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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    Snapchat rant #163

    July 2, 2016 / No Comments

    …meanwhile, i went to an Xジェンダーオフ会 / non-binary meetup in Tokyo and snapped parts of my day on Snapchat. thought it might be interesting to some.

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    Vesper H.

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    Starbucks wifi censorship

    January 2, 2017

    “”two genders””

    December 30, 2016

    QAC 37.5 – Life Update: Therapy / Mom Drama 3.0 / LGBT Meetups in Japan

    August 11, 2015
  • [Random] Thoughts

    lmfao

    June 2, 2016 / No Comments

    …this is too funny, considering i’ve known this person since 2003 and this is literally the first time we’re having this conversation. D;

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    transphobia & non-binary erasure in Japanese media

    March 17, 2016

    chronic long-term memory problems…

    July 4, 2018

    ARTICLE: “Why Transgender People In Japan Prefer To Be Told They Have A “Disorder””

    August 17, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness]

    that feel when: Race / Culture

    December 14, 2015 / No Comments

    that feel when you’re with a group of friends and everyone’s bouncing off of each other talking about the difficult life shit that they deal with, then you chime in mentioning stuff that has to deal with race / culture and suddenly things get quiet… ….because, you know. everyone else in the group is white and doesn’t know what to say. opps. the race / culture thing. shouldn’t have gone there with you guys, huh?

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    identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

    July 21, 2017

    QAC 37.5 – Life Update: Therapy / Mom Drama 3.0 / LGBT Meetups in Japan

    August 11, 2015

    “i am asexual”

    February 12, 2013
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness],  Japan[ese]

    western bullshit travels & comes out of the mouth of babes. ugh.

    November 30, 2015 / No Comments

    …in one of my classes today we were discussing colors and food. we were in the middle of discussing food that’s yellow and someone’d said banana, so i wrote it on the board under yellow. all of the kids were talking at once shouting colors and foods, but then one kid talks louder to try to get my attention. kid: ne ne! i heard foreigners call Japanese people “yellow”! me: *quickly turns to kid wide-eyed* …what?? kid: yeah, like you know how there’s black people, they call Japanese people “yellow monkeys”. me: *staring at this kid totally wide-eyed and slack-jawed in utter disbelief* *in the seconds of silence while my mind’s thinking a million different things, a few other kids stop talking and stare at me having noted my odd reaction* me: *5 secs that feel like a minute later* that’s hella offensive, where did you hear– never mind, what’s…

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    #TRP2017

    May 11, 2017

    Re: “”Visibility””

    September 18, 2017

    IF {subcommunity building} THEN {…?}

    March 11, 2019
  • 海外に行ったもうひとつの理由は、「どこかに行けば、もっと住みやすい場所があるのではないか」という自分探しの旅でもあったのです。海外を旅していて周囲からは「いいね、楽しそうだね」と言われたけれど、実は旅をしていた時が一番苦しかったと思います。

    逃げたいと思って行ったはずの海外はもっと残酷で、世界中のどこに行っても「She? He?」と聞かれ続けたのです。南極に行った時、男性とルームシェアをするのか女性とルームシェアをするのかで揉めた時に「世界の果てに行っても、性別からは逃げられないんだ。世界中のどこに行っても、自分からは逃げられない。」と気づきました。

    エジプトの砂漠で絶景を見て感動をしていても、心のどこかで自分の身体に苦しんでいる自分がいて「こんなところに来てまでも僕は自分の身体が嫌なんだ」と確信が生まれ、手術を決意したのです。

    ずっと生きやすい場所はないかと探してきたけれど、これからは自分にとって都合のよい場所を探すのではなく、今いる場所を気持ちよく生きられるようにしていこうと思うようになりました。

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    [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    this quote though

    November 7, 2015 / No Comments

    one more reason why i went abroad was because it was a trip for myself who thought ‘if i go somewhere there’ll be an easier place [for me] to live.’ while traveling those around me said ‘that seems fun, you must be enjoying yourself,’ but actually i think the time when i was travelling was the hardest. life abroad, where i thought i’d be able to get away [from it all] ended up being brutal and no matter where in the world i went i kept being asked ‘She? He?’ when i went to the South Pole i got into a dispute over whether to do a room share with males or females. then i realized ‘even if i go to the end of the world, i can’t escape being gendered. no matter where in the world i go, i can’t escape myself.’ even while being moved by the spectacular…

