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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  YouTube[r]

    QAC 66 – Split Attraction Model: Opting Out Of Romantic Orientations || Grayromantic | Asexual

    March 12, 2018 / 3 Comments

    i’ve said this before on Tumblr, but it’s time to make it “official” on YouTube: i don’t identify as biromantic or panromantic anymore. in fact, i don’t identify as “-romantic” anything anymore. after years of quietly questioning my experience of so-called “romantic” attraction, all the while trying to navigate spaces which obviously didn’t have someone like me– someone who neither felt comfortable being assumed “[allo]romantic” nor “aromantic”– in mind, i finally opted to discard romantic orientations (for myself) all together. rather, i identify as a bi ace. as a pan ace. although if i’m being honest, more often than not as a queer ace or more simply as “queer”. but what exactly is the difference between “biromantic ace” and “bi ace”? after over a year of having identified as the latter, it seems to me that thanks to amatonormativity and the general normalization of romantic orientations in ace communities, people don’t see…

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    June 19, 2018

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018

    QAC 48 – Non-Binary Gender Norms & (A)sexuality: Yeah, No.

    March 27, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Black[ness],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 60 – Race, Culture & [A]sexuality: Support Asexual People Of Color

    October 23, 2017 / No Comments

    Asexual Awareness Week is a week set aside in October to not only show your pride as an asexual person, but to help raise awareness of asexuality and asexual people. sadly, some of the people who are most in need of increased awareness and resources are those who go unnoticed even within the asexual community itself. it’s no secret that the Asexual Community, particularly in English-speaking countries, has a Whiteness Problem. or at least, i hope that it isn’t. there is more often than not a distinct lack of racial / ethnic diversity in asexual communities and spaces, which is why it ought to surprise no one that there is also a lack of resources and even awareness among fellow aces about the unique and diverse struggles and needs of aces of color. with the bulk of asexual awareness, resources and discourse revolving around white faces and common narratives that…

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    October 12, 2015

    QAC 75 – Questioning In Silence?: Identity | Self-Discovery | Stigma || Random Thoughts

    February 27, 2019

    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2017: ACES & ENBIES

    May 15, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Hi, I identify as bi and aro and I’ve been questioning being on the asexual spectrum for a year…”

    October 2, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: (part 1/2) Hi, I identify as bi and aro and I’ve been questioning being on the asexual spectrum for a year but I can’t get anywhere. I’ve always noticed I wasn’t attracted to my partners even before I knew asexuality existed but oddly, it didn’t bothered me or made me question things on the moment. However, I can have fantasies about people I know or celebrities but it never becomes reality. When I have sex with my partners, it’s because I have a libido and I feel emotionally good with them. (part 2/2) I can’t relate with most ace stories since I have fantaisies, a libido and sex. But at the same time, I can’t totally relate either with allosexual way of things. And being bi means I exist in that weird paradox where I can’t draw the line between being attracted to all genders or none. I…

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    QAC 22 – LGBTQ J-Magazines: Garçon Girls + Novia Novia

    February 10, 2014

    comments on my “QAC 36 – What Acephobia & Asexual Erasure Looks Like” video.

    November 26, 2015

    humbled

    July 31, 2018
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

    July 21, 2017 / No Comments

    i don’t know why, but it only just occurred to me that in referring to myself as a “queer ace”, as i sometimes do, i may be inadvertently giving off the impression that i don’t think that aces are inherently queer…? that “queer” modifies my aceness rather than encompasses it…??

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    QAC 18 – Queer: More Than Sexuality & Gender Identity?

    October 12, 2013

    QAC 31 – Relationships… Meh.

    November 17, 2014

    QAC 23 – Being Forced Out of the Closet (Bi/Panromantic Non-binary Asexual)

    February 24, 2014
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    #TRP2017

    May 11, 2017 / No Comments

    a recap of Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2017 via my Twitter account(s). the tweet(s) about the pamphlet showcasing various flags by Love Piece Club will be the subject of the next post…

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    QAC 48 – Non-Binary Gender Norms & (A)sexuality: Yeah, No.

    March 27, 2016

    …annnd that’s a wrap!

    May 7, 2017

    literal “social distancing” from the ace community

    April 1, 2020
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I’ve always had these feelings of just my own personal identity BEING my gender??”

