WHINGE: navigating セクマイ stuff
…i’d normally limit this to a few whingey tweets on Twitter, but since dad is currently snooping around my social media accounts… might as well be thoroughly whingey on here.
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adventures in Japanese TV: “haafu”
aaahhh, more annoying Japanese TV. despite what i said (in Japanese) while letting off steam livetweeting on Twitter, i know it’s not fair of me to expect anyone, let alone this guy (Jun Soejima, an actor / “talent” btw), to react any certain way or educate the people around him on behalf of other black people in Japan. i really don’t actually expect that or anything else of him, despite my whining, but it does admittedly annoy me when people on Japanese TV just laugh off some really shitty, problematic stuff that people say or do to them, be it re: racial issues, trans issues, or anything else. they’re in a difficult situation and have all kind of things to consider when they react to something, whereas i can huff and puff at the TV saying all the choice words i like without consequence. i get that…. but meh. it was…
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Feedback: “is it true that youre the one that made the term maverique..? If so, then.. thank you so so so much..”
yukiwolf5 said: Uhm, is it true that youre the one that made the term maverique..? If so, then.. thank you so so so much.. i know im probably way late but, i didnt know until now who coined it so.. thank you.. maverique is exactly how i feel towards my gender and i just, when my friend came across that term and showed it to me i literally cried. Because its just… exactly how i feel about gender.. not male not female just me. And the flag is so pleasing to look at too… so… thank you ;w; youre my hero ☆♡☆ ….aaaaaahh, kindness overload. i seriously don’t know how to respond to this because i genuinely never know how to respond to such kindness… thank you so much for this incredibly kind ask message. it will forever mean a lot to me to hear that a word i coined…
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Random Stuff Going On In Japan: Sept – Oct 2016
Ace Spec Japan Meetup Ace Spec Japan, a LINE-based group for aces in Japan, will be having its next meetup in Chiba on Sunday, September 18th, 2016! see our new (and still under construction) WordPress blog for details! (Kansai) Rainbow Festa Rainbow Festa (aka Kansai Rainbow Parade) will be held in Ogimachi Park, Osaka on Saturday, October 8th, 2016. for more information, see the official website. Yokohama Diversity Parade Yokohama Diversity Parade (aka Yokohama Rainbow Festa) will be held again this year at the Osanbashi International Terminal in Yokohama on Saturday, October 15th, 2016. last year Yokohama hosted its first Pride and this year Yokohama will be its first Parade! see the official website for more information. i’ll be at the Ace Spec Japan meetup, of course, but i can’t make Kansai Pride (going to forever call it that because they keep renaming it ffs) again due to work… i really…
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Q&A: “I wanted to ask if there were any gender neutral ways to imply that someone is your child that isn’t the word “child”…”
anonymous said: Hi Vesper! First off i’d like to say that you’re amazing and very inspirational to me :). I wanted to ask if there were any gender neutral ways to imply that someone is your child that isn’t the word “child”. As an adult that prefers neutral pronouns, I don’t find it fitting for my parents to refer to me as a child. How would you prefer your parents to refer to you in that circumstance? hello, anon. thank you for the kind words. 🙂 personally, even though i’m an adult, i don’t particularly mind being referred to as “child” so long as it’s within the context of a relationship between a parent and their offspring. unlike “kid” which would really rub me the wrong way regardless of who’s using it in what context, “child” when used by my parents in reference to me feels more about me being their offspring then…
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gossip 〜 the first gay culture cafe in Tokyo
the-shynamites: 今月末に閉店しちゃうらしいです ？？？？ マジか？うっわ、やっばい。マジだ… 2週間前に行ってホンマに良かった… (｡ŏ﹏ŏ) so apparently Gossip, the first LGBT cafe in Tokyo which opened its doors in 2010, will be closing August 31st, 2016… the cafe’s owner, Takita-san, has posted a message in Japanese and English on the cafe’s website… ah, this news makes me really sad…. Gossip is where i’d always go when in Tokyo when i wanted to connect with the local LGBT scene without going to Ni Chome, which has always felt much less accessible to me as someone who doesn’t like bars or clubs… Gossip was where i could casually read LGBT books and magazines over cake or falafel, it’s where LGBT gatherings would be hosted… it was the first LGBT place that i went to in Japan. ahhh, i’m sad….. really sad. i’m glad that i went there 2 weeks ago, but wish i had known then that it’d be my last time going…
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Q&A not Q&A: “maybe anon has a problem with compulsory heterosexuality…”
anonymous said: maybe anon has a problem with compulsory heterosexuality / the fact that they were raised to be available to men? I have a similar problem – logically I don’t CARE if men find me attractive, and yet I can’t stop fretting over not being “acceptable” to them. I don’t have this problem with other people even though men are the group I’m actually least interested in. I hate this and I’m trying to let go of this feeling, but it’s hard. (re: this post) that thought occurred to me, but i didn’t want to make assumptions about anon’s gender or even their AGAB, so i erred on the side of giving general commentary with that ask. but yeah, internalized heteronormativity and compulsory heterosexuality is definitely a thing that many people struggle with and anon may also be struggling with. it’s social programming that can be extremely difficult to…
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Feedback: “You’re a huge inspiration to me and someone I really look up to…”
we-who-sleep-and-dream-alone said: Not really a question but more or less a statement. You’re a huge inspiration to me and someone I really look up to. Most adults in my life don’t talk about gender and gender identity the way you do and it makes me feel really good. ….i am at a loss for words, both because your words are so incredibly kind but also because of my own shitty headspace right now. thank you for this extremely kind message. to say that i’m flattered to be of any help or inspiration to you whatsoever is an understatement, so thank you. <3
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Q&A: “im gay and ive known for like almost 2 years now but every time a guy talks to me i can’t help but…”
anonymous said: hey so like im gay and ive known for like almost 2 years now but every time a guy talks to me i can’t help but ask for more attention or flirt back i have a problem w saying no a lot and maybe that’s why but is it normal ? hi, anon. i’m a bit confused by your ask and am not sure whether i’m understanding it correctly, but… a person can definitely enjoy receiving attention from someone and initiating / returning flirting with someone even if they’re not actually interested in that person in any way. some people enjoy / do those things with anyone and some people don’t, but either way it doesn’t necessarily say anything about you as a person or your sexuality. besides, you know yourself, anon. if you’re gay you’re gay! trust yourself. also, try not to compare your actions or feelings…
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“”summer vacation””
[ video: a soundless and unfiltered 1 minute compilation from tonight’s 1 hour firework show shot from my apartment window! ] tomorrow marks the end of my one week “summer vacation” and i’m ridiculously bummed about it, but at least it’s ending with a bang. D; tomorrow’s agenda: go see the Ghostbusters movie since it’s finally come out in Japan. or maybe X-Men: Apocalypse? or maybe both. the real agenda is to just not care about the world for a day. wish me luck.
