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“love languages”?? communication tool.

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May 1, 2019

fuck your Oppression Olympics

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September 15, 2016

one of many reasons why “QUEER” means so much to me.

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September 23, 2016

Re: “”Visibility””

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September 18, 2017

h/History.

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February 11, 2019
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    anemia & medical misgendering

    February 21, 2017 / No Comments

    …really frustrated with how i can’t say that i’m anemic without people in general– but especially doctors– automatically relating my anemia to the assumed fact that i have a uterus that makes my life hell once a month. like seriously, could you not? the socially established association of a medical condition with a specific gender, with a specific sex, with a specific bodily function is so inescapable that as an AFAB person who’s assumed to be a woman, the second i mention being anemic to a doctor their thoughts automatically go to assumptions about my gender / sex / bodily functions and my anemia immediately gets chalked up to anemia due to blood loss. so inescapable that here in Japan at least iron supplements are often marketed specifically towards women. so inescapable that if i mention being anemic to a woman and she’ll immediately offer up earnest words of empathy…

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    Vesper H.

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    photo: a green house outside of which is a sign which reads "WEED 21+"

    legalized weed in America: one of many chips on my Black shoulder

    March 7, 2020

    story time: when “American” is more important than “African”

    January 7, 2017
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “…does anyone ever talk about how jobs can limit one’s choices for gender presentation?”

    February 21, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Concerning being either GNC or nonbinary, does anyone ever talk about how jobs can limit one’s choices for gender presentation? I’m in hard science, which tends to have much stricter standards of “professional presentation” (and thus gender-performance), than the humanities. I couldn’t get away with half of the presentation stuff that people on Tumblr endlessly espouse if I want to actually get a job in my chosen field, which is then used as proof that I’m a faker and trend-follower. unfortunately i don’t have any links on hand to offer you, but i have seen many people both online and offline talk about the limitations (or even complete inability) that they face regarding being able to present themselves in a way that reflects their gender (or lack thereof)– both in regards to on the job and as a student because of standards re: “professionalism”. especially here in Japan…

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    Vesper H.

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    February 21, 2015

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    May 17, 2016

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    June 4, 2013
  • Feedback,  Q&A

    Feedback: “i just read your post on HuffPo and I just love it…”

    February 21, 2017 /

    inariedwards said: hi i just read your post on HuffPo and I just love it and it was lovely to see someone the same age as me to talk about being late to the non-binary thing like I was, y’know? 🙂 so anyway, this is just a hello and a thank you 🙂 have an excellent day (re: this post) hello and thanks both for reading the article and for the kind message. 🙂 indeed, it means a lot to me whenever i come across something written / made by someone my age or older pertaining to both their age and being non-binary. i wish i came across things like that more often… again, thanks for the message. have a great day yourself!

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Feedback

    Feedback: “…you are one of my favorite blogs”

    February 15, 2017 /

    anonymous said: I just returned to tumblr after a rather long hiatus and I just came across a post of yours and remembered how awesome and fantastic you are, and felt the need to inform you that you are one of my favorite blogs <3 thanks for the kind words, anon. it was nice reading them, especially at the moment as i find myself increasingly uncomfortable and anxious existing on this site.

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I’ve always had these feelings of just my own personal identity BEING my gender??”

    February 12, 2017 / No Comments

    lovely-sawshark said: Ive been looking at the maverique stuff, and I think that might be my gender identity but I’m not sure?? Since I was about 12, I always thought “I don’t really have a gender. I’m just Liz. Liz is my gender.” At the time I thought this wasn’t normal and kept it to myself, and a couple of years ago I discovered the nonbinary community and jumped headfirst into the idea that I was agender. I don’t have a gender, I’m just Liz! Liz is my gender! But reading your posts makes me feel like maybe I’m a maverique?? Cuz I’ve always had these feelings of just my own personal identity BEING my gender?? Idk man, sorry for the spam   not spam at all. 🙂 if the number of asks i’ve received over at @maveriques​ expressing similar feelings are any indication, a lot of people will be…

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    Vesper H.

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    my collection…

    March 7, 2013

    01.12.2018: T Day à la Snapchat.

    January 12, 2018

    QAC 75 – Questioning In Silence?: Identity | Self-Discovery | Stigma || Random Thoughts

    February 27, 2019
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    word vomit: escaping womanhood

    February 10, 2017 / No Comments

    time to word vomit a continuous stream of thoughts that have been going around in my head for a while now. will probably run with this more later. cw: slurs the binarist society(/ies) we live in fucks over everyone– be they trans or not– with its enforcement of binary gender roles, among other things. sometimes i’ll come across an article, blog post, whatever talking about this. to a point. sometimes it will be pointed out that how and to what extent society polices and enforces gender roles differs based on the assumed gender at birth of the person in question, among other things. that in American society, for example, people deemed to be females at birth are afforded a certain amount of leeway that people who are deemed to be male at birth are not.

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    humbled

    July 31, 2018

    lmfao

    June 2, 2016

    this quote though

    November 7, 2015
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    adventures in Japanese TV: “Gathering of 13 Trans Women”

    February 9, 2017 / 1 Comment

    …once again i get home from work, turn on the TV to see a panel show doing a special featuring trans women. despite the title of the special, shown on the top left of the screen as「13人のオネエ大集合」 / “Gathering of 13 Trans Women”, it was actually 13+ guests divided into three groups: gay men, cross dressing gay men and trans women. click the photos to see translations / context in the captions.

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    Vesper H.

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    March 12, 2018

    insert self-indulgence here.

    August 16, 2017

    01.12.2018: T Day à la Snapchat.

    January 12, 2018
  • [Random] Thoughts

    …phone calls.

    February 8, 2017 / No Comments

    …i’d seen a post or two come across my dashboard related to what i’m about to go off about, but i never imagined that something like this would target me or my family. oh, how naive of me. anyway, i’m simultaneously pissed off, frustrated and worried and Twitter isn’t enough to contain these feels right now. on my way to work today i random get a message from mom saying “Have you been saying things that you shouldn’t say online? The government is monitoring you.” of course i’m like “whaaaat the fuck you talking about, mom?” my mom is no “conspiracy theorist”, but she did live through shit that you read about in textbooks and given the shit going on in America these days, there is immediate cause for alarm when those words come from her. apparently people claiming to be a ““research group”” (who won’t / haven’t told her an actual…

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    September 18, 2017

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    June 8, 2014
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Have you figured anything out about “folx” since then?”

    February 2, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I already follow you on tumblr and when I googled why people use folx instead of folks I was redirected to you! that’s cool…but in that ask you answered in 2015 you weren’t completely sure why folx was needed when “folks” is already gender neutral – that’s where I am as well. Have you figured anything out about “folx” since then? i’m guessing that [ this ] is the post that Google directed you to, but i wonder if you also saw [ the post ] that followed that one? since those posts in 2015, i can quite literally count on one hand the number of times i’ve come across usage of “folx” outside of Twitter, where it’s used quite commonly. i’ve personally come to the conclusion that while there may be people who use it for gender-related reasons, more often than not “folx” seems to be used exclusively on the internet…

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    that feel when

    January 28, 2017 / No Comments

    self-proclaimed allies look to you for guidance on how they can be a better ally while consciously or not expecting their hand to be held or their fragile feelings to be spared along the way; simultaneously oblivious every time they trample all over your feelings, perpetrating the very thing they claim to be against because they’re so focused on the elephant in the room that they pay no mind to their own everyday microaggressions.

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    February 9, 2017

    ….so i did a doodle.

    March 19, 2013
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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