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on the discrepancy between “asexual” in English & Japanese and confusion regarding demisexuality.

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May 12, 2017

“love languages”?? communication tool.

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May 1, 2019

h/History.

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February 11, 2019

“too butch.”

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April 29, 2019

allo by default: hypocrisy in “aspec” spaces

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February 25, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    …annnd that’s a wrap!

    May 7, 2017 / No Comments

    to everyone who made it out to Tokyo Rainbow Pride today and metup with us (many of whom aren’t photoed above), otsukaresama deshita! it was great to see you all and i hope everyone had as great a time as i did. without going into a long-winded spiel because i’m exhausted (and might do it later), today was the highlight of Pride: the parade through Shibuya / Harajuku. imho, it’s safe to say that this year’s parade was the best yet in terms of asexual representation and visibility. not only that, there was also more non-binary, genderqueer and pansexual representation and visibility than in years past thanks largely in part to the NPO にじいろ学校 (formally にじいろ小町) whose group and float Ace Spec Japan walked with this year. more information and a lot more photos will be posted hopefully within the next week, so stay tuned. (original photo courtesy of @mom1615 via…

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    ?Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2017: Parade & Ace Meetup

    April 29, 2017 / No Comments

    …it’s that time of year again. time for Tokyo Rainbow Pride! since 2014 myself and other aces in Japan (now known as Ace Spec Japan) have come together during Golden Week to raise awareness of asexuality by walking in the annual Tokyo Rainbow Pride Parade, followed by a casual meetup elsewhere in Tokyo. this year will be as awesome as ever and anyone interested in joining us– or even just stopping by to say ‘hi’– is welcome! walking in the parade is optional, of course. date: Sunday, May 7th, 2017 time: [parade] 10:30 ~ 14:00? (parade itself sets off at 12:00) ——- [meetup] 16:00 ~ ??? location: contact me for details even if you can’t make the above times, contact me and i’ll help you find us. i’ll also be around for the Festa on May 6th (Saturday) if anyone wants to meetup then. either way, ハッピープライド! (photos from Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2016) […

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    temporary hiatus

    March 27, 2017 / No Comments

    with tomorrow being my final day at my current job, less than 48 hours until i move to the lovely city shown above and less than a week until i start a new job that i must hit the ground running with, it’s time to put this blog on hiatus. i’ll still check in from time to time to like posts for future reference, but i will not be otherwise active on this blog. asks will be responded to in the order they’re received unless noted to be time sensitive or otherwise urgent. noteworthy stuff: April 16th, 2017 – the Tokyo LGBTQIAP+ and Supporters Meetup Group will be having a picnic again this year. last year’s was fun and (provided nothing comes up last minute) i’ll be there again this year. see the meetup group or contact me for details. April 29th – May 7th, 2017 – Tokyo Rainbow Pride will be held…

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    November 1, 2016

    …the state of this blog, basically.

    May 28, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    …mmm, so.

    March 24, 2017 / No Comments

    i’m extremely busy and low on spoons right now, so i’ve been silently keeping a very weary eye on the ongoing situation regarding YouTube’s age-restricted censorship of LGBTQIA content. as youtuber after youtuber responded to the censorship of their videos and the outcry from youtubers and non-youtubers alike grew, i’ve remained silent because, as i said, i’m extremely busy and low on spoons– but also because i glanced at Creator Studio, the backend of YouTube for content creators, and saw no change in my video listing or anything else that indicated restriction. well, my exhausted, weary (and wary) ass turned on “Restricted Mode” tonight. 29 out of 65 of my videos and 4 entire playlists have been marked as potentially inappropriate for young viewers. and you know, if i weren’t barely functioning, struggling to even find the time to eat and sleep right now, i’d most certainly be livid and…

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    July 6, 2017
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    Q&A: “i found an old post about a poc ace and went on their blog and they know say they don’t identify as ace…”

    March 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: (suicide ideation, death threat and conversion tw) i found an old post about a poc ace and went on their blog and they know say they don’t identify as ace because aces are bad, basically. and like, i’m literally crying. idk what to do, that just really struck me. someone who wrote about being queer, ace and a poc like me shitting on me and telling me my identity is inherently problematic when it’s the reason i can’t access mental health atm, which is something i need cause the ‘discourse’ & the violent abuse i faced on this website for, including death threats, caused me to fall back into suicidal ideation. and the only therapist available to me suggested conversion therapy (i live in a small central american country, there’s not much knowledge about these things- she thinks if i can be converted to straight, i will no…

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  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    CNN: “Trying to Find Love as a Trans Man”

    March 20, 2017 / No Comments

    CNN featured the story of a trans man’s experience with dating on their Snapchat today. the feature included video clips of an interview with both Gutierrez and his girlfriend and was also spotlighted on Snapchat’s “Discover” alongside a Cosmopolitan feature on demisexuality. read the article and see the interview in full on CNN.com.

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    Cosmopolitan: “Everything You Need To Know About Demisexuality”

    March 20, 2017 / No Comments

    Cosmopolitan revisited an article on demisexuality that was originally published in 2015, featuring it on their Snapchat today. the article was also featured on Snapchat’s “Discover” alongside a CNN feature on a trans man’s experience with dating. the article can be found on Cosmopolitan.com.

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Japan[ese],  Mental [Un]health

    re: fuck my life

    March 14, 2017 / No Comments

    18 days and two near anxiety attacks later, the ball is finally starting to roll again after having been stalled for weeks because of Japan’s love of Red Tape™. now that it’s finally rolling again, gravity has it rapidly gaining speed down a sharp incline of 15 days until i officially move out, with smaller finish lines in the form of various deadlines along the way. sigh!

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    December 10, 2017

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    May 11, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    beyond shitty.

    March 12, 2017 / 2 Comments

    …can i just say that it is beyond shitty that despite questioning my romantic orientation openly for the first time 2 years ago and having explicitly disidentified  with ”-romantic” anything for a year at the very least, now more than ever i feel like i could and would never identify as being anywhere on the aromantic spectrum because of negative experiences that i continue to have re: having both my identity and my experiences assumed, ignored and polarized by some aces on the aromantic spectrum? because yeah, that’s really shitty imho. edit: oh lookie here. rediscovered a video where i openly questioned my romantic orientation for the first time back in 2014. oh well, doesn’t matter now. never identifying as aro or -romantic anything anyway.

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    Q&A: “I think I’m bi? But I’ve never been attracted to women before so why now?”

    March 6, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi Vesper. So Idk how to put it but I identified as a straight girl my whole life until recently. I’ve been getting attracted to women. I think I’m bi? But I’ve never been attracted to women before so why now? Idk how to feel about this bc I know ppl have discourse about whether you’re born LGBT+ or you can change into it and I’m confused. I’ve never thought about being romantic with women before but right now I’d be totally ok. idk Why all of a sudden. I feel fake idk is this a normal feeling? hi, anon. i’m no expert, but i think it’s safe to say that what you’re experiencing is not uncommon at all. like many things in life, sexuality can change. that is to say that who one is attracted to, the ways in which you experience (or even don’t experience) that…

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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