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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Aren’t gays and lesbians inherently transphobic…?”

    October 12, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Aren’t gays and lesbians inherently transphobic because they reinforce genitalia=gender by only having sex with people as the same genitals as their own?   …………..i’m going to respond to this in the format of a list because after sitting on this ask for nearly a day i have decided that that is the best way to keep this response from turning into a rant. when a person (regardless of their sexuality) is attracted to someone else they are attracted to that person’s character, to their self-expression, to their smile, to their identity, to their voice, to who they are as a person. people do not use x-ray vision to look through a person’s clothing to see what genitalia they have and decide whether they find that genitalia attractive or not. why are you equating same-gender attraction with same-genitalia attraction? there actually are people of every orientation who find…

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    Vesper H.

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    April 5, 2018
  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 40 – The Gender Tag! | Maverique

    October 12, 2015 / No Comments

    me talking about my non-binary gender, maverique, as part of The Gender Tag, a project by Ashley Wylde. i also rant a bit about navigating my gender when even the non-binary community seems a bit too tied to the gender binary. – if you’re unfamiliar with The Gender Tag Project, find out more here: http://ashleywylde.com/videos/the-gender-tag-project/ – if you’re interested in learning more about maverique, check out: http://maveriques.tumblr.com/ ========= The Gender Tag Prompts ========= @00:35 1. How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that definition mean to you? @02:26 2. What pronouns honor you? @02:31 3. Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear. @04:13 4. Talk about your choices with body hair. How do you style your hair? Do you have facial hair? What do you choose to shave, or choose not to shave? @06:47 5. Talk about cosmetics. Do you choose to wear makeup? Do you paint your nails? What…

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    Documentary Explores The Reality Of Being Black And Gay In The Church

    November 14, 2015

    QAC 25 – Quasi-review: Nabeshirts / ナベシャツ Binders

    June 17, 2014

    ? QAC 78 – 1yr+ on T: Japan vs America | Planned Parenthood | Intermusc vs SubQ Injections || The T Files #011

    September 8, 2019
  • Q&A

    Q&A not Q&A: “a person told me that I was “stealing other experiences” and “hurting other people that felt that way…”

    September 24, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I have used the label neutrois for a a time now, but now I am using demiguy. I add that people could consider me a trans man now. I announce this decision on a group in facebook and a person told me that I was “stealing other experiences” and “hurting other people that felt that way” I said I was experimenting with label until I can find the one that “stick” and they think is a whim.   not only is that person trying to invalidate your identity, they also seem to be trying to guilt trip you by suggesting that you are somehow hurting other people. gender/identity police and would-be gatekeepers are such asshats, i swear. i’m sorry that you’re dealing with a person (or even people) like this. for one, you are not “stealing” anything. no one owns nor has a monopoly on what it means to…

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    April 5, 2018

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    February 23, 2016
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “I’m very hesistant to identify as nonbinary because as a dmab individual…”

    August 27, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I’m very hesistant to identify as nonbinary because as a dmab individual, I’ve been told that I’m a male my whole life even if I haven’t neccessarily felt that way. It’s one of those things that’s so ingrained in my being that I can’t imagine anyone seeing past it. I’m cis-passing and privileged to the point that calling myself non-binary, calling myself trans feels like hijacking and claiming a struggle, an oppression that I haven’t really faced. :/ I don’t want to be problematic. Any thoughts?   hello, anon. 🙂 it sounds like your policing your own identity and i think that it is fairly safe to say that many maaaany people do this/feel this way when they first begin to question their gender identity. i just want to stress that if you feel that you are not the gender that you were assigned at birth, then you…

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    February 23, 2016

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  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 37 – Forced Out of the Closet: 1.5 Years Later (Non-Binary Asexual)