    February 12, 2017 / No Comments

    lovely-sawshark said: Ive been looking at the maverique stuff, and I think that might be my gender identity but I’m not sure?? Since I was about 12, I always thought “I don’t really have a gender. I’m just Liz. Liz is my gender.” At the time I thought this wasn’t normal and kept it to myself, and a couple of years ago I discovered the nonbinary community and jumped headfirst into the idea that I was agender. I don’t have a gender, I’m just Liz! Liz is my gender! But reading your posts makes me feel like maybe I’m a maverique?? Cuz I’ve always had these feelings of just my own personal identity BEING my gender?? Idk man, sorry for the spam   not spam at all. 🙂 if the number of asks i’ve received over at @maveriques​ expressing similar feelings are any indication, a lot of people will be…

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    July 5, 2013

    ? QAC 76.5 – 11 Years In The Making: #TheBigChop || Non-binary | QPOC | Haircut

    June 1, 2019

    “maverique” v2.0

    June 15, 2014
  • [A]sexuality,  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    the #Jughead mess masterpost

    January 20, 2017 / 4 Comments

    this post marks the last time i’ll be responding to asks about / reblogs of the post i made about the fight for Jughead’s correct portrayal on the CW’s Riverdale. after 3 days of responding to nearly 15 asks / posts on the topic and the anxiety that that has caused me on top of everything else going on in my life, i’m calling it quits on that post. while i still stand by the admittedly unclear point that i was attempting to make, i do apologize to those who were hurt by my unclear wording. i’m also done with talking about asexual representation in general or fandom-related anything anymore. while i appreciate the kind words of encouragement i received, it’s not worth the cost to my mental health to talk about even my own representation anymore. this post serves as both a future point of reference on the mess that…

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    QAC 11 – Growing Up Ace (Asexual)

    July 21, 2013

    botched allyship & language barriers #TRP2017

    May 11, 2017

    the ‘Sin City’ asexual

    January 10, 2019
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I’m a trans male and I’m attracted to people with feminine gender identity or presentation…”

    November 15, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I know you aren’t an omniscient god of queer or anything, but I really respect a lot of your opinions so I figured I might as well ask your opinion on this. I’m a trans male and I’m attracted to people with feminine gender identity or presentation. In other words, any female, plus any other gender as long as they present as feminine. I’m not sure I have the right to use anything other than straight, but I also feel as if that reduces identity to being just expression. Thoughts? in my humble opinion, if someone uses a word other than “straight” to describe themself, it isn’t because they have the right to use that word. who a person is and the word(s) one uses to refer to that isn’t a matter of rights. that said, if it were (or if i were to stop being ridiculous and take what…

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    QAC 51 – #ProudToBe Black Non-Binary Bi Pan AND Asexual

    June 22, 2016

    sigh.

    July 23, 2017

    one of many reasons why “QUEER” means so much to me.

    September 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Is it possible for someone to be aromantic and bi/pansexual?”

    October 21, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous asked: Is it possible for someone to be aromantic and bi/pansexual? I’m not trying to be rude or anything. I’m genuinely curious because you’re one of the few people I’ve come across whose biro/panro and ace, so I’m just wondering if one could be the former. I hope I didn’t word this incorrectly. If this ask comes off as harmful in any way, then I’m sorry. it’s more than possible, anon. i think you’ll find that there are plenty of aromantic bisexuals and aromantic pansexuals out there who would be more than happy to speak to the fact that their existence is more than just a possibility, it’s fact. 🙂 in other words, someone can most certainly be aromantic and bisexual / pansexual, anon, and no worries! your ask is worded just fine.

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    #TRP2017

    May 11, 2017

    mission Read All The Queer Manga

    December 18, 2016

    QAC 22 – LGBTQ J-Magazines: Garçon Girls + Novia Novia

    February 10, 2014
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Would it be possible for someone to identify as maverique & neutrois?”

    October 14, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Would it be possible for someone to identify as maverique & neutrois? Or would that person have to identify as either the latter or the former? yes, a person can be both maverique and neutrois. there are no rules or limitations as to what a person can be or how a person can identify. if someone is maverique and neutrois, there’s no reason why they couldn’t identify as maverique and neutrois.

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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