consider myself bi because while I occasionally can have attraction to guys I don’t want a relationship(or sex) with a guy, I just don’t. But I’m not a lesbian either because I can occasionally experience attraction to guys. hi anon, first of all, sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. i hope you’re well. i’m guessing that the post that you’re referring to is this one? as i tried to make clear in the original post, i was only voicing my own personal qualms with common definitions of homoflexible (and heteroflexible) and…

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  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 63 – Story Time: Coming Out To A Coworker || Visibly Queer | Non-Binary || The T Files #003

    December 19, 2017 / No Comments

    ever tried to come out to someone only to be met with “i already knew that”? before last week, i couldn’t say that i have, but when a coworker thinks their “gaydar” is on-point, but that gaydar ever-so-predictably fails to extend beyond just “GAY”, mental eye rolling, story time and a mini word vomit ensue. what does it mean to be “visibly queer” and why is it that more often than not ‘queer’ is often taken to be synonymous with “gay”? and is there any such thing as “visibly trans” or “visibly non-binary”? don’t expect to find any answers here, as it took me considerable effort just to limit my apathetic word vomit to 5 minutes zzz… two days post-recording and much sleep deprivation later…

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VESPER H.

YouTuber & Blogger

Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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