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QAC 58 – Escaping Womanhood || Non-Binary | AFAB | Internalized Misogyny

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August 16, 2017

QAC 73 – 【Asexuality In JAPAN】An Interview ♠【アセクシャルって?】日本x英語圏  || #AAW2018

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October 26, 2018

“the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

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April 5, 2018

Burnt Out & Neurotic: The Toll of Blogging While Ace and Mentally Ill

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December 26, 2018

“…what it means to become America’s boogieman”

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July 12, 2017
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Can I still be considered bi?”

    August 1, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I have a question, sorry if you’ve been asked similiar ones before. I’m sure you have. I’m a female and I like men and nb genders. I feel like I like other females too, but not to the same degree. I can see myself doing some sexual things with them, and I am attracted to the female body. But I don’t know if I would go all the way with sex with a woman. I feel like this somehow makes me less bi :/ I guess my question is: can I still be considered bi?   yes. 150% yes. it’s totally a misconception that bi people (and multisexual/multiromantic people in general) experience attraction equally or in the same exact way towards all of the genders that they are attracted to. this is nothing more than a misconception. a very harmful and often biphobic misconception– or even stereotype. more…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “i’m wondering if i’m agender? but i’m unsure bc i don’t want to just coopt transness.”

    August 1, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: i don’t understand gender. at all. it confuses me and when i see people who feel so strongly about their gender identity i respect it but i don’t get it. (i’m neurodivergent.) i know what clothes i like to wear and what genitals i have, but that’s not gender. so i’ve been calling myself cis because my assigned sex has never caused me discomfort. but the more i think about it the more i start wondering if i’m agender? but i’m unsure bc i don’t want to just coopt transness bc i’m confused…   anon, it’s 110% okay to be confused. you would not be “coopting transness” by identifying as agender, i promise. not everyone is 100% sure of their gender and not everyone can even relate to the concept of gender. this does not disqualify someone from identifying as one gender or another. hell, there are plenty…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: ” I’ve always identified sexually as bi, but maybe I’m homo?”

    August 1, 2015 / No Comments

    coffeeartheart said: So I watched your video ‘QAC 03’ and Its a lot to take in. I’m 20 and it just occurred to me that I may be (if I got it right) a Biromantic Homosexual but I was looking for conformation: What if I love ladies sexually in both a visual and physical way and I find guys attractive in a sexual way and want them to hold me, but the moment things get even remotely sexual it’s like I thought of dead puppies. I’ve always identified sexually as bi, but maybe I’m homo? Sorry for my personal inquiries..   hi! sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. your ask itself is most certainly not something you need apologize for! a common misconception that people have is that bisexual are assumed to be equally attracted to all of the genders that they are attracted to. while…

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  • Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    withU: a new Japanese LGBTQIA+ social networking site

    August 1, 2015 / No Comments

    withUは「全国のLGBTが一つになれる場所」というコンセプトで運営されています。普段の生活では会うことのできなかった人達と出会い、あなたのコミュニティの輪を広げましょう。サイト内の機能はすべて無料で使うことができます。 withUの中ではあなたがLGBTであることを隠す必要はありません。サイトを通じて本当の自分を理解し合える仲間を見つけてください。 withUの参加者はみんながあなたの理解者です。 just want to signal boost a new Japanese LGBTQIA+ social networking site called “withU” for those of you who speak Japanese and/or live in Japan. so far, the site seems very interesting and promising, having gained over 1,000 members since it became public last month. it’s like what would happen if mixi.jp and OKCupid teamed up and made a Japanese site? lol so far, the site seems to be inclusive of not just the L and the G, but also bisexual, pansexual, asexual, transgender and non-binary (Xジェンダー) people. you’re able to select all of these identifiers in your profile and when searching for people. there are even two asexual groups already! 😀 that said, the site does have some kinks to work out… the site seems to load slowly. also, in your profile you are required to make a selection from a dropdown menu titled 「セクシュアリティ」 (’sexuality’) which…