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    humbled

    July 31, 2018

    Documentary Explores The Reality Of Being Black And Gay In The Church

    November 14, 2015

    QAC 24.5 Life Update: Tokyo / Asexual Pride + Outted Again + More

    June 3, 2014
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    spotted: same-gender marriage feature on Japanese news

    October 12, 2015 / No Comments

    there i was, doing stuff on my computer totally not paying attention to the news on TV, when i looked up and saw “LGBT” in big letters on the screen. i ran and got my phone to take photos lmao. the story was about an American and Japanese same-gender couple trying to get married in Japan. about how for the American it was so frustrating because same-gender marriage had finally been made legal in his home country, but here in Japan wedding agency after agency kept refusing them because they wouldn’t perform a same-gender wedding, but then finally after months of trying they found an agency who would wed them. they were even able to be wed at a shrine like they wanted. 🙂 in the end, they also got married in America too, so it was a happy ending! in Japan where LGBT/セクマイ awareness is extremely low and the…

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    QAC 37 – Forced Out of the Closet: 1.5 Years Later (Non-Binary Asexual)

    June 16, 2015

    identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

    July 21, 2017

    「やがて君になる」/ “Yagate Kimi ni Naru”: an aro/ace coded, sapphic ‘love story’…?

    October 8, 2018
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    sex indifference & aversion: not a matter of one or the other but both?

    October 6, 2015 / No Comments

    the following is a random blurb of thoughts after seeing this post. warning: negativity, sex talk || disclaimer: the negativity is aimed only at myself i’ve had issues supporting or even signal boosting anything that talks explicitly about “sex indifference” because of my own personal qualms with the term and how i see people describe what it means to be indifferent to sex. the way it’s described or defined varies greatly from person to person, but almost always there’s some sort of ‘but wouldn’t necessarily be opposed to the idea of having it’ tacked onto the rest and that bothers me. a lot. i used to casually refer to myself as sex indifferent, but now i can’t help but want to distance myself from the term as far as possible. but at the same time, i have no desire to take on the label of “sex averse” either. i think that at least…

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    Re: “”Visibility””

    September 18, 2017

    sigh.

    July 23, 2017

    QAC 66 – Split Attraction Model: Opting Out Of Romantic Orientations || Grayromantic | Asexual

    March 12, 2018
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy]

    random is random

    August 9, 2015 / No Comments

    and my 1 week vacation begins with a doodle on the 2.5hr train ride to Tokyo to finish my sleeve tattoo. 😀 now that i FINALLY have some free time, i plan to get shiz done irl as well as on Tumblr and YouTube. お楽しみに!

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    …so. selfies.

    February 15, 2015

    QAC 05 – Gender Blurb: Neutrois?

    May 29, 2013

    QAC 44 – Dear White People: About “People of Color” (POC) | A Rant

    December 20, 2015
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    spotted: LGBT 101 on Japanese TV

    February 21, 2015 / 1 Comment

    there i was, doing stuff on my computer completely ignoring my tv when i look up to some celeb guessing at what LGBT stands for, saying stupid shit like B stands for ばあちゃん/grannies and T stands for 父ちゃん/daddies to be funny. i only got my phone out in time to take photos during the 1 minute that was spent talking about the subject seriously in which the guy “educating” the panel of celebs talked about how approximately 5% of people in Japan are LGBT, about bullying in schools, about coming out and about how to respond if someone comes out to you. seriously 日テレ. it’s great that you spent 1 minute educating people, but you also spent 1 minute making light of the subject. not good enough.

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    April 5, 2015

    Japanese gender / queer theory, anyone?

    May 22, 2017

    Burnt Out & Neurotic: The Toll of Blogging While Ace and Mentally Ill

    December 26, 2018
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Mental [Un]health

    …therapy smerapy!

    August 3, 2014 / No Comments

    so lately i’ve been thinking about therapy. part of me thinks that it might be a good idea. another part of me is convinced that it’s a pointless waste of money when i need to be saving money, plus i don’t /need/ therapy anyway, so why bother? i can’t seem to come to any decision. meh.

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    カルシファー、お帰り。 Welcome Home, Calcifer.

    September 17, 2017

    IF {subcommunity building} THEN {…?}

    March 11, 2019

    one of many reasons why “QUEER” means so much to me.

    September 23, 2016
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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