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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “my friends told me she decided that “mom” is gender neutral and shes going to keep calling me that…”

    November 13, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: my friend group has always had this thing where they call me “mom”. a while ago I came out as trans to most of them, and one of my friends told me she decided that “mom” is gender neutral and shes going to keep calling me that bc it’s just our thing. but it’s kind of been bothering me lately bc I don’t want that used for me anymore. I feel like if I tell them that, they’ll get annoyed and ignore me and think I’m making a big deal out of it, when it actually kind of makes me dysphoric. my humble opinion is that you should be up front with them. tell them what you’ve told me, that being referred to as “mom” makes you feel dysphoric/that you aren’t comfortable being referred to as that anymore. if they’re really your friends they shouldn’t ignore or belittle your…

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    Vesper H.

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    February 23, 2016

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    April 5, 2018
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    QAC 30 – Gender Expression / Presentation Blurb

    October 28, 2014 / No Comments

    …what began as a blurb turned into a rant. how predictable. in this video i blurb/rant about my own gender expression and (as always) how society pisses me off. i curse quite a bit in this video, so….

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    July 12, 2017

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    July 12, 2016

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    April 29, 2019
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    QAC 26 – Gender Dysphoria: It’s Complicated. (a rant)

    June 30, 2014 / No Comments

    GENDER DYSPHORIA ISN’T BLACK & WHITE. NOTHING is black & white and i really wish people would stop acting as if body dysphoria is the black and social dysphoria the white of gender dysphoria. IT’S FAR MORE COMPLICATED THAN THAT. and that’s before you even consider that even internal/body dysphoria is inevitably connected to society, which i didn’t talk about at all in this video. anyway, i feel like more people need to acknowledge this fact, advice/resource blogs and websites especially. …i can’t even remember what it was that set me off on this rant. it was triggered earlier this week, but it wasn’t until today that i had time to get in front of a camera zzz…

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    December 10, 2017

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    November 26, 2018

    QAC 22 – LGBTQ J-Magazines: Garçon Girls + Novia Novia

    February 10, 2014
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    that feel when…

    June 28, 2014 / No Comments

    ….you think about how impossible it is to “pass” as a non-binary person.

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    Vesper H.

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    September 15, 2016

    …and here we are. again. (cw: homophobia, nsfw)

    July 17, 2018

    Black Mirror: “San Junipero”

    July 6, 2017
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy]

    “the faces of Vesper”

    June 8, 2014 / No Comments

    one day the locs that frame my face will be gone and i can’t help but wonder if i’ll even recognize my own face without them— they’ve become such A Thing. either way, the love-hate relationship with my hair continues for now…

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    April 21, 2016

    …mmm, decided there hasn’t been enough Calcifer on this blog, so here you go.

    November 20, 2017

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    December 9, 2013
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 10 – Gender Dysphoria & Body Mods

    July 6, 2013 / No Comments

    i think that dealing with dysphoria is all about owning the situation– taking control of the things that you do have at least some control over and doing what makes you happy. for me at the moment, that involves getting a septum piercing. 😛 i happen to like certain body mods, but body mods aren’t for everyone.

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    February 25, 2017

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    July 31, 2018

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    February 12, 2013
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    QAC 08 – Non-Binary Social Dysphoria (Body, Hair, etc)

    June 14, 2013 / No Comments

    i.e. why society makes me want to bind my chest, chop off my ass and cut off my hair.

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    August 17, 2016

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    June 30, 2014

    QAC 52 – Non-Binary vs Trans Identity | “Transitioning” | #NonBinaryYT

    August 16, 2016

VESPER H.

YouTuber & Blogger

Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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