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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    sex indifference & aversion: not a matter of one or the other but both?

    October 6, 2015 / No Comments

    the following is a random blurb of thoughts after seeing this post. warning: negativity, sex talk || disclaimer: the negativity is aimed only at myself i’ve had issues supporting or even signal boosting anything that talks explicitly about “sex indifference” because of my own personal qualms with the term and how i see people describe what it means to be indifferent to sex. the way it’s described or defined varies greatly from person to person, but almost always there’s some sort of ‘but wouldn’t necessarily be opposed to the idea of having it’ tacked onto the rest and that bothers me. a lot. i used to casually refer to myself as sex indifferent, but now i can’t help but want to distance myself from the term as far as possible. but at the same time, i have no desire to take on the label of “sex averse” either. i think that at least…

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  • [Random] Thoughts

    cautious optimism: yet another conversation with mom

    September 27, 2015 / No Comments

    for those who don’t know, i stopped talking to my mom back in July. the situation with my mom evolved over a long period of time and i’ve talked about it twice on YouTube. [ 1 + 2 ] well, today i want to say extremely tentatively that it seems like some progress has been made in terms of restarting our relationship. i’m trying really, really hard not to be overly optimistic because if i’m wrong and things fall apart again, it will hurt all the more if i let my guard down and allow myself to be happy now. (tl;dr below) in recent weeks prior to today mom has made attempts at contacting me with such conversation starters as “help me understand.”, “what is it you want me to say?” and “i’m taking your sister to the ER so i thought i’d message you (ie: please talk to me).” aside…

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness]

    #TheBlackout

    September 21, 2015 / No Comments

    although the theme for #TheBlackout this time is “Uprising” inspired by the Haitian Revolution, i decided instead to focus on the fact that this week is Bi Awareness Week and show some (non-binary) biromantic asexual pride. there isn’t enough representation / visibility of bi black people. there isn’t enough representation / visibility of non-binary black people. there isn’t enough representation / visibility of ace black people. so here, have this half-baked photo.

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  • [A]sexuality,  Black[ness],  Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    The Intersections of a Black, Non-binary Ace

    September 16, 2015 / No Comments

    i keep putting off talking about this topic because of feels and because i’m lazy stuff, but it’s 1:30am on a work night, i’ve just responded to an email from someone asking me about this topic and i’m too tired to censor myself or to overthink what people may think of my opinion. what a perfect opportunity to share my thoughts on Tumblr! let’s cut and paste.

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  • YouTube[r]

    QAC 38 – Social Media: Let’s Connect!

    August 13, 2015 / No Comments

    Queer As Cat the YouTube channel and Tumblr blog have always been completely separated from the rest of my presence on the internet. i want to change that. let’s connect! i may not be the most the most social of people out there, but i’d love to interact with you, my subscribers and followers, a lot more than i have to date. if you’d ever like to chat, see what i’m up to outside of Queer As Cat or check out my art, maybe hit me up on one of the following sites? 日本語もなんとなく話せますので、ご遠慮なく日本語で連絡してください。 mi ankaŭ parolas Esperanton, do bonvolu senhezite kontakti min esperante. =========  SOCIAL MEDIA ======== Twitter: @nighstar Instagram: @nighstar.phogoraphy Skype: nighstar LINE: nighstar Hangouts: queerascat at gmail dot com email: queerastcat at gmail dot com ============================== and of course YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/queerascat

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    May 11, 2013
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 37 – Forced Out of the Closet: 1.5 Years Later (Non-Binary Asexual)

    June 16, 2015 / No Comments

    it’s been nearly a year and a half since i was outted to my ultra religious mom as a non-binary, panromantic / biromantic asexual. things have been, and continue to be, rough between us at times… that said, there has been progress. it took well over a year, but she’s now making an effort to come to terms with part of my sexuality….? meanwhile continuing to completely reject my gender. thus far, the road to acceptance and understanding has been long and hard; sadly, as of now, that road still has no end in sight. ——— LINKS ——— QAC 13 – Staying In The Closet → https://youtu.be/NDyEAyNxoEg QAC 23 – Being Forced Out of the Closet → https://youtu.be/HStZgJ4Ewm8 snippets of conversations with my mom: → http://queerascat.tumblr.com/tagged/conversations-with-mom —————————–

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    QAC 35 – Body Image: An Intersection of Black, Non-binary & Asexual Identity

    March 16, 2015
    The Hypocrisy of YouTube: i.e. Why YouTube Is A Pink Capitalist Piece Of Shit

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    December 15, 2019
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    Ace & Non-binary Pride @Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2015 (04/26/15)

    May 10, 2015 / No Comments

    like last year, a handful of us gaijin aces went to Tokyo Rainbow Pride and walked in the parade with Stonewall Japan. this year, i personally decided to raise non-binary / Xジェンダー awareness at the same time. 🙂 also like last year, we started out small with there being only three of us, then we ran into an old friend from last year, becoming four. THEN while lounging around someone on Tumblr messaged me that they were there and had seen us walking in the parade, so we meetup with that person and became five! w00t! we even ran into the-shynamites again this year, but i wasn’t able to get a photo of their awesome ace pride sign. ;( i even ran into the author of the forthcoming, crowd-funded book about Xジェンダー / non-binary people in Japan!! D; the asshat that we ran into later aside, we had a great…

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    May 17, 2013

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    March 12, 2018
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Mental [Un]health

    re: ….so. selfies.

    February 15, 2015 / No Comments

    one last addition to the “self-esteem boost”: sketch i did from memory without referencing the actual photo, so some details aren’t accurate. this is why i need another tumblr blog, i feel bad posting this kinda stuff here but i still wanna post it somewhere. ;(

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    December 30, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Mental [Un]health

    …so. selfies.

    February 15, 2015 / 1 Comment

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  • Black[ness],  Japan[ese],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 32 – Get To Know Me! (Self-Intro + Q&A)

    December 1, 2014 / No Comments

    it’s been over a year since i made this channel about being non-binary, queer, panromantic / biromantic asexual and a person of color, but there’s more to me than just my gender, sexuality and ethnicity. mind getting to know me a little? i’ve even added timestamps to make doing so easier. 😉 ======= Navigation ======== @00:00 – Channel introduction @00:39 – About me ========= Q & A ========= @03:00 – What are your favorite books/literature/authors? @04:02 – Who’re your top 3 musical artists? @04:26 – What are your favorite anime series or manga? @05:13 – Do you/did you play any instruments? @6:16 – What inspires you? @7:59 – Any dreams for the future? @08:50 – Do you consider yourself African American or just American or what? @10:46 – Is Japan expensive? @11:16 – What’s your other YouTube channel? @11:54 – What’s been the most difficult thing about living in Japan?…

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VESPER H.

YouTuber & Blogger

Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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  • literal “social distancing” from the ace community April 1, 2020
  • legalized weed in America: one of many chips on my Black shoulder March 7, 2020
  • willpower, sweat, and tears January 30, 2020
  • 🎬 QAC 79 – The Neverending Queer-y: My Queer Ace Journey || LGBT YouTube & COPPA January 4, 2020
  • #YouTubeIsOverParty: COPPA & The Hypocrisy of YouTube December 15, 2019

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