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QAC 31 – Relationships… Meh.

November 17, 2014 / No Comments

in this video i think aloud about past relationships (friendships & romantic), social normative bullshit, international relationships and the future. the topic of relationships is something that at this point in my life i don’t care to think much about, let alone talk about, but i gave it a try. perhaps i’m somewhere among the gray-aromantic spectrum in addition to being biromantic / panromantic…? meh. more stuff i don’t feel like facing atm. for more information about types of attraction and/or romantic orientations, watch this video: http://youtu.be/Gi1AoGmo84o

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Vesper H.

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maverique: why i coined the word

June 16, 2014 / 2 Comments

there are words being coined for this and that all the time, especially on Tumblr, so i feel like i should explain why i’ve coined the word “maverique” and why i feel like the word “neutrois” is no longer enough for me. before i begin, however, i want to make it clear that i am NOT coining a gender identity. i am simply coining a word and applying it to an already existent gender which the English language currently lacks a word for. genders themselves are not coined nor invented. my gender has never changed; i have always been the gender that i am. what’s changing is the word i use to describe that gender because now, finally, i have a word that is more accurate. i have identified as neutrois for over a year… why am i changing that now? how is maverique different and why is neutrois no longer enough?

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Vesper H.

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“the faces of Vesper”

June 8, 2014 / No Comments

one day the locs that frame my face will be gone and i can’t help but wonder if i’ll even recognize my own face without them— they’ve become such A Thing. either way, the love-hate relationship with my hair continues for now…

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Vesper H.

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the privilege of ethnic identity

May 17, 2014 / No Comments

all too often people take for granted the fact that they know their family history, can trace their heritage and are able to identify as a member of an ethnic group (or ethnic groups) with any sort of conviction beyond appearance.

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Vesper H.

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Asexy Aces at Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2014 (04/27/2014)

May 7, 2014 / No Comments

in the beginning there were but three of us, but by the end there were five. 🙂 three of us actually met in a meetup thread on AVEN where i instigated our meetup and sign making for #TRP2014. then while walking in the parade it just so happened that L, who was walking behind us, happened to be ace herself! after the parade i was lucky enough to catch up with SHYNAMITES, whose non-binary pride sign i’d passed during the parade. when i asked to take zir photo, ze told me that ze’s asexual too! D; ah, it was a great day… note: photos #1, #3 and #4 taken by editingatwork and used with permission. (see also: the #TRP2014 photo gallery)

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The Neutrois “Standard”

February 11, 2014 / No Comments

so, there’s a thread on AVEN that opens like this… A new (to me) concept was recently thrown in my path. It’s the idea that there are sex orientations as well as gender orientations; ie that sex is not strictly what you physically look like, but what you want to look like (sexual characteristics-wise). For example, neutrois would count as a sex orientation, not a gender one; neutrois, as I understand it, is a desire to present as neutrally as possible, with the characteristics of neither binary sex. However, agender and genderless are gender orientations, because they specifically refer to the construct of gender, not physical aspects. This made a lot of sense to me, intuitively. It allows us to think of a single person as both neutrois and agender, to follow the above examples. Or neutrois and demi-guy, or androgynous man, or female agender, or any combination. I’m wondering how many…

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neutroisって日本語でなんと言いますか。

December 26, 2013 / No Comments

while randomly watching videos on YouTube i came across the vlog of a Japanese FtX (their words, not mine) person. i was so happy that i immediately started typing a comment introducing myself, but when it came to saying that i’m neutrois i couldn’t figure out how to say it. see, Japanese kind of sucks…. there is no word to distinguish between SEX and GENDER– the both equate to 性 (sei). i dare say that the entire concept of gender vs sex is lacking in Japan, but that’s a topic for another time. i thought that maybe neutrois could be translated as 無性者 (museisha; literally translates to “person without sex/gender”) but apparently that’s used to mean asexual! wtffffff….. so then i thought that maybe i could say 中立性者 (chuuritsuseisha), which literally translates to “neutral person” but apparently 中立性 (chuuritsusei) is used in regards to having a neutral stance on any given thing and so wouldn’t really be used specifically for gender despite 性 (sei)…

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QAC 17 – Choosing a Gender Neutral Name

September 19, 2013 / No Comments

choosing a new name is really hard for anyone, but it seems especially hard choosing a gender neutral name. for one, is any name ever truly gender neutral…? there’s so much that goes into gendering a name that i think it’s impossible to really say. either way, because i’m so picky i find myself with very few options to choose from…

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Vesper H.

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QAC 13 – Staying In The Closet

August 11, 2013 / No Comments

in this video i talk about how i’ve come to the conclusion that i won’t ever be coming out to my mom. at least, not intentionally.

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QAC 11 – Growing Up Ace (Asexual)

July 21, 2013 / No Comments

as a followup to QAC 02 – The Road to Asexuality, this video “briefly” covers my childhood and what brought me to questioning whether or not i was asexual in the first place. it should probably be noted that i am what some aces call a “non-libidoist” asexual. that is, in addition to being asexual (ie. not experiencing sexual attraction), i also happen to not experience a libido/sex drive. not having a libido/sex drive should NOT be confused with asexuality , which is simply a lack of sexual attraction. some asexuals do experience an active sex drive/libido, while others do not. either way, my lack of libido/sex drive is just something that happened alongside my asexuality; it isn’t what makes me asexual……

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