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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “i am a 20 year old female and i have been questioning my sexuality for the longest time…”

    March 29, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: hello, i am a 20 year old female and i have been questioning my sexuality for the longest time. i may have come to the conclusion i might be grey-ace? seeing that i have never really been interested into getting in a relationship, though i have had a few crushes (both female and male) and even felt sexual feelings, but i did not want to engage in any of that b/c it felt awkward for me to put myself in that position. i don’t really know what to categorize myself as. hello anon. sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. anon, if you feel like gray-ace is a word that describes you, then i say go with that and see where it takes you. identity labels like “gray-ace” are useful for communicating information about yourself and your identity to others, as well as for finding community…

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018
  • [A]sexuality,  Black[ness],  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 35 – Body Image: An Intersection of Black, Non-binary & Asexual Identity

    March 16, 2015 / No Comments

    trigger warning: body negativity, gender dysphoria, hints of self-harm, cursing a rant about my own negative body image and how that body image intersects with my identity as a black non-binary asexual. i touch upon a lot in this long video, so for your ease of viewing: ====== Time Points ======== @00:00 – introduction @00:57 – dismissal of my body issues @02:18 – height and dysphoria @05:08 – having lordosis and being misgendered @09:53 – hypersexualization of my butt as a black non-binary ace @12:44 – hypersexualization of my lips as a black non-binary ace @13:27 – self-destructive habits: lip picking @15:33 – hating my natural hair @19:00 – body modification and body positivity @21:16 – i’d love to hear from you ======================== “awkward but necessary” pretty much sums up this video.

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    spotted: same-gender marriage feature on Japanese news

    October 12, 2015

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018

    QAC 02 – The Road to Asexuality

    May 17, 2013
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    spotted: LGBT 101 on Japanese TV

    February 21, 2015 / 1 Comment

    there i was, doing stuff on my computer completely ignoring my tv when i look up to some celeb guessing at what LGBT stands for, saying stupid shit like B stands for ばあちゃん/grannies and T stands for 父ちゃん/daddies to be funny. i only got my phone out in time to take photos during the 1 minute that was spent talking about the subject seriously in which the guy “educating” the panel of celebs talked about how approximately 5% of people in Japan are LGBT, about bullying in schools, about coming out and about how to respond if someone comes out to you. seriously 日テレ. it’s great that you spent 1 minute educating people, but you also spent 1 minute making light of the subject. not good enough.

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    Vesper H.

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    October 16, 2016

    Japanese gender / queer theory, anyone?

    May 22, 2017

    …mmm, so.

    March 24, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 34 – Distancing Yourself From Family

    February 16, 2015 / No Comments

    dealing with family can be tough. really tough. it took many years for me to finally realize and admit to myself that i have been coping by physically distancing myself from my family and this has actually helped me a lot over the years. to those of you out there struggling while living with your family, i hope this video will be of encouragement to you. no matter how bleak things may seem at times, stay strong. you can get through it! i had no idea what to do for this video’s thumbnail, so there you go.

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    QAC 75 – Questioning In Silence?: Identity | Self-Discovery | Stigma || Random Thoughts

    February 27, 2019

    QAC 36 – What Acephobia & Asexual Erasure Looks Like

    April 27, 2015

    QAC 55 – Older Asexuals: Coming Out Later In Life | Questioning | Trauma

    October 23, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Mental [Un]health

    re: ….so. selfies.

    February 15, 2015 / No Comments

    one last addition to the “self-esteem boost”: sketch i did from memory without referencing the actual photo, so some details aren’t accurate. this is why i need another tumblr blog, i feel bad posting this kinda stuff here but i still wanna post it somewhere. ;(

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    …so this happened at TRP today.

    May 7, 2016

    Snapchat rant #214

    July 12, 2016

    “maverique” v1.0

    June 1, 2014
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Mental [Un]health

    …so. selfies.

    February 15, 2015 / 1 Comment

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    July 31, 2016

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    October 27, 2013

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    June 8, 2014
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    sexnormativity

    January 12, 2015 / 2 Comments

    like “heteronormativity” and “amatornormativity”, can we please make “sexnormativity” a thing? simply put: sexnormativity: the assumption that sexual attraction and/or a desire for sex is a universal trait that everyone shares. the ace community has long since been battling sexnormativity as it plays a large role in a/acephobia. however, aces are not the only ones suffering from sexnormativity. people who are repulsed by and/or adverse to sex people with “low”/”high” libidos teenagers young adults seniors survivors of sexual assault/abuse and so many more literally anyone and probably everyone is affected by sexnormativity to some degree or another at some point in their life because sexnormativity ties into so many things: peer pressure, stereotypes, hypersexualization, desexualization, heteronormativity, amatonormativity, slut-shaming, victim blaming, trauma invalidation, erasure, parental/familial expectations and the list goes on. awareness and discussion of sexnormativity needs to go beyond the confines of the ace community. please let this be a thing that the world is made…

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    Vesper H.

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    May 14, 2016

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    February 25, 2017
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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