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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “i am agender, but also a girl, simulaneously and constantly.”

    May 2, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: i am agender, but also a girl, simulaneously and constantly. im nervous about telling people this because i dont want them to tell me i cant be be angender AND a girl. i usually just say im nonbinary but specifically im an agender girl. is this okay? of course it’s okay, anon. you aren’t obligated to tell anyone anything about your genders to begin with. if you do choose to tell someone something, it’s entirely up to you what / how much you tell them. in fact, i’m pretty sure that a lot of people come out as non-binary and leave it at that sometimes, not because they don’t identify as a more specific gender (or genders) but just because they don’t want to have to deal with people’s negative reactions or questions. there is absolutely nothing wrong with simplifying or selectively choosing what you tell people because…

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    Vesper H.

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    February 10, 2014
  • Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    pre-Tokyo Rainbow Pride stuff

    May 1, 2016 / No Comments

    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2016 is just under a week away, so i’m going to take this opportunity to throw out some random info for anyone in the Tokyo / Kanto who’s going this year. just like every year, there’s a lot of stuff going on during “Rainbow Week”, the week leading up to the main events which are the Festa on Saturday, May 7th and the Festa + Parade on Sunday, May 8th. see the TRP website for details on all the events going on. Sat. May 7th 10:00am ~ ??? – Tokyo Rainbow Pride FESTA lots of booths, food, music & performances in Yoyogi Park. 12:00pm ~ 2:00pm – huge annual LGBTQIA (gaijin) picnic Stonewall Japan & the Tokyo LGBTQIAP+ Meetup Group will be hosting another joint picnic. if you aren’t a member of either of these groups, contact me for more information. 7:00pm ~ 11:00pm – “Critical Compassion: Using our Stories…

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    Vesper H.

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    QAC 32 – Get To Know Me! (Self-Intro + Q&A)

    December 1, 2014

    QAC 36 – What Acephobia & Asexual Erasure Looks Like

    April 27, 2015

    VICELAND – GAYCATION Episode 1: Japan

    March 3, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “ive been id-ing as genderqueer for a while now bc i know im not a girl or a boy…”

    April 28, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: ive been id-ing as genderqueer for a while now bc i know im not a girl or a boy and i definitely have a gender but i dont know what? and ive been very confused on presentation lately bc i want to be understood with an underlying masculinity but wear feminine stuff and im just kinda??? its just very confusing and im very lost hi, anon. 🙂 i understand that feeling confused and lost sucks, but really it’s okay. it’s okay to be confused. it’s okay to not know what your gender is. it’s okay to not be sure how you want to present yourself. it’s okay to not be sure how to achieve how you want to present yourself. it’s okay to not know how your presentation relates to your gender, if it even does at all. as much as being confused and lost sucks, it is…

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    Vesper H.

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    本の紹介:「Xジェンダーって何?」

    October 4, 2016

    …one of many examples of why navigating セクマイ / LGBTQIA spaces in Japan can be painful at times.

    October 7, 2016

    QAC 54 – Confusing Gender Envy & Admiration with Attraction || Non-Binary | Asexual

    October 10, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I am a Muslim who wears hijab and I wanted to know if I have the right to use the label genderfluid to describe myself?”

    April 27, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I am a Muslim who wears hijab and I wanted to know if I have the right to use the label genderfluid to describe myself? Even though I identify as either male, female, androgynous or something else, I am AFAB and have always presented myself as female, so does this sort of question the validity of my claim as genderfluid? Because I wear hijab all the time, I feel like I can’t claim to be anything but female as many people see hijab as a gender indicator rather than as a religious concept? anon, you have every right to identify as whatever feels comfortable or right to you. how you present yourself neither validates nor invalidates your identity, regardless of what anyone else thinks or says. gender identity is one thing, gender (or self) expression is another. for some people, these two things happen to coincide with one…

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    November 28, 2017

    …one of many examples of why navigating セクマイ / LGBTQIA spaces in Japan can be painful at times.

    October 7, 2016

    QAC 50 – Biphobia x Non-Binary Erasure x Binarism || Bi Non-Binary People Exist

    June 12, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “s it possible to transition to non binary in California?”