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  • [Random] Thoughts

    …whooo

    July 28, 2015 / No Comments

    sorry for going M.I.A., especially to those of you who’ve sent me asks/submissions. i’ve been computerless for the past week since my laptop died *wipes tear from eye* but an amazing friend (you know who you are! THANK YOU!!!) came to my rescue by letting me use her Mac until i can afford to buy a new laptop. <3 so now i’m bumbling around the first Mac that i’ve ever used in my life. whooooo~! i will respond to asks/submissions and start reblogging posts again as soon as i can catch my breath from work. also, i’m hoping to find a program that will let me edit and render my vlogs without paying money…. otherwise my YouTube channel will be dead for months until i get a new laptop. 🙁 in other news, i got to meet the amazing queenieofaces this past weekend! myself and a couple of other aces…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Quick question: is agender a part of non-binary?”

    July 21, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hey! Quick question: is agender a part of non-binary? I always think so, but I never really hear them in the same context. Thanks, I know you’re usually rather busy!   hi! any gender that does not fit into one of the two categories that society systematic splits gender into (ie. male / female) is commonly considered to be a non-binary gender. this includes agender as an agender person is neither male nor female. that said, how an agender person views themself in relation to the non-binary community at large is up to them. 🙂

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “I was curious about how one goes about figuring out how one is asexual.”

    July 21, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hello, Vesper. I was curious about how one goes about figuring out how one is asexual. I know I am gender neutral, or non-binary, but I have been questioning my sexuality. I know I have a high sex drive, but I’m unsure about my sexual attraction. I am sexually attracted to two people that I have know for almost a decade now, but those are the only two I’ve ever had a sexual attraction to. Also I appoligize about going anon, but I dont feel comfortable stating my sex drive under my profile. :o)   hi. 🙂 sorry for not responding sooner. you’re probably already aware of this, but figuring out one’s sexuality is an extremely personal process/journey. there is no particulare way that one goes about doing it. that said, i think that the process/journey regarding discovering one’s sexuality is similar in some ways to how one…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “I literally feel myself becoming less into women and more into men. What should I do?”

    July 17, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi, I have identified as pans but since I have been with my girlfriend for the past 5 years and with another girl 2 years before that ppl just assume I’m lesbian which I never minded until I started to take an interest in guys. I’ve told my gf but I don’t think she understands how much this is eating me up. I literally feel myself becoming less into women and more into men. What should I do? We are planning our future but for me I’m confused about everything I’ve began to accept about myself.   hi, anon. sorry for taking so long to reply. i’m sorry to hear that you’re in such a tough situation. 🙁 i can’t tell you what you should do, but i would suggest that you try again to communicate exactly how you feel to your girlfriend. this is just my opinion…

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    …in which i stopped talking to my mom

    July 12, 2015 / No Comments

    not sure where to start with this post… i can’t backtrack enough to even possibly cover all the things that lead up to where i’m at now. so i’ve been “out” to my mom as a non-binary, pan/biromantic asexual for a year and a half now. a few weeks ago i made a vlog about it, talking about… well, how mom has made very little-to-no progress in regards to accepting or understanding who i am and how much that hurts. i won’t go into details because the details can be found in the vlog. shortly after making that vlog (as in literally days later) a belated birthday card from mom came in the mail. i made this post about it, which you should read for the sake of context. after receiving that response from mom, i muted notifications from her and haven’t spoken to her since. literally since before this…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Is it normal to go back and forth on my sexuality?”

    July 10, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Is it normal to go back and forth on my sexuality? Like for a year claim im bi, then like turn around and the next year say im a lesbian but then question it again 2 years later?…   not everyone is always (or ever) 100% certain of their sexuality. sexuality is very, very complex. hell, for some people it even changes over time. as such, some people question their sexuality for months or years, some people are perpetually in a state of uncertainty and some eventually identify as one thing or another only to question that identity again down the road. and all of this is 100% ok. there is nothing wrong with or strange about questioning one’s sexuality. there is nothing wrong with changing the word(s) you use to describe yourself, no matter how many times you do it. regardless of whether it is just the…

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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