Q&A: “i am a 20 year old female and i have been questioning my sexuality for the longest time…”

anonymous said:

hello, i am a 20 year old female and i have been questioning my sexuality for the longest time. i may have come to the conclusion i might be grey-ace? seeing that i have never really been interested into getting in a relationship, though i have had a few crushes (both female and male) and even felt sexual feelings, but i did not want to engage in any of that b/c it felt awkward for me to put myself in that position. i don’t really know what to categorize myself as.

hello anon. sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask.

anon, if you feel like gray-ace is a word that describes you, then i say go with that and see where it takes you.

identity labels like “gray-ace” are useful for communicating information about yourself and your identity to others, as well as for finding community among similar people. if you feel like “gray-ace” helps you with both of those things, then perhaps you have found a category word that suits you. if not, or if in the future “gray-ace” stops feeling right, you can always drop the word in favor of something else. it is just a word, after all; you get to decide what it means to you.

that said, in my humble opinion, i think you’ll find that the experiences and feelings that you’ve described are shared among others in the gray-a community. the gray-a community is made up of extremely diverse people, but perhaps the more you look into it the clearer things will become for you?

if you care to look into it more, i think checking out demigray would be a great place to start. all the best!

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