Queer As Cat | Page 35 of 74 | gender・ sexuality・ race ・intersectionality

one of many reasons why “QUEER” means so much to me.

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September 23, 2016

pen. ink. paper: journaling as self-care

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January 27, 2019

Sixty-six // Thirty-three

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December 22, 2018

“…what it means to become America’s boogieman”

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July 12, 2017

QAC 72 – Outted To Religious Mom: 4 Years Later | HRT | Non-Binary Relationship || #ItGetsBetter?

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September 18, 2018

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Feedback: “You’re a huge inspiration to me and someone I really look up to…”

August 22, 2016 /

we-who-sleep-and-dream-alone said: Not really a question but more or less a statement. You’re a huge inspiration to me and someone I really look up to. Most adults in my life don’t talk about gender and gender identity the way you do and it makes me feel really good. ….i am at a loss for words, both because your words are so incredibly kind but also because of my own shitty headspace right now. thank you for this extremely kind message. to say that i’m flattered to be of any help or inspiration to you whatsoever is an understatement, so thank you. <3

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Q&A: “im gay and ive known for like almost 2 years now but every time a guy talks to me i can’t help but…”

August 22, 2016 / No Comments

anonymous said: hey so like im gay and ive known for like almost 2 years now but every time a guy talks to me i can’t help but ask for more attention or flirt back i have a problem w saying no a lot and maybe that’s why but is it normal ? hi, anon. i’m a bit confused by your ask and am not sure whether i’m understanding it correctly, but… a person can definitely enjoy receiving attention from someone and initiating / returning flirting with someone even if they’re not actually interested in that person in any way. some people enjoy / do those things with anyone and some people don’t, but either way it doesn’t necessarily say anything about you as a person or your sexuality. besides, you know yourself, anon. if you’re gay you’re gay! trust yourself. also, try not to compare your actions or feelings…

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“”summer vacation””

August 20, 2016 / No Comments

[ video: a soundless and unfiltered 1 minute compilation from tonight’s 1 hour firework show shot from my apartment window! ] tomorrow marks the end of my one week “summer vacation” and i’m ridiculously bummed about it, but at least it’s ending with a bang. D; tomorrow’s agenda: go see the Ghostbusters movie since it’s finally come out in Japan. or maybe X-Men: Apocalypse? or maybe both. the real agenda is to just not care about the world for a day. wish me luck.

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Q&A: “I was wondering if it’s still possible to be nb if you present/have a mostly femme style.”

August 20, 2016 / No Comments

anonymous said: I was wondering if it’s still possible to be nb if you present/have a mostly femme style. definitely. you can expressing yourself however you like and still be non-binary, anon. femme non-binary people are no less non-binary than anyone else.

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Feedback: “Thank you so much for your “let’s talk” post because these are things…”

August 20, 2016 /

anonymous said: Thank you so much for your “let’s talk” post because these are things I definitely have never thought about that way and you opened my eyes to that and I will try to keep all of it in mind. I also wanted to specifically thank you for writing it out in a post as well as having the youtube video because for me that’s a major accessibility thing and I never would have been able to comprehend it the same way by watching/listening to a video. (re: this post) no problem, anon! thank you for the feedback. 🙂 i’m trying to be more mindful of accessibility by adding captions to my videos (going to caption the latest video tonight or tomorrow), but at the same time i’m aware that even with captions a video can still be inaccessible or less accessible to people… plus some people just prefer…

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Q&A: “I was wondering if you know of any articles or websites about what it’s like being ace in Japan…”

August 20, 2016 / No Comments

anonymous said: Hi there….I was wondering if you know of any articles or websites about what it’s like being ace in Japan (especially from the perspective of any ace people who are natively Japanese). I’m just interested in reading people’s experiences, where they learned about asexuality, etc. I tried searching google, but so much acephobic garbage came up that I had to finally shut down my browser. D: aside from the things that @harris-hijiri writes, which aren’t necessarily about the experience of being ace in Japan, i’m afraid that i don’t know of personal writing on being ace in Japan as a Japanese person that’s written in English. i tried searching for some, but i swear if i come across another article on herbivore men or ‘the japanese sex/population crisis’ written from a Western-centric point of view i’m going to throw my laptop out the goddamn window. everything that i could…

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let’s talk: the trans/cis binary

August 19, 2016 / 1 Comment

note: this post is also a YouTube video, which was made in response to commentary made on another video about identifying as non-binary but not trans. you may want to watch the latter video before reading this. let’s talk about gender. let’s talk how you may or may not be aware of the false binary or dichotomy of male / female gender and how it erases non-binary people. then, let’s talk about how that isn’t the only binary that exists involving gender and identity. let’s talk about how even if a non-binary person manages to navigate the male / female gender binary within society and exist openly as a non-binary person, they’re then faced with yet another binary, another dichotomy from within the very communities that they should at least be able to feel safer in. let’s talk about how within the LGBTQIA there is / are: questionnaires, registration forms,…

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QAC 53 – The Trans/Cis Binary | Non-Binary vs Trans Identity | Let’s Talk

August 19, 2016 / No Comments

as awareness of non-binary people continues to grow and awareness of the fallacy that is male/female gender binary grows with it, is a new gender binary taking its place? there is a common assumption within society in general, but dually so within the LGBT community, that anyone who isn’t trans is cis and vice versa… if you’re someone who believes this to be true, i’d like to invite you to join in on a conversation. let’s talk! even if you don’t believe that to be true, have a seat. let’s talk! but before we do, do me a favor and watch this video. ———– RELATED LINKS ———– QAC 52 – Non-Binary vs Trans Identity | “Transitioning” “Let’s Talk: The Trans/Cis Binary” (Tumblr post)

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mmmm… so.

August 18, 2016 / No Comments

i received some comments on my latest video asking about what some feel to be a binary between cis and trans identities and i was immediately like YESSSSSSSSS and dug up an old post from 2014 where i halfassedly whined about it. why haven’t i less halfassedly whined about it more since then?? anyway, now i’ve typed up this longass rant / PSA / whatever that i’m going to post tomorrow or the day after along with a YouTube video of the same because i feel like both audiences (and they are very different audiences) should see me whinge and… i’m just staring at the post now wondering how much backlash it and the video are going to get me. ugh. ugh. sigh.

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"Why Transgender People In Japan Prefer To Be Told They Have A "Disorder""

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ARTICLE: “Why Transgender People In Japan Prefer To Be Told They Have A “Disorder””

August 17, 2016 / No Comments

content warning: pathologization / medicalization of being trans; non-binary erasure; death mention (below) while i don’t agree with everything in this article (from how things are presented or worded to more factual things), this article is still representative of the sad truth that i’m continually navigating as a non-binary person in Japan. from the way that trans people themselves here actively embrace and rally behind Gender Identity Disorder (GID) not only as a medical condition but as an identity to how pathologized & medicalized literally everything surrounding being trans is here and how that can make things especially difficult for non-binary / Xジェンダー people, even when interacting with people in the trans community which is full of transmedicalism. the blatant non-binary erasure (dare i say enbyphobia) demonstrated by the head of the largest trans / GID organization in this country illustrates that perfectly in this article. “I reject the notion of…

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