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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “…why are lesbians who don’t want to have sex with women with gentalia that repulses them considered transphobic?”

    October 13, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Different anon but I have a q about something u said in the last anon q you answered. If it is okay for people to be repulsed by certain genitalia than why do lesbians who don’t want to have sex with women with gentalia that repulses them considered transphobic? This is something I’ve seen in a lot of places on tumblr. Can you speak more about being repulsed by certain genitalia being okay?   [this is in reference to this post] *takes a deep breath, steadying themself for potential backlash from this post* …the following is my opinion, but there is a difference between: defining your orientation based solely on the genitalia you do or do not find repulsive.* (ie. saying that you’re a lesbian or gynosexual because you’re repulsed by penises.) defining your orientation based on your attraction to X (Y, Z) gender(s) and then adding a…

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    Vesper H.

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Is it sexual attraction if I want to do sexual things with someone even if I don’t find their bodies arousing?”

    October 13, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Is it sexual attraction if I want to do sexual things with someone even if I don’t find their bodies arousing? I’ve been calling myself demi but I’m not sure now. When I fall for people I really want to see them enjoy themselves sexually but not necessarily be part of it like autochorissexualism. Although I do enjoy sex with someone I love. I also find them more aesthetically appealing the more I like them. I just don’t know if my attraction is truly sexual. Help me?   i can’t give you a straight yes or no answer to whether you’re experiencing sexual attraction or not since it’s impossible for me to really know what exactly you’re experiencing, plus i’m no expert on sexual attraction either way, but…. in my humble opinion, there is a difference between not feeling drawn to a person in a sexual way, but…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Aren’t gays and lesbians inherently transphobic…?”

    October 12, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Aren’t gays and lesbians inherently transphobic because they reinforce genitalia=gender by only having sex with people as the same genitals as their own?   …………..i’m going to respond to this in the format of a list because after sitting on this ask for nearly a day i have decided that that is the best way to keep this response from turning into a rant. when a person (regardless of their sexuality) is attracted to someone else they are attracted to that person’s character, to their self-expression, to their smile, to their identity, to their voice, to who they are as a person. people do not use x-ray vision to look through a person’s clothing to see what genitalia they have and decide whether they find that genitalia attractive or not. why are you equating same-gender attraction with same-genitalia attraction? there actually are people of every orientation who find…

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    spotted: same-gender marriage feature on Japanese news

    October 12, 2015 / No Comments

    there i was, doing stuff on my computer totally not paying attention to the news on TV, when i looked up and saw “LGBT” in big letters on the screen. i ran and got my phone to take photos lmao. the story was about an American and Japanese same-gender couple trying to get married in Japan. about how for the American it was so frustrating because same-gender marriage had finally been made legal in his home country, but here in Japan wedding agency after agency kept refusing them because they wouldn’t perform a same-gender wedding, but then finally after months of trying they found an agency who would wed them. they were even able to be wed at a shrine like they wanted. 🙂 in the end, they also got married in America too, so it was a happy ending! in Japan where LGBT/セクマイ awareness is extremely low and the…

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    October 23, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 40 – The Gender Tag! | Maverique

    October 12, 2015 / No Comments

    me talking about my non-binary gender, maverique, as part of The Gender Tag, a project by Ashley Wylde. i also rant a bit about navigating my gender when even the non-binary community seems a bit too tied to the gender binary. – if you’re unfamiliar with The Gender Tag Project, find out more here: http://ashleywylde.com/videos/the-gender-tag-project/ – if you’re interested in learning more about maverique, check out: http://maveriques.tumblr.com/ ========= The Gender Tag Prompts ========= @00:35 1. How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that definition mean to you? @02:26 2. What pronouns honor you? @02:31 3. Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear. @04:13 4. Talk about your choices with body hair. How do you style your hair? Do you have facial hair? What do you choose to shave, or choose not to shave? @06:47 5. Talk about cosmetics. Do you choose to wear makeup? Do you paint your nails? What…

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    May 11, 2013

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “So if male-ish-ness is usually called masculinity, and female-ish-ness is usually called femininity…”

    October 11, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: So if male-ish-ness is usually called masculinity, and female-ish-ness is usually called femininity, would maverique-ish-ness be… maveriquinity? lol i love this line of thought! maveriquinity…. that is quite the word. /mav(ə)ˈrēkɪnɪti/ i like it, although i’m sure some people will find it difficult to pronounce.

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    June 22, 2016
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “what does it mean to identify as just queer?”

    October 11, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: what does it mean to identify as just queer? I’m new to the LGBT+ community and I’d like to know as much as possible (:   hi anon! sorry for taking so long to get back to you. identifying as queer means different things to different people. like seriously, you could ask 10 people who identify as queer what it means to them and you will get 10 different answers. generally speaking, queer is sometimes used as a catch-all, open-ended, (intentionally) ambiguous identity or word to describe not being heteronormative, amatonormative, gender normative and/or sexnormative. some people identify as queer because it’s simpler than going into detail about their identity because often identity is really complex and intersectional. some people identify as queer out of solidarity or with the intent of reclaiming the word. there really are an infinite number of reasons why someone might identify as queer…

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    sex indifference & aversion: not a matter of one or the other but both?

    October 6, 2015 / No Comments

    the following is a random blurb of thoughts after seeing this post. warning: negativity, sex talk || disclaimer: the negativity is aimed only at myself i’ve had issues supporting or even signal boosting anything that talks explicitly about “sex indifference” because of my own personal qualms with the term and how i see people describe what it means to be indifferent to sex. the way it’s described or defined varies greatly from person to person, but almost always there’s some sort of ‘but wouldn’t necessarily be opposed to the idea of having it’ tacked onto the rest and that bothers me. a lot. i used to casually refer to myself as sex indifferent, but now i can’t help but want to distance myself from the term as far as possible. but at the same time, i have no desire to take on the label of “sex averse” either. i think that at least…

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Japan[ese],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    ”Daily ? UGHs”

    October 4, 2015 / No Comments

    random doodle about random things that i hear my students say to each other or that they say to me on any given day that make me go UGH. “SHE’s 30 and not married! lol” “you don’t have kids??” “don’t worry, you still have time! (to get married, have kids)” “lol T-chan もしかしてