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“…what it means to become America’s boogieman”

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July 12, 2017

QAC 75.5 – Life Update: Leaving Japan?! | Legal Name Change | Goodbye Locs

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March 5, 2019

“the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

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April 5, 2018

my #WakandaForever✊? is not your #WakandaForever✊

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April 21, 2018

Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2018

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June 10, 2018
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I can’t have sex with someone I love and I can only have sex with someone when…”

    July 31, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I can’t have sex with someone I love and I can only have sex with someone when I don’t have feelings for this person. A name for me? I read about allochronic orientation. fraysexuality comes to mind and may be something worth looking into. including a link to get you started because, sadly, there seems to be a lot of negativity being directed at this orientation. if you do look into this orientation, take care doing so, anon.

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    Vesper H.

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    QAC 28 – On “Blackness”, Queer Identity & Intersectionality (a rant)

    July 14, 2014
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Do you know a pride flag for heteroromantic homosexual?”

    July 31, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi. Do you know a pride flag for heteroromantic homosexual? Thanks hello. 🙂 there are no ‘official’ flags for mixed orientations (romantic & sexual orientations which differ from each other), but many people use the flag that is common for sexual orientations with a heart in the center in the colors of their romantic orientation. since i couldn’t find a decent example to link you to, i made one. here you go.

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    Vesper H.

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    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2016 (5/8/2016)

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    QAC 16 – Asexuality and the LGBTQ Community

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  • [A]sexuality,  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I have a question regarding the Japanese use of the terms asexual and nonsexual…”

    July 27, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous post: I have a question regarding the Japanese use of the terms asexual and nonsexual. Is asexual generally used by all aces on the aromantic spectrum or do arospec aces who sometimes feel romantic attraction (such as grey aromantics) typically prefer to use nonsexual? I’d like to get more involved with the ace community when I (hopefully) move to Japan, but I feel like the Japanese terminology doesn’t even let me describe myself… (re: this post) bearing in mind that everything i’m about to say is based entirely on my own limited experience and observation… i can count the number of times i’ve met or heard of a Japanese person actively identifying in some way as gray or demi on one hand. generally speaking, awareness of nuanced ace & aro spectrum identities / orientations is hardly a thing among Japanese aces. the only time i hear any explicit mention of…

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    Vesper H.

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    on the discrepancy between “asexual” in English & Japanese and confusion regarding demisexuality.

    May 12, 2017

    “love languages”?? communication tool.

    May 1, 2019
  • 『[4コマ]☆AセクシュアルとAce(エース)☆』
    [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    『[4コマ]☆AセクシュアルとAce(エース)☆』

    July 27, 2016 / 1 Comment

    once again i randomly came across another one of Chii’s 4-koma comic strips about asexuality on Twitter and my reaction to seeing it has me feeling guilty and torn. ;( for those who don’t speak Japanese, the comic introduces the term “ace” (slang for “asexual”) to Japanese readers and then explains how it’s connected to aces in playing cards. it also introduces readers to the concept / association that’s been floating around English-speaking ace communities of each suite being associated with specific orientations / identities. in the comic, it’s explained as: ace of hearts: romantic asexuals (known as “nonsexuals” in Japan) ace of spades: aromantic asexuals (known as “asexuals” in Japan) ace of diamonds: demisexuals and demiromantic asexuals ace of clubs: gray asexuals and grayromantic asexuals before i start ranting going on and on about ‘nothing’, i want to point out that i’m happy that “ace” is being introduced here in Japanese. no conflicting feelings there.…

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    Vesper H.

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    September 18, 2018

    Japanese gender / queer theory, anyone?

    May 22, 2017

    QAC 51 – #ProudToBe Black Non-Binary Bi Pan AND Asexual

    June 22, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “What are your thoughts on the ‘ace discourse’?”

    July 23, 2016 / 1 Comment

    anonymous said: Hi! I really like your blog, and I’ve seen a few of your videos, you’re really cool and you helped me a lot on understanding my identity. I wanted to ask you, but of course you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to, what are your thoughts on the ‘ace discourse’? hello and thanks for the kind words. 🙂 i’m going to be a bit pedantic and ask what exactly you’re referring to when you say ‘the ace discourse’ because i feel like this phrase is being used to refer to a lot of different (although related) stuff that’s been going on on Tumblr for a while now. do you mean how some people insist that inclusion in ‘the LGBT community’ is based on oppression? that aces aren’t oppressed at all? that aces are oppressed, but not for being ace? do you mean how some people insist that…

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    May 15, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A

    Q&A: “Am I overreacting? Here in the UK it’s not called rape…”

    July 16, 2016 / No Comments

    cw: sexual assault anonymous said: TW: rape. A girl digitally raped me when I was 8. I only recently remembered & I’m worried that I might have caught STI/STDs from what she did. It was in a toilet & she never washed her hands (risk of faecal matter?), bit her finger nails (risk blood & saliva inside me, too). her nails were sharp&ragged, so might’ve scratched me inside. It was 14 yrs ago & I’ve never (nor ever will) have sex, so should I get tested/Am I overreacting? Here in the UK it’s not called rape, so I feel invalidated. anon, i’m afraid that i’m probably among the least qualified people to offer you any kind of advice or suggestions when it comes to something like this. off the top of my head, i can’t even think of any trustworthy resources to point you to… that said, i do not…

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    Vesper H.

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  • [A]sexuality,  Feedback,  Mental [Un]health,  Q&A

    Feedback: “Thank you so much for writing “that time i did nothing: assumed consent & retraction thereof”…”

    July 16, 2016 /

    anonymous said: Thank you so much for writing “that time i did nothing: assumed consent & retraction thereof”. I was in the same situation with a then boyfriend several times and I don’t know how to classify/ deal with it. Your internal monologue was so familiar. It’s good to know that I’m not the only one struggling with this. Thanks again for posting this and I hope you’re doing well. Kindest regards (re: this post) thank you for the kind message, anon. posting that post helped me realize that i’m far from the only person struggling with navigating an experience like that and it really does mean a lot to know that you’re not the only one. you writing this message adds to that, so thank you again and all the best to you as well.

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    Vesper H.

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    October 10, 2016

    QAC 06 – Coming Out as a Panromantic Asexual

    June 1, 2013
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness],  Japan[ese]

    Snapchat rant #457

    July 15, 2016 / No Comments

    …..in which i Snapchat rant about how uncomfortable / exasperating it is as a black person reading books etc with black characters in it to my young Japanese students. Tumblr forced me to upload the video externally because of the file size, so i put it on the QAC YouTube channel unlisted, but i don’t care if anyone shares it elsewhere. also, i swear me posting random, annoying Snapchat rants on here or on YouTube isn’t going to become a thing. i just have to share this last one. ;(

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    September 9, 2017

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    December 30, 2016

    re: gaslighting in the aftermath of the 2016 US presidential election

    November 19, 2016
  • Art[sy Fartsy],  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    Happy Non-binary Day!

    July 14, 2016 / No Comments

    here are some maverique pride skyscapes to help you celebrate. 🙂

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    Vesper H.

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “I’m asexual, and for months have been trying to figure out if I am biromantic or panromantic…”

    July 13, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hello! I’m asexual, and for months have been trying to figure out if I am biromantic or panromantic, yet I can’t seem to make sense of it. I also noticed you used all three terms, minus the ‘-romantic’ suffix. Would you be willing to talk about how those three connect for you, even just briefly? Thank you, and I hope you have a wonderful day/night. hi. 🙂 how being bi, pan and ace connect for me, eh…? mmm… well, the short and simplified way that i usually go about explaining my sexuality to people is that i am (have the potential to be) attracted to people of any gender, but that attraction is never sexual. …and unless the person in question responds to that with further questions or i feel like going into more detail than that, i usually just leave it at that because i think that’s as…

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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