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on the discrepancy between “asexual” in English & Japanese and confusion regarding demisexuality.

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May 12, 2017

h/History.

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February 11, 2019

Burnt Out & Neurotic: The Toll of Blogging While Ace and Mentally Ill

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December 26, 2018

QAC 75.5 – Life Update: Leaving Japan?! | Legal Name Change | Goodbye Locs

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March 5, 2019

QAC 74 – 1 Year on HRT: Non-Binary Dysphoria | Euphoria | “Passing” || The T Files #010

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January 3, 2019
  • Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I’m planning to apply for the JET Programme and I’m not sure what I should do with the “gender” section…”

    January 4, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hiya there, fellow Japanese-speaking asexual non-binary person! I’m planning to apply for the JET Programme in two years and I’m not sure what I should do with the “gender” section of the application. Should I select 女 (my DGAB) or is it possible to get an X in that section somehow? How did you approach this? Thanks in advance! hello, anon. 🙂 when i applied to JET i had no means of understanding my gender let alone communicating it to someone else, so i was still defaulting to my DGAB at the time. that was 10 years ago (unbelievable how time flies), but i imagine that that part of the application process hasn’t changed since then, unfortunately. speaking only for myself and what i’d probably do if i were to apply again today, i’d probably err on the side of caution and put my DGAB on the application…

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    Vesper H.

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    Starbucks wifi censorship

    January 2, 2017 / No Comments

    so i’m at Starbucks using Starbuck’s free wifi while i work on stuff, as usual, when i randomly go on Tumblr and see the name of a familiar website, Black Lesbian Love Lab, being recommended to me. i didn’t know they were on Tumblr, so i clicked on the recommendation to check it out and was brought to the above page telling me that i’m unable to access @blacklesbianlovelab because of stipulations in the wifi service’s terms of use? wtf? i’m immediately reminded of the fiasco not that long ago when Tumblr marked the entire #lesbian tag NSFW, which i thought they’d fixed but? at the very least this seems like a remnant of that? although the wifi service itself is also involved, i can still access the BLLL website without issue and the content of the Tumblr blog by no means warrants it being treated like a porn blog. again,…

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    June 10, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness],  Gender[queer],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    BLAQUEER: a self-care attempt

    January 1, 2017 / No Comments

    January 1st, 2017: an attempt at being more “active” about my own well-being à la microblogging finally gets off the ground. i’ve been thinking about making something like this for myself for a while, but have always dragged my feet about it. BLAQUEER will be devoted to any and everything that i find helpful for myself personally re: navigating queerness, mental health and self-care as a black person. at the moment, i envision that as including, but not being limited to: photos, artwork, etc of queer black people existing: because goddamnit, be it on Tumblr or out in the world at large, i never see that without actively search for it. i want a place where i can see people like me existing without having to hunt for it each time. i also want to curate what i see because i’m tired of wading through hypersexualization / hypermasculinzation when i do hunt…

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    Vesper H.

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    October 25, 2013
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy]

    #2016BestNine: Last Minute Selfie Positivity

    December 30, 2016 / No Comments

    with only one day left in 2016, it’s time for the annual end-of-the-year stuff zzz… having had memory issues for forever, i’ve been journaling / archiving / etc stuff online since, well… 2002 when i created my livejournal account, i guess. New Year’s specific stuff started in 2007 with a questionnaire-type meme that i have done every year since to recap the outgoing year, followed years later by a year-end “photo dump” to summarize a year’s worth of photos in one place. this post is a more recent tradition courtesy of Instagram, but i don’t want to post this on IG, so here we are! again. while i feel like 2016 hasn’t been a overly bad year for me personally, i also feel like the past two months have been such that they overshadow whatever else i am able to recall of 2016… sigh. it’s nice to have photographic proof that…

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    June 2, 2016

    QAC 45 – Forced Out of the Closet: 2 Years Later | Coming Out Again (Non-Binary Bi / Pan Asexual)

    January 26, 2016

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    August 28, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A not Q&A: “when I go on the aesthetic tumblrs of allo/zedsexual people, I see SO much hatred for ANY terms more complex than “pan” or “gay”…”

    December 30, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: when I go on the aesthetic tumblrs of allo/zedsexual people, I see SO much hatred for ANY terms more complex than “pan” or “gay”. these people – who are themselves trans and/or some kind of not straight – claim that ppl who use complex labels are confused and need to just use the simple terms that exist. I know, they’re wrong, but I see it so much from people I admire and it makes me feel alone. There aren’t many aesthetic blogs I can follow that aren’t like this, and I mainly aes blog so it’s something I can’t get away from. mutuals of my mutuals call themselves aphobes in their about pages…I know some ace ppl have done annoying things but I feel so alone. I felt so much joy when I could say I was pansensual but asexual and my life made so much more sense.…

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    “”two genders””

    December 30, 2016 / No Comments

    it’s incredibly ironic (and by “ironic” i mean “funny as hell”) that the very same people who call non-binary people “special snowflakes” with the implication that we are attention seekers are the very same people who go out of their way to actively seek out people like me to send these random cries for attention to. sometimes i literally get essay-length messages that amount to nothing more than “LOOK AT ME! LISTEN TO ME! STROKE MY EGO BY ACKNOWLEDGING ME!” and like… it never ceases to amaze me how oblivious these people are to the irony of their actions.

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Can I be agender and maverique?”

    December 29, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Can I be agender and maverique? Like “I’m an agender maverique” is that a thing? I’m so confused halp. ;^; you are whatever you are, anon, and if that happens to be an agender maverique then you’re an agender maverique. it’s not a matter of something being a thing or not, it’s simply a matter of who you feel yourself to be. you know who you are and how you feel better than anyone else, so i encourage you to trust yourself no matter what others may say. your feelings of being agender and maverique are proof enough that yes, being an agender maverique is a thing because you are ‘a thing’. you exist and your feelings / experiences are valid, as are the words that you feel describes them best. having said that, you may find it encouraging to know that you would not be alone in being…

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    Vesper H.

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    August 29, 2013
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    hats. hats. hats.

    December 26, 2016 / No Comments

    queerascat: …you know you have a problem when 3 out of the 4 hats that you own are exactly the same hat in exactly the same colors (black / gray / white) just in different patterns / materials. to be fair, though, the latest (solid black) one was half the price of the others despite being the same brand and everything, so of course i’m going to buy it. i mean, solid black is my thing– if anything, you’d have thought it’d have been the first hat i’d have bought, right? hmph. ;( more random thoughts about hats because i’m exceptionally longwinded tonight, apparently. …is it odd that i only got into hats once my hair started falling into “wow, your hair’s long feminine!” category in people’s eyes? like, before that i never even really gave hats any thought. now it’s almost like i feel a need to wear a hat…

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  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “how do I know if I’m ace?”

    December 26, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi, I have a question : how do I know if I’m ace? For example if I have never kissed someone how do I know I don’t like to kiss someone? Maybe is a stupid question but I’m new on this blog hi anon, “how do i know if i’m ____?” is a very common question that many people ask themself and / or others at one point or another and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. despite being a common question, the answer to that question isn’t a simple one and will differ from person to person because there is no one “true” answer, imho. the following is just my longwinded personal opinion. before i attempt to answer your question i’d like to point out that whether you like or don’t like kissing is not an indication of whether you’re ace or not. if you don’t like kissing…

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    TFW Train Queering™

    December 23, 2016 / No Comments

    tfw reading queer theory late at night on the train ride back home after a non-binary / trans end-of-the-year party in Tokyo.

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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