…played around with a site and designed a shirt inspired by this. would love to wear this shirt to Pride events and such. ;( [/random] edit: updated the photo to the final version of the shirt….. which i ended up ordering. THIS IS WHY I’M ALWAYS POOR. ;(( it probably won’t arrive in time for Asexual Awareness Week… but whatever, free shipping! and i’m not limited to only one week a year raising asexual awareness. 🙂 edit edit: please see THIS POST to order your own (similar) shirt.
many people use the word “queer” to describe or label their identity in regards to their sexuality and/or their gender. it’s a word that references the heteronormativity within society and expresses the fact that one identifies as being outside of or beyond such normativity… but is the word queer strictly limited to that? i have a feeling that this topic may bring about very strong opinions in some people… please be gentle! i’m genuinely curious. …better late than never? ;(
choosing a new name is really hard for anyone, but it seems especially hard choosing a gender neutral name. for one, is any name ever truly gender neutral…? there’s so much that goes into gendering a name that i think it’s impossible to really say. either way, because i’m so picky i find myself with very few options to choose from…
======= NAVIGATION BELOW ======= @00:00 – Disclaimer @01:09 – Is Asexuality part of the LGBTQ community? @01:57 – Arguments against inclusion of asexuality @03:58 – My opinion @05:07 – The Center, Vegas’ LGBTQ center @06:10 – Las Vegas PRIDE @06:53 – Asexual alienation in LGBTQ spaces @09:35 – The lack of B, T and other groups in LGBTQ spaces @11:59 – Asexual pride at PRIDE events…? @13:11 – “A” bashing in the film Gayby @14:01 – Does the rainbow flag really represent the entire LGBTQ? ================================ long video is LONG, i know. sorry! i have a lot to say on this subject. i understand that not everyone will agree with me on this topic; i certainly don’t expect eveyone to! i’m very interested in hearing others’ opinions on this, whether in regards to asexuality and the LGBTQ community or any other identity and the LGBTQ community. thanks for watching. 🙂
sorry for the long video and please do note that everything i said in the video is purely my opinion based on my experiences etc. i don’t claim to be an expert on anything…! and i totally forgot to mention how obviously i have to keep my gender under wraps during all of this being abroad business. i have to check “female” under “gender” on forms, if anyone asks i’m female, if anyone acts on the assumption that i’m female, i can’t disagree with them, etc etc. le sigh. sorry for being M.I.A. lately…! will try to do better. ;(
in this video i talk about how my anatomy (biology) affects my gender presentation/the clothing i wear. as a short, FAAB (female assigned at birth) neutrois person who dresses androgynously, shopping for clothes has always been a problem….
in this video i talk about how i’ve come to the conclusion that i won’t ever be coming out to my mom. at least, not intentionally.
my last update before moving back to America. why am i moving back to America….? life shit on me, that’s why. no, but seriously. i’m moving back “home” temporarily and will be on hiatus for a couple of weeks. bbs.
as a followup to QAC 02 – The Road to Asexuality, this video “briefly” covers my childhood and what brought me to questioning whether or not i was asexual in the first place. it should probably be noted that i am what some aces call a “non-libidoist” asexual. that is, in addition to being asexual (ie. not experiencing sexual attraction), i also happen to not experience a libido/sex drive. not having a libido/sex drive should NOT be confused with asexuality , which is simply a lack of sexual attraction. some asexuals do experience an active sex drive/libido, while others do not. either way, my lack of libido/sex drive is just something that happened alongside my asexuality; it isn’t what makes me asexual……
i think that dealing with dysphoria is all about owning the situation– taking control of the things that you do have at least some control over and doing what makes you happy. for me at the moment, that involves getting a septum piercing. 😛 i happen to like certain body mods, but body mods aren’t for everyone.