    April 27, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Is it possible to transition to non binary in California? I want to get surgery to at the least remove/flatten my chest… But I’m worried insurance will not cover it. i don’t know a whole lot about California, but i do know that California is one of the few states that prohibits health insurance from denying someone coverage based on their trans status. i also know that Obamacare and Medi-Cal, among many other insurance plans, cover various forms of medical transition. honestly, from what i hear, you’re in one of the best states in America when it comes to trans healthcare, so i wouldn’t be too worried. try Googling your city’s name (or the name of a major city near you) and “transgender” or “transgender healthcare” to find resources that may help you. sadly, searching for trans resources will get you a lot further than looking for non-binary specific resources,…

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    Vesper H.

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    October 28, 2014
  • Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Is there a word for non-binary in Japanese that you know of?”

    April 26, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I’m going to be moving to Japan in a couple of months for work, and I am non-binary. Is there a word for non-binary in Japanese that you know of? Also, I usually use 私 in school/professional settings but I tend to use 僕 and more masculine language around my friends that know Japanese. Is it advisable to use pronouns like this or should I just use female pronouns even though I barely identify with female? I will probably be in a fairly rural area. (would you mind tagging as w so i can find?) hi and welcome to Japan in advance. 🙂 Xジェンダー / x-gender is the Japanese equivalent of non-binary. just as with the word non-binary in English speaking countries, the majority of people in Japan will have never heard of the word Xジェンダー unless you’re in trans friendly / aware spaces. the word exists and…

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    Vesper H.

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    QAC 26 – Gender Dysphoria: It’s Complicated. (a rant)

    June 30, 2014

    #TRP2015 準備完了

    April 25, 2015

    CNN: “Trying to Find Love as a Trans Man”

    March 20, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    gender non-conformity sure does make for good entertainment for cis people, huh Japan?

    April 25, 2016 / 1 Comment

    i was going to do my usual live-tweet thing where i vent my frustrations with various things i see on Japanese TV on Twitter, but i took too many photo receipts and have too much to say for Twitter, so i’ll just blurb about it here. warning: long post ahead full of many hastily taken cellphone photos of my tv. mobile users, i am so soooo sorry. trigger warning: offensive ignorance, transphobia

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    Vesper H.

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    July 14, 2014

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    December 18, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 49 – Singular ‘They’ | Gender Neutral Pronouns | This Has Been A PSA

    April 24, 2016 / No Comments

    singular ‘they’: voted word of the year in 2015 by the American Dialect Society, used by English speakers everywhere– even by Shakespeare– and yet today some people insist on claiming that using ‘they’ in the singular is “ungrammatical,” “trendy” or “uneducated.” pull up a chair and have a seat, because if you’re one of those people, this video was made for you. but hold up, there’s no way i’d put so much time and effort into a video just for your pathetic ass. more than anything, this video is dedicated to everyone out there fighting to have their pronouns remembered, used and respected. as hard as it is, don’t give up or feel guilty for asking people to use your pronouns. your comfort is important. your identity is valid. your request to be referred to with specific pronouns is 100% justified and worth fighting for. stay strong. next time someone…

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    Vesper H.

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    October 18, 2016

    more Sailor Moon Crystal fanpersoning #SCREAMING

    May 17, 2016

    #TRP2015 準備完了

    April 25, 2015
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    Miitomo

    April 21, 2016 / No Comments

    …oh, how i wish Nintendo would make it easier to add people on Miitomo. Miitomo has proven itself to be a great resource for wasting time and unwinding when i’m too stressed out / busy / whatever to deal with stuff. it’d be great if i could casually interact with you all there, but no. Nintendo has to be illogical.

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    Vesper H.

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    QAC 19.5 – Life Update: Thank you! + Names + Japan

    November 15, 2013

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    March 19, 2013

    “…what it means to become America’s boogieman”

    July 12, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A not Q&A: “I caught your discussion with someone over the way alterous attraction is described, and as someone who IDs as alterous, I’m also actually frustrated with it.”

    April 20, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I know this discourse isn’t front and center rn but I caught your discussion with someone over the way alterous attraction is described, and as someone who IDs as alterous, I’m also actually frustrated with it. I hate the “more than friends” thing. I hate “just friends.” I have a QPP I feel platonically attracted to, and I have two romantic partners, but I also have a lot of people that I’m just attracted to on a deeply emotional level and it doesn’t make sense for me as a quoi person to try to distinguish whether it’s romantic or platonic, because it just…is. I really couldn’t tell you how I feel. Trying to label it conventionally (or at all, in most cases) just doesn’t work and feels forced. Alterous is the only descriptor I’ve really found for it. I just wish that the person (people?) describing it were….better at…

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    Vesper H.

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    June 1, 2013
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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