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“love languages”?? communication tool.

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May 1, 2019

fuck your Oppression Olympics

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September 15, 2016

on the discrepancy between “asexual” in English & Japanese and confusion regarding demisexuality.

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May 12, 2017

pen. ink. paper: journaling as self-care

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January 27, 2019

gender feels; racial trauma.

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December 6, 2017

[Random] Thoughts, Mental [Un]health, Queer[ness]

Re: podcast recommendations?

September 6, 2017 / No Comments

queerascat: anyone have any queer-related (or relevant) podcast recommendations…? bonus points if it’s hosted by QPOC. preferably not iTunes exclusive. looking for something educational / intriguing / interesting to listen to on my weekly 3 hour (1.5 hours each way) commute across the Greater Kanto Area so i can be Quasi-Productive rather than fall asleep and miss my stops zzz… thanks in advance. 🙂 a huge thank you to everyone who suggested podcasts for me to check out! i really appreciate your help. also, i think i very much underestimated how popular podcasts even are since i haven’t actually followed any before and have never even ventured into the realm of fictional podcasts before. thanks to everyone’s help, i’ve amassed a list of 27 podcasts to check out– and counting! i even made a thing so that i actually look into all of them as i’m really bad at starting…

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podcast recommendations?

September 5, 2017 / No Comments

anyone have any queer-related (or relevant) podcast recommendations…? bonus points if it’s hosted by QPOC. preferably not iTunes exclusive. looking for something educational / intriguing / interesting to listen to on my weekly 3 hour (1.5 hours each way) commute across the Greater Kanto Area so i can be Quasi-Productive rather than fall asleep and miss my stops zzz… thanks in advance. 🙂

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Vesper H.

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September 1, 2016
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Q&A not Q&A: “i know yokohama has SHIP, an ngo which mostly does hangout type stuff, but they probably know someone”

September 5, 2017 / No Comments

anonymous said: i know yokohama has SHIP, an ngo which mostly does hangout type stuff, but they probably know someone ( re: this post ) !!!!! anon, thank you!! i already know of SHIPにじいろキャビン and have no idea why i didn’t even think of them at the time of answering the other ask… just further proof that i need more sleep, i guess… *sigh* anyway, as you said, SHIP is an NPO that runs the only LGBTQIA community center that i know of in Yokohama and hosts an assortment of monthly LGBTQIA events. i went to one event and checked out their community center once, but then work and finances got hectic and i haven’t been back since, sadly…. they seemed like good people, though. upon getting this ask, i immediately thought about dropping by there after work sometime to ask about counseling services, but then i went to their website…

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conversation with Mr. Psychiatrist: その②

September 3, 2017 / 1 Comment

※ cw: dysphoria, genitalia mention ….so, in typical me fashion, i ended up coming out as non-binary to my psychiatrist the other day. i’d had no intention of coming out to him, but at the same time i had no intention of making any effort to not come out to him, so. *shrugs* i’d already come out to him as queer / bi / ace during my first appointment, so i already had some means of gauging what his reaction might be like. also, this is the same guy who is overly focused on “results” and “remission” to the point of being laughable / uncomfortable at times, so i already had reservations about the guy from the start.

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on coming out to my psychiatrist

September 3, 2017 / No Comments

※ cw: dysphoria, genitalia mention ….so, in typical me fashion, i ended up coming out as non-binary to my psychiatrist the other day. i’d had no intention of coming out to him, but at the same time i had no intention of making any effort to not come out to him, so. *shrugs* i’d already come out to him as queer / bi / ace during my first appointment, so i already had some means of gauging what his reaction might be like. also, this is the same guy who is overly focused on “results” and “remission” to the point of being laughable / uncomfortable at times, so i already had reservations about the guy from the start.

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Q&A: “Do you know of any LGBTQ (or LGBTQ-competent) counseling services in Japan?”

September 3, 2017 / No Comments

anonymous said: Vesper, do you know of any LGBTQ (or LGBTQ-competent) counseling services in Japan? Specifically in the Yokohama/Tokyo area, but online resources would also be appreciated. anon, you must be psychic, because you have impeccable timing. i just had a discussion with my psychiatrist about this the other day and was going to keep on procrastinating writing about how it went, but your ask was the nudge i needed to get off my ass and write The Thing. you may be interested in reading The Thing, but in the interest of saving you some time, here’s a spoiler alert: my psychiatrist wasn’t all that helpful. if you’re looking for counseling services in English, he seems skeptical about there being anyone in the Yokohama / Tokyo area (in so far as he knows) who offer services specifically dealing with LGBTQIA people or the issues that we face. as for counseling…

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Feedback: “it is so fucking cool to know that there is a resource for me to learn about queer language and culture in [Japanese]…”

September 1, 2017 /

anonymous said: Can I just say that as someone who’s currently learning Japanese in school, it is so fucking cool to know that there is a resource for me to learn about queer language and culture in this new language. glad to be of help, anon. 🙂

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Q&A: “I had someone who was a POC tell me [maverique] was appropriative of POC cultures…”

September 1, 2017 / No Comments

anonymous said: This is probably a complex issue, so apologies in advance if I have to send multiple asks, but I’m white l, and recently I have been identifying as Maverique, it is the best way I’ve found to describe my gender and it sits very well for me, but I had someone who was a POC tell me it was appropriative of POC cultures and was basically just ‘white people taking it and making it okay to id as a third gender’ and, while I disagreed with them and it was very upsetting, (pt 1) I know it is not my place to argue with them over what is and isn’t cultural appropriation. I’m not really sure what to do, because they told me it would be racist of me to continue id’ing as maverique and that I should use neutrois or something similar instead, but neutral terms aren’t…

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Q&A: “So using “jibun” can work as a personal pronoun?”

September 1, 2017 / No Comments

anonymous said: hey i saw your post about how to say you’re NB in japanese and that’s super cool but i have a question. So using “jibun” can work as a personal pronoun? because i’ve seen it as such but i also thought it was closer to use it for the word “oneself” rather than a simpler “i” or “me”. Also it might mean “yourself” in kansai dialect or something? Could you expand on that if it’s not too much trouble? please and thanks ( re: this post ) 自分 (”jibun”) is a reflective pronoun that generally refers back to the person using it. how it translates into English is simply a matter of grammar (ie. what grammatical role it’s serving within a sentence). 例 / example: ※ 自分は別に納豆が嫌いなわけじゃないけどさ… JP： jibun wa betsu ni nattou ga kirai wake janai kedo sa… EN：it’s not like i particularly hate natto or anything, but… ※自分の誕生日さえも忘れちゃって、超恥ずかしい。…

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Feedback: “Thank you for being visible and thank you for all your thoughts you share with others…”

August 31, 2017 /

V.I. said: Thank you for being visible and thank you for all your thoughts you share with others. I watched every single of your videos and I am so grateful for everything you do and say. I can relate to so many things you talk about and everything you say makes so much sense. Thank you for being there and for helping so many people. I am sure that there are a lot of us who remain silent just because we are scared to be out, but I would like you to know that we are here and support you. Best, V. I. …..i’m speechless, V. I.. thank you. thank you so much for not only watching one or three of my videos– but for watching all of them?! thank you for coming here to share your thoughts with me, as well as for your touching words of support. thank…

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