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“the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

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April 5, 2018

pen. ink. paper: journaling as self-care

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January 27, 2019

identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

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July 21, 2017

QAC 66 – Split Attraction Model: Opting Out Of Romantic Orientations || Grayromantic | Asexual

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March 12, 2018

“…what it means to become America’s boogieman”

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July 12, 2017
  • Feedback,  Queer[ness]

    Feedback: “Thank you so much for what you’re doing, Vesper…”

    May 5, 2016 /

    anonymous said: Oh my gosh you are absolutely amazing and wonderful and just askdfl. Thank you so much for what you’re doing, Vesper- it’s helped me so much. Not only has your advocacy helped me understand my own identity, but it has inspired me to educate myself about very important issues regarding gender, sexuality, and the constant marginalization of minority groups in the U.S. (I use the term minority groups bc if I name every group the U.S. devalues we’d be here all day. Which is sad.) Srryifthisisweird D: ….thank you, anon. you really are too kind. i don’t think my actions worthy of being described with such a word, but i’m very much flattered that you consider what i do to be advocacy. i view it as me having a lot of feels and an exhausting inclination for unleashing said feels onto the world in ways that sometimes make…

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Q&A

    Q&A not Q&A: “what if ruby and sapphire (and garnet) from su are all bisexual and maverique?”

    May 5, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: hear me out: what if ruby and sapphire (and garnet) from su are all bisexual and maverique? ✨ (i wanna know what you think bc people are acting shady towards me for this and it upsets me)   sounds like a really awesome headcanon to me! 🙂 however, i’m not surprised that people are acting shady towards you, sadly… from what i’ve seen / heard, SU fans can be incredibly hostile when it comes to headcanons re: the gems’ gender(s) and sexuality(/ies). i myself am not really into fandom (the hostility prevents me from enjoying it at all), but i personally prefer to think of the gems as existing without genders or sexual orientations because: unlike human society, gem society does not have the social construct of gender to begin with? imho, gender is assigned to them by humans (because humans insist on gendering everyone & everything) and…

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    Vesper H.

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    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A

    Q&A: “been following the allosexual debate. it seems like it’s not really about allosexual?”

    May 4, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: been following the allosexual debate. it seems like it’s not really about allosexual? it’s about any term that groups non ace spec people apart from ace spec people, that it’s harmful to talk in any way about people who aren’t ace spec? because any non ace spec term could include people who don’t identify with sexual attraction or who don’t feel sexual attraction is important to or a defining part of their orientation? with the debate being framed on allosexual I’m not sure if I’m parsing right. (I mean about the way that allosexual, or any term for non ace spec people, is intended to be used, as a simple “not us” grouping for discussion purposes, not anything extra/problematic someone might do with the term or lump onto the term) indeed, many of the arguments that people are making against the usage of the word allosexual aren’t even really…

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    QAC 19 – Asexuality: An FAQ

    October 25, 2013

    identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

    July 21, 2017

    QAC 16 – Asexuality and the LGBTQ Community

    September 9, 2013
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “i am agender, but also a girl, simulaneously and constantly.”

    May 2, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: i am agender, but also a girl, simulaneously and constantly. im nervous about telling people this because i dont want them to tell me i cant be be angender AND a girl. i usually just say im nonbinary but specifically im an agender girl. is this okay? of course it’s okay, anon. you aren’t obligated to tell anyone anything about your genders to begin with. if you do choose to tell someone something, it’s entirely up to you what / how much you tell them. in fact, i’m pretty sure that a lot of people come out as non-binary and leave it at that sometimes, not because they don’t identify as a more specific gender (or genders) but just because they don’t want to have to deal with people’s negative reactions or questions. there is absolutely nothing wrong with simplifying or selectively choosing what you tell people because…

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    ARTICLE: “Why Transgender People In Japan Prefer To Be Told They Have A “Disorder””

    August 17, 2016

    “Gender is a Much More Beautifully Complex Thing Than Society Would Have You Believe”- Ditch the Label

    October 18, 2016

    *scribble scribble*

    September 15, 2016
  • Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    pre-Tokyo Rainbow Pride stuff

    May 1, 2016 / No Comments

    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2016 is just under a week away, so i’m going to take this opportunity to throw out some random info for anyone in the Tokyo / Kanto who’s going this year. just like every year, there’s a lot of stuff going on during “Rainbow Week”, the week leading up to the main events which are the Festa on Saturday, May 7th and the Festa + Parade on Sunday, May 8th. see the TRP website for details on all the events going on. Sat. May 7th 10:00am ~ ??? – Tokyo Rainbow Pride FESTA lots of booths, food, music & performances in Yoyogi Park. 12:00pm ~ 2:00pm – huge annual LGBTQIA (gaijin) picnic Stonewall Japan & the Tokyo LGBTQIAP+ Meetup Group will be hosting another joint picnic. if you aren’t a member of either of these groups, contact me for more information. 7:00pm ~ 11:00pm – “Critical Compassion: Using our Stories…

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    QAC 22 – LGBTQ J-Magazines: Garçon Girls + Novia Novia

    February 10, 2014

    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2016 (5/8/2016)

    May 14, 2016

    …the things i do to not be a ひきこもり (その①)

    March 11, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “ive been id-ing as genderqueer for a while now bc i know im not a girl or a boy…”

    April 28, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: ive been id-ing as genderqueer for a while now bc i know im not a girl or a boy and i definitely have a gender but i dont know what? and ive been very confused on presentation lately bc i want to be understood with an underlying masculinity but wear feminine stuff and im just kinda??? its just very confusing and im very lost hi, anon. 🙂 i understand that feeling confused and lost sucks, but really it’s okay. it’s okay to be confused. it’s okay to not know what your gender is. it’s okay to not be sure how you want to present yourself. it’s okay to not be sure how to achieve how you want to present yourself. it’s okay to not know how your presentation relates to your gender, if it even does at all. as much as being confused and lost sucks, it is…

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    and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 

    July 27, 2017

    “maverique” v3.0

    June 21, 2014

    ? QAC 77 – Legal Name Change || Non-Binary Gender Markers || “”Deadnames”“ || NEVADA

    July 13, 2019
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I am a Muslim who wears hijab and I wanted to know if I have the right to use the label genderfluid to describe myself?”

    April 27, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I am a Muslim who wears hijab and I wanted to know if I have the right to use the label genderfluid to describe myself? Even though I identify as either male, female, androgynous or something else, I am AFAB and have always presented myself as female, so does this sort of question the validity of my claim as genderfluid? Because I wear hijab all the time, I feel like I can’t claim to be anything but female as many people see hijab as a gender indicator rather than as a religious concept? anon, you have every right to identify as whatever feels comfortable or right to you. how you present yourself neither validates nor invalidates your identity, regardless of what anyone else thinks or says. gender identity is one thing, gender (or self) expression is another. for some people, these two things happen to coincide with one…

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    01.12.2018: T Day à la Snapchat.

    January 12, 2018

    Snapchat rant #163

    July 2, 2016

    this quote though

    November 7, 2015
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “s it possible to transition to non binary in California?”

    April 27, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Is it possible to transition to non binary in California? I want to get surgery to at the least remove/flatten my chest… But I’m worried insurance will not cover it. i don’t know a whole lot about California, but i do know that California is one of the few states that prohibits health insurance from denying someone coverage based on their trans status. i also know that Obamacare and Medi-Cal, among many other insurance plans, cover various forms of medical transition. honestly, from what i hear, you’re in one of the best states in America when it comes to trans healthcare, so i wouldn’t be too worried. try Googling your city’s name (or the name of a major city near you) and “transgender” or “transgender healthcare” to find resources that may help you. sadly, searching for trans resources will get you a lot further than looking for non-binary specific resources,…

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    QAC 29 – (Not) Coping + 3 More Years in Japan

    August 24, 2014

    QAC 14 – Anatomy and Gender Presentation

    August 18, 2013

    Happy Non-binary Day!

    July 14, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Is there a word for non-binary in Japanese that you know of?”

    April 26, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I’m going to be moving to Japan in a couple of months for work, and I am non-binary. Is there a word for non-binary in Japanese that you know of? Also, I usually use 私 in school/professional settings but I tend to use 僕 and more masculine language around my friends that know Japanese. Is it advisable to use pronouns like this or should I just use female pronouns even though I barely identify with female? I will probably be in a fairly rural area. (would you mind tagging as w so i can find?) hi and welcome to Japan in advance. 🙂 Xジェンダー / x-gender is the Japanese equivalent of non-binary. just as with the word non-binary in English speaking countries, the majority of people in Japan will have never heard of the word Xジェンダー unless you’re in trans friendly / aware spaces. the word exists and…

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    QAC 14 – Anatomy and Gender Presentation

    August 18, 2013

    transphobia & non-binary erasure in Japanese media

    March 17, 2016

    本の紹介:「Xジェンダーって何?」

    October 4, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    gender non-conformity sure does make for good entertainment for cis people, huh Japan?

    April 25, 2016 / 1 Comment

    i was going to do my usual live-tweet thing where i vent my frustrations with various things i see on Japanese TV on Twitter, but i took too many photo receipts and have too much to say for Twitter, so i’ll just blurb about it here. warning: long post ahead full of many hastily taken cellphone photos of my tv. mobile users, i am so soooo sorry. trigger warning: offensive ignorance, transphobia

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    QAC 02 – The Road to Asexuality

    May 17, 2013

    QAC 73 – 【Asexuality In JAPAN】An Interview ♠【アセクシャルって?】日本x英語圏  || #AAW2018

    October 26, 2018

    more Sailor Moon Crystal fanpersoning #SCREAMING

    May 17, 2016
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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