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identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

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July 21, 2017

“love languages”?? communication tool.

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May 1, 2019

This Is Fine.

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July 14, 2018

“the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

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April 5, 2018

Japanese gender / queer theory, anyone?

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May 22, 2017
  • Feedback,  Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Feedback: “I’m sure there are plenty of other trans people who want to be visibly trans…”

    September 22, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: On the visibility thing- I am a trans person who wants to be proudly and visibly trans, mostly because I’m genderqueer and there isn’t really a way to “pass” as gq, so being seen as cis is automatically misgendering me. So I try to be as “nonpassing” and obviously trans/queer as possible. And I’m sure there are plenty of other trans people who want to be visibly trans, otherwise stuff like trans pride shirts and such wouldn’t exist, no? Or am I misunderstanding what you mean by visibility? ( re: this post ) i agree with you, anon, that there are a lot of people who want to visibly subvert and / or defy the assumption that they are cis a man / woman or otherwise a binary gender that they are not– especially among those for whom (as you pointed out) “passing” as their gender (or lack thereof) is…

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    Vesper H.

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  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “on how “love wins/love is love” can be kind of alienating…”

    September 22, 2017 / No Comments

    my-minds-matters: queerascat: anonymous said: I just had a eureka moment when looking at your recent reblog of a post on how “love wins/love is love” can be kind of alienating… As an aro ace, the whole “love” angle is definitely implicitly exclusionary. The core of my being aro ace is that I DON’T love anyone That Way, and community rhetoric consistently fails to reflect that. Not to mention that I find the “twoo wuv” thing eye-roll-inducing at times. Your thoughts? ( re: this post ) i agree that in addition to ignoring, excluding and / or alienating trans and non-binary people, as pointed out in the OP, such rhetoric also  ignores, excludes and alienates those for whom “love” (be it in the traditional, romantic sense or at all) is not a thing– or at least, is not The Thing that defines their connection to the LGBTQIA community. such rhetoric posits love…

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    Vesper H.

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  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “…”love wins/love is love” can be kind of alienating…”

    September 19, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I just had a eureka moment when looking at your recent reblog of a post on how “love wins/love is love” can be kind of alienating… As an aro ace, the whole “love” angle is definitely implicitly exclusionary. The core of my being aro ace is that I DON’T love anyone That Way, and community rhetoric consistently fails to reflect that. Not to mention that I find the “twoo wuv” thing eye-roll-inducing at times. Your thoughts? ( re: this post ) i agree that in addition to ignoring, excluding and / or alienating trans and non-binary people, as pointed out in the OP, such rhetoric also  ignores, excludes and alienates those for whom “love” (be it in the traditional, romantic sense or at all) is not a thing– or at least, is not The Thing that defines their connection to the LGBTQIA community. such rhetoric posits love as some…

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    Vesper H.

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  • [A]sexuality,  Black[ness],  Feedback,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    Re: Re: “”Visibility””

    September 19, 2017 / 1 Comment

    oodlenoodleroodle: queerascat: for the longest time it struck me as odd, the way that the LGBT community at large upholds “visibility” as some kind of goal or ideal to be fought for. it wasn’t until recent years that i actually stopped and thought about it enough to realize why reference to and usage of “visibility” in this way bothers me so much. as someone who has always been and will always be hypervisible because of their race, it baffles me when people advocate for visibility as if visibility is what we all want; as if visibility is even a means to getting what we all want. this upholding of visibility as something important for all of us to fight for seems grossly negligent of the fact that some of us are already more visible than others and that that very visibility is part of what has gotten some of us bullied,…

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    Vesper H.

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    March 20, 2017

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Black[ness],  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    Re: “”Visibility””

    September 18, 2017 / No Comments

    for the longest time it struck me as odd, the way that the LGBT community at large upholds “visibility” as some kind of goal or ideal to be fought for. it wasn’t until recent years that i actually stopped and thought about it enough to realize why reference to and usage of “visibility” in this way bothers me so much. as someone who has always been and will always be hypervisible because of their race, it baffles me when people advocate for visibility as if visibility is what we all want; as if visibility is even a means to getting what we all want. this upholding of visibility as something important for all of us to fight for seems grossly negligent of the fact that some of us are already more visible than others and that that very visibility is part of what has gotten some of us bullied, turned away…

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    Vesper H.

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    July 21, 2013

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    May 24, 2013

    an example of intersectional acephobia if ever there was one…

    December 16, 2015
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy]

    カルシファー、お帰り。 Welcome Home, Calcifer.

    September 17, 2017 / No Comments

    after two long days of frantic cleaning and setup amidst long work hours, i was finally able to go out into the rain and bring Calcifer (Cal) home ahead of the slowly approaching typhoon. he’s now been home for 24 hours and i can honestly say that it’s like he should have always been here to begin with. but also that it’s as if i’ve finally gotten back something that goes beyond finally having a cat again. something that i lost 4 years ago in losing my two Devon Rex, with whom he seems to have so much in common with that i could honestly cry. ;( having met and worked with hundreds of cats and kittens (among other animals) during the course of 3 years spent as a volunteer photographer at an Australian humane society, i can honestly say that he is such a unique and special little cat…

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    Vesper H.

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy]

    …ok, so i lied about not posting sappy cat updates till i bring him home.

    September 12, 2017 / No Comments

    anyway. went back to the petshop for another visit after work today and finally got some decent snaps of still-yet-to-be-named kitten. i know i said previously that i’d be bringing him home on September 25th, but i’m doing everything i can to get him out of that petshop sooner. hopefully by this Saturday after work, so sorry for the Tumblr silence broken only by goblin kitten spam. things will get back to “normal” around here eventually. after, you know, the kitten is home, has a name and his own Instagram account that possibly maybe might repost to a Tumblr blog eventually. yeah. then you’ll stop seeing goblin kitten spam here and things will get back to “normal”. yeah.

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    Vesper H.

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  • [Random] Thoughts

    my soon-to-be goblin

    September 12, 2017 / No Comments

    bi-gray: felweed: most goblin looking goblin cat i ever seen @queerascat soon you’ll have a little goblin of your own! ah yes, my soon to be little goblin…. <3  

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    Vesper H.

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  • [Random] Thoughts

    Re: …i just did something bad.

    September 10, 2017 / No Comments

    ( continued from this post ) went back to the petshop this morning after picking up a toy for the yet-to-be-named kitten because he didn’t have anything to play with in his cage and that’s just fucking depressing. also picked up some pet-friendly wet wipes to clean him up a bit. when i got there, i was able to take him out of his cage and noticed that they’d cleaned him up a bit since i was there yesterday. much appreciated. <3 stood there holding him for a good 5 minutes with him just chilling there in my arms, not trying to get away, crying out or anything. seriously the calmest 4mo kitten i’ve ever met.   until i put him back in his cage with his new (catnip-filled) toy. even the staff stood there amazed at the instantaneous change in him. kittens will be be kittens, after all. just…

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  • [Random] Thoughts

    …i just did something bad.

    September 9, 2017 / No Comments

    ….something very, very bad indeed. i totally jumped the gun and put down a deposit on this little guy when the plan had been to wait until January to get a cat. GAH. anyway, now to blabber on about how that even happened. for my own future reference. tl;dr: i’m ridiculous and he’s coming home September 25th. 🙂

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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