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Japanese gender / queer theory, anyone?

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May 22, 2017

“love languages”?? communication tool.

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May 1, 2019

allo by default: hypocrisy in “aspec” spaces

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February 25, 2017

Burnt Out & Neurotic: The Toll of Blogging While Ace and Mentally Ill

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December 26, 2018
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    sex indifference & aversion: not a matter of one or the other but both?

    October 6, 2015 / No Comments

    the following is a random blurb of thoughts after seeing this post. warning: negativity, sex talk || disclaimer: the negativity is aimed only at myself i’ve had issues supporting or even signal boosting anything that talks explicitly about “sex indifference” because of my own personal qualms with the term and how i see people describe what it means to be indifferent to sex. the way it’s described or defined varies greatly from person to person, but almost always there’s some sort of ‘but wouldn’t necessarily be opposed to the idea of having it’ tacked onto the rest and that bothers me. a lot. i used to casually refer to myself as sex indifferent, but now i can’t help but want to distance myself from the term as far as possible. but at the same time, i have no desire to take on the label of “sex averse” either. i think that at least…

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    Vesper H.

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    ”Daily ? UGHs”

    October 4, 2015 / No Comments

    random doodle about random things that i hear my students say to each other or that they say to me on any given day that make me go UGH. “SHE’s 30 and not married! lol” “you don’t have kids??” “don’t worry, you still have time! (to get married, have kids)” “lol T-chan もしかしてお前オカマ?! (don’t tell me you’re a tranny!)” “sensei’s on OUR team!” “but you’re a girl!” “キモイ!ホモかよ?! (eww! what are you, a homo?!)” “only girls would understand, right *given name*!” and the saddest, most frustrating part is that most of this is said by kids under 10 years old…

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    Vesper H.

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  • Feedback

    Feedback: “I have decide to come out as asexual today…”

    October 4, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I have decide to come out as asexual today and I don´t know how I feel about it, but I am kinda happy and somewhat relieve and wanted to tell you in this site first because you were my first contact with asexuality and thank to you I have learn so many things. Thank you for your channel, for your blog and your kindness with us anon that came with our questions. Is really reasurring know there is a person like you. So, yeah. Ace pride!   !!!!!!! good luck, anon!!! i sincerely hope that it goes well for you! and wow, i’m incredibly honored to be the first person you told. thank you, anon, and thank you for the incredibly kind words as well. it really is an honor to be able to help you and anyone else in any way. <3 w00t!! ace pride, indeed!!

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    Yokohama Rainbow Festa 2015横浜レインボーフェスタ 2015

    October 4, 2015 / No Comments

    this is a long shot, but i ended up meeting someone at Tokyo Rainbow Pride through Tumblr earlier this year, so i might as well try again. Yokohama will be hosting its first major LGBT event, Yokohama Rainbow Festa 2015, this month. it won’t be anywhere near as big at TRP, but i know that at least one local shop will be selling ace-inclusive things and at the very least it should make for an interest day in Yokohama. i’m thinking about going on 10/31 (Sat) and making a halfassed video out of it… anyone else going???

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “I wonder if we can use ‘pan’ for not only sexual attraction than why not the rest of them…”

    October 2, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: You know I wonder if I could identify as bi or pan. Because I am certainly asexual and wtfro/aro but my sensual, aesthetic and platonic orientations are pan I think? And if we can use that for not only sexual attraction than why not the rest of them.   there are people who use prefixes like bi-, pan-, homo-, hetero- etc to describe the other types of attraction that you mentioned. for example, pan(-)aesthetic, bi(-)sensual, homo(-)platonic etc. these words aren’t common, but i’ve definitely seen them in use, primarily within the ace and aro communities on AVEN and Tumblr.

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    Q&A not Q&A: ” I don’t really think zedsexual is the way to go. It is not only etymologically nonsensical, but sounds like something tumblr would make up…”

    October 2, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: As an asexual person, I don’t really think zedsexual is the way to go. It is not only etymologically nonsensical, but sounds “like something tumblr would make up” to the outside observers. This is just something else that will make people not take us seriously. Isn’t there another way? Maybe, some positive prefix? I know in other languages there is such thing but I’m not sure about English.   anon, while i personally don’t care for z/zedsexual either, i also don’t care for people criticizing a word because it sounds “like something tumblr would make up.” as if a word being coined on Tumblr automatically delegitimizes or discredits it. as if i or anyone else should avoid a word just because other people assume the word is somehow connected to Tumblr and that that is automatically a bad thing. anon, i realize that you yourself probably do not…

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    re: allosexual and zsexual

    September 30, 2015 / No Comments

    this is a great post that others ought to read and i just want to throw out my personal opinion on this topic so that it’s on this blog somewhere for future reference: i personally despise the word ‘sexual’ being used as a general catch-all for non-asexual people, largely because of what is said in the OP. when zsexual/zedsexual was first proposed i, like many, turned by back on the word allosexual because zsexual seemed like such a great idea to me at the time. that said, i personally no longer care for it for various reasons, the main two being that: i don’t like how the “A-to-Z” conceptualization positions asexuality and non-asexuality as two points on either end of a binary linear system. as a quasi-linguist and native English speaker myself, i don’t care for how English speakers are using the roman alphabet in such an arbitrary way. not everyone…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “so I noticed that in your Tumblr blog description it says that you put an emphasis on aro issues…”

    September 27, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: so I noticed that in your [Tumblr] blog description it says that you put an emphasis on aro issues, but don’t ID as aro yourself? I was wondering why that is? Like did you previously ID as aro, or is aromanticism important to you for other reasons? Sorry if this comes off as rude, or you’ve answered this before, I’m just curious because I don’t see many non-aro people advocating aromanticism and I haven’t seen an explanation for it looking through your aro tag   you’ve caught me! i literally just added that to the blog description a week or two ago? i can’t believe someone noticed lmao. despite aro being added to the blog’s description fairly recently, i’ve been reblogging and making aromantic inclusive and/or specific posts for around 2 years now…? admitted much more this past year than previously. why? good question. prior to ~2 weeks…

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  • [Random] Thoughts

    cautious optimism: yet another conversation with mom

    September 27, 2015 / No Comments

    for those who don’t know, i stopped talking to my mom back in July. the situation with my mom evolved over a long period of time and i’ve talked about it twice on YouTube. [ 1 + 2 ] well, today i want to say extremely tentatively that it seems like some progress has been made in terms of restarting our relationship. i’m trying really, really hard not to be overly optimistic because if i’m wrong and things fall apart again, it will hurt all the more if i let my guard down and allow myself to be happy now. (tl;dr below) in recent weeks prior to today mom has made attempts at contacting me with such conversation starters as “help me understand.”, “what is it you want me to say?” and “i’m taking your sister to the ER so i thought i’d message you (ie: please talk to me).” aside…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “do you think it’s ‘correct’ for hetero ace/aros to call themselves queer?”

    September 25, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hello, just asking cause I’m not entirely sure and I value your opinion… do you think it’s ‘correct’ for hetero ace/aros to call themselves queer. And I mean, is that something that should be allowed to be done without getting furiously shamed by other members of LGBT+ Because I’ve seen a lot of them get flack for using that term for themselves and now I’m not sure if it’s okay. I originally thought it was but… yeah. Thanks.   ….ahhh, The Debate. which shouldn’t even really be the debate that it is in the first place, imho. i generally prefer to stay out of The Debate because i feel like The Debate itself is an example of identity policing, most often on the part of people who do not believe that heteroromantic aces or aro heterosexuals are a part of the LGBTQIA community to begin with (and i…

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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