    June 16, 2015 / No Comments

    it’s been nearly a year and a half since i was outted to my ultra religious mom as a non-binary, panromantic / biromantic asexual. things have been, and continue to be, rough between us at times… that said, there has been progress. it took well over a year, but she’s now making an effort to come to terms with part of my sexuality….? meanwhile continuing to completely reject my gender. thus far, the road to acceptance and understanding has been long and hard; sadly, as of now, that road still has no end in sight. ——— LINKS ——— QAC 13 – Staying In The Closet → https://youtu.be/NDyEAyNxoEg QAC 23 – Being Forced Out of the Closet → https://youtu.be/HStZgJ4Ewm8 snippets of conversations with my mom: → http://queerascat.tumblr.com/tagged/conversations-with-mom —————————–

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    November 25, 2017

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    March 24, 2017

    “love languages”?? communication tool.

    May 1, 2019
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Im a lesbian and i am not attracted to penises at all. the girl im dating is trans and…”

    June 7, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Im a lesbian and i am not attracted to penises at all,the girl im dating is trans shes really great and im attracted to her but im unsure if i would enjoy having sex with her and i do not want her to be offened for not being attracted to her genitals   hello, anon. you don’t seem to be asking a question in this ask, so i’m unsure what kind of response you’re looking for. that said, there seems to be something that you haven’t considered (or at least haven’t mentioned here) that i’d like to point out. while it’s good that you’re concerned about how your lack of attraction* to certain genitalia could be offensive to your girlfriend, you don’t seem to have considered her feelings beyond that? that she may not be comfortable having sex with you to begin with for various reasons. the topic…

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    February 23, 2016

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018
  • Art[sy Fartsy],  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    “boy? girl? NO! neither.”

    April 1, 2015 / No Comments

    made this to put on a t-shirt to wear to Tokyo Pride. debating whether or not to bother making similar shirts available to others as i’ve never sold merch online before, but for now you can buy a similar shirt [ here ]?

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    May 14, 2016

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    June 25, 2014

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    July 14, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 26 – Gender Dysphoria: It’s Complicated. (a rant)

    June 30, 2014 / No Comments

    GENDER DYSPHORIA ISN’T BLACK & WHITE. NOTHING is black & white and i really wish people would stop acting as if body dysphoria is the black and social dysphoria the white of gender dysphoria. IT’S FAR MORE COMPLICATED THAN THAT. and that’s before you even consider that even internal/body dysphoria is inevitably connected to society, which i didn’t talk about at all in this video. anyway, i feel like more people need to acknowledge this fact, advice/resource blogs and websites especially. …i can’t even remember what it was that set me off on this rant. it was triggered earlier this week, but it wasn’t until today that i had time to get in front of a camera zzz…

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    February 10, 2014

    “yellow as a maverique”

    June 25, 2014

    “boy? girl? NO! neither.”

    April 1, 2015
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    that feel when…

    June 28, 2014 / No Comments

    ….you think about how impossible it is to “pass” as a non-binary person.

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    December 20, 2015

    missiles and tweets.

    August 28, 2017

    willpower, sweat, and tears

    January 30, 2020
  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    “maverique” v3.0

    June 21, 2014 / 1 Comment

    [ maverique — definition reworded 06/21/14 ] a faded yellow, white and orange pride flag on which black text reads: maverique /mav ˈrēk/ franglais coined by Vesper H. from the English eponym “maverick” and the French suffix “-ique”. pronounciation is “mav-REEK”,  rhyming with “antique”. a gender characterized by autonomy and inner conviction regarding a sense of self that is entirely independent of male/masculinity, female/femininity or anything which derives from the two while still being neither without gender nor of a neutral gender. this is the third rewording of the definition of maverique. i’ve tried to do away with some of the larger words found in previous definitions while still making the meaning of the word clearer. what do you think…? i’m preparing to make a page and/or secondary Tumblr account dedicated to maverique and once wording of the definition seems more or less stable, i’ll record a video about it too. 🙂

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    August 16, 2016

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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