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QAC 39 – Biromantic + Panromantic Pride! | Being Both Bi & Pan

September 23, 2015 / No Comments

happy Bi Visibility Day and Bi Awareness Week! 🙂 in this video i talk about what being biromantic and panromantic means to me, common questions i get about being bi and pan and why i identify as both rather than one or the other. i also talk about my journey to realizing my romantic orientation and how being black and being asexual played a part in that journey. ========= TIME POINTS ========= @00:00 – happy Bi Awareness Week & Bi Visibility Day! @00:39 – what is “biromantic” & “panromantic”? @01:20 – what being biro and panro means to me. @01:30 – FAQ: “but bi means two!!!“ @02:53 – FAQ: “but then how is bi different from pan???” @04:09 – FAQ: “but why do you identify as both bi & pan???“ @09:07 – coming out to myself at 27: race played a part in it. @10:56 – coming out to myself…

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Vesper H.

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Q&A: “I literally feel myself becoming less into women and more into men. What should I do?”

July 17, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: Hi, I have identified as pans but since I have been with my girlfriend for the past 5 years and with another girl 2 years before that ppl just assume I’m lesbian which I never minded until I started to take an interest in guys. I’ve told my gf but I don’t think she understands how much this is eating me up. I literally feel myself becoming less into women and more into men. What should I do? We are planning our future but for me I’m confused about everything I’ve began to accept about myself. hi, anon. sorry for taking so long to reply. i’m sorry to hear that you’re in such a tough situation. 🙁 i can’t tell you what you should do, but i would suggest that you try again to communicate exactly how you feel to your girlfriend. this is just my opinion…

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Q&A: “What is the best way to help myself figure out [whether I’m bi or pan]?”

June 7, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: So I can’t tell if I am closer to pan or bi because I live in an area where most people are male or female. What is the best way to help myself figure that out? listen to your heart and go with whichever word you feel describes you. you don’t have to have experience with a person of every gender to identify as one or the other. just go with what feels right based on how you feel now and in the future, if it turns out that another word describes you better, than you can switch to using that word if you so choose. just checking, but do you know that both may describe you? because there is overlap between the two. [+bonus reading]

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QAC 31 – Relationships… Meh.

November 17, 2014 / No Comments

in this video i think aloud about past relationships (friendships & romantic), social normative bullshit, international relationships and the future. the topic of relationships is something that at this point in my life i don’t care to think much about, let alone talk about, but i gave it a try. perhaps i’m somewhere among the gray-aromantic spectrum in addition to being biromantic / panromantic…? meh. more stuff i don’t feel like facing atm. for more information about types of attraction and/or romantic orientations, watch this video: http://youtu.be/Gi1AoGmo84o

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QAC 23 – Being Forced Out of the Closet (Bi/Panromantic Non-binary Asexual)

February 24, 2014 / No Comments

long video is ridiculously long. sorry about that, but i had to vent somewhere. ====== NAVIGATION ===== @00:00 – and the story begins @04:46 – “i’m asexual.” @10:02 – “imma watch all your obviously private videos!” @14:06 – “don’t worry, everyone’s like that!” @17:05 – “omg stop saying that.” @22:00 – patience is golden @24:32 – her head didn’t exploded ====================== TL;DW: my mom found this channel and saw videos that i never wanted her to see and wasn’t ready for her to see. shit sucks. BUT my mom is doing her best with what she’s found out, which is good… even if her best is painful. anyway, patience patience….. and all that jazz. the cat’s out of the bag and is managing well enough thus far. hopefully time won’t make the cat regret being out of the bag…………… and i forgot to mention in the video that my mom…

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October 27, 2013 / No Comments

got my custom made shirt in the mail yesterday. 🙂 had to take these photos a million times as my hair was always covering something. ;( see also: this post and this post about the design of this shirt

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custom shirt

October 13, 2013 / 1 Comment

…played around with a site and designed a shirt inspired by this. would love to wear this shirt to Pride events and such. ;( [/random] edit: updated the photo to the final version of the shirt….. which i ended up ordering. THIS IS WHY I’M ALWAYS POOR. ;(( it probably won’t arrive in time for Asexual Awareness Week… but whatever, free shipping! and i’m not limited to only one week a year raising asexual awareness. 🙂 edit edit: please see THIS POST to order your own (similar) shirt.

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AskAPan Week 08 – How I Discovered Pansexuality / Panromanticism

July 12, 2013 / No Comments

nighstar blurbs about how they discovered pansexuality and panromanticism.

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AskAPan Week 07 – Family responses to the LGBTQ community

July 5, 2013 / No Comments

nighstar blurbs about their family’s feelings towards the LGBTQ community and how they deal with negativity. their advice: deal with each person and each situation on a one by one basis because every person and every situation is different.

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AskAPan Week 06 – “Genderblind”ness (+DOMA comments)

June 28, 2013 / No Comments

my (humble) opinion on many pansexual’s and panromantic’s use of the term “genderblind” and why such a term is highly problematic, plus brief comments re: DOMA.

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