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  • [A]sexuality,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    Asexy Aces at Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2014 (04/27/2014)

    May 7, 2014 / No Comments

    in the beginning there were but three of us, but by the end there were five. 🙂 three of us actually met in a meetup thread on AVEN where i instigated our meetup and sign making for #TRP2014. then while walking in the parade it just so happened that L, who was walking behind us, happened to be ace herself! after the parade i was lucky enough to catch up with SHYNAMITES, whose non-binary pride sign i’d passed during the parade. when i asked to take zir photo, ze told me that ze’s asexual too! D; ah, it was a great day… note: photos #1, #3 and #4 taken by editingatwork and used with permission. (see also: the #TRP2014 photo gallery)

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    September 9, 2013

    …mmm, so.

    March 24, 2017

    Re: Tokyo Ace Meetup

    April 5, 2015
  • [A]sexuality,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    photos from Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2014 (04/27/2014)

    May 7, 2014 / No Comments

    #TRP2014 was awesome! met lots of awesome people  and had an all around great time. 🙂 as seems to generally be the case at Prides, there seemed to be a huge under representation of everything but the L, the G and cross dressers, but what representation i did find made me extremely happy. above is a shot of the one non-rainbow flag that i saw (..ok, i did see a huge bear flag, but that doesn’t count) and i was lucky enough to meet and get a photo of a fellow non-binary ace! also, a couple of friends and i added to the diversity and inclusiveness of the event with our Asexual Pride sign, which we held with pride in the parade. ( see also: #TRP2014 photo gallery ) 

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    QAC 06 – Coming Out as a Panromantic Asexual

    June 1, 2013

    spotted: same-gender marriage feature on Japanese news

    October 12, 2015

    romantic orientation pride

    May 29, 2013
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 24 – Labels: Why They’re Important + Why I Use Them

    March 17, 2014 / No Comments

    a blurb about labels, their importance and why i use them. because i talk too damn much: @00:00 – update about my mom @00:52 – labels: more than just identity @05:22 – labels can suck @07:08 – why labels are important & why i use them i’m a little crazy in the beginning, but i swear i start making sense towards the end. ;(  

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    March 16, 2015

    photos from Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2014 (04/27/2014)

    May 7, 2014

    landscapes and fissures: navigating ace terminology in Japanese & English

    June 1, 2018
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 23 – Being Forced Out of the Closet (Bi/Panromantic Non-binary Asexual)

    February 24, 2014 / No Comments

    long video is ridiculously long. sorry about that, but i had to vent somewhere. ====== NAVIGATION ===== @00:00 – and the story begins @04:46 – “i’m asexual.” @10:02 – “imma watch all your obviously private videos!” @14:06 – “don’t worry, everyone’s like that!” @17:05 – “omg stop saying that.” @22:00 – patience is golden @24:32 – her head didn’t exploded ====================== TL;DW: my mom found this channel and saw videos that i never wanted her to see and wasn’t ready for her to see. shit sucks. BUT my mom is doing her best with what she’s found out, which is good… even if her best is painful. anyway, patience patience….. and all that jazz. the cat’s out of the bag and is managing well enough thus far. hopefully time won’t make the cat regret being out of the bag…………… and i forgot to mention in the video that my mom…

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    March 12, 2018

    QAC 28 – On “Blackness”, Queer Identity & Intersectionality (a rant)

    July 14, 2014

    sigh.

    July 23, 2017
  • Art[sy Fartsy],  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    GENDER.

    February 16, 2014 / No Comments

    GENDER it isn’t black & white no matter how much you want it to be …i made this for several reasons. it bothers me when i see someone’s gender identity being ignored, erased or invalidated for any reason*. it bothers me when i see people bitching about there being “too many labels” just because they themselves lack the need for them. it bothers me when i see people both within and outside of the LGBTQIA community (esp. within the genderqueer and non-binary communities) trying so hard to define this and that that they begin to paint things black & white, oversimplifying things to the point of erasing the shades of gray that so many people actually find comfort in. it bothers me when someone feels that they have the right to tell someone else that they aren’t the gender that they identify as because they don’t want to transition medically,…

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    May 14, 2016

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    May 14, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    The Neutrois “Standard”

    February 11, 2014 / No Comments

    so, there’s a thread on AVEN that opens like this… A new (to me) concept was recently thrown in my path. It’s the idea that there are sex orientations as well as gender orientations; ie that sex is not strictly what you physically look like, but what you want to look like (sexual characteristics-wise). For example, neutrois would count as a sex orientation, not a gender one; neutrois, as I understand it, is a desire to present as neutrally as possible, with the characteristics of neither binary sex. However, agender and genderless are gender orientations, because they specifically refer to the construct of gender, not physical aspects. This made a lot of sense to me, intuitively. It allows us to think of a single person as both neutrois and agender, to follow the above examples. Or neutrois and demi-guy, or androgynous man, or female agender, or any combination. I’m wondering how many…

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    February 25, 2017

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    September 18, 2017

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    January 2, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 22 – LGBTQ J-Magazines: Garçon Girls + Novia Novia

    February 10, 2014 / No Comments

    so i got my hands on a couple of really interesting Japanese magazines and decided to make a video about them in the middle of a snowstorm when i was dead tired. what the hell was i thinking? sorry for the crappiness of this video! それともビデオが日本語じゃなくて英語で録画して、ごめんね!日本語が難しすぎからだ。(´Д`)

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    identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

    July 21, 2017

    QAC 73 – 【Asexuality In JAPAN】An Interview ♠【アセクシャルって?】日本x英語圏  || #AAW2018

    October 26, 2018

    gender non-conformity sure does make for good entertainment for cis people, huh Japan?

    April 25, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    「友情結婚」

    January 10, 2014 / 1 Comment

    今夜 新しい言葉や慣用語を習った:「友情結婚」 mixiのAセクシャルのグループで友情結婚のオフ会についてのメッセージがあって、Googleでその言葉を調べた。そうすると意外にもたくさんのヒットがあって、適当にクリックするとたくさんの面白いBBSが見つけた。 ...親から結婚しろと口うるさく言われていて困っていまして・・・自分はゲイなのでそこの所を理解している女性と友達になってゆくゆくは友情結婚出来たらいい ??? wow. 信じられないと言うより信じたくない辛い事実だね…それがゲイである日本人の境遇だと言うこと。 i learned a new phrase tonight: “yuujou kekkon” (lit. “friendship marriage”) there was a message posted to an asexual group on mixi about an offline “friendship marriage” meetup, so i googled the phrase and got a surprising number of hits. from that, i stumbled upon one of many interesting message boards. ….my parents keep telling me to get married, it’s so annoying […] it would be great if i could find a woman whom i could marry with the understanding that i’m gay ??? wow. that gay people in Japan feel the need to go to such lengths is a truth that hurts.

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    July 12, 2013
  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 21 – Gender Identity & Feminism

    January 3, 2014 / No Comments

    i’ve never identified as a feminist and yet when it came to questioning my gender identity i somehow felt guilty for wanting to identify as anything other than my assigned gender, ie female. was i betraying myself? someone else? women everywhere?? i guess my relationship with feminism was and will always be more complicated than i’d thought. surely it’s not just me?

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  • [Random] Thoughts

    SIGH.

    January 1, 2014 / No Comments

    …it’s really depressing thinking about all the money i’m going to have to save up and then spend just to do away with something that i don’t need nor want. …and then it’s depressing thinking about all the people out there who’d love to have this thing that i don’t need/want. SIGH.

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    January 26, 2016

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    July 27, 2016

    “”two genders””

    December 30, 2016
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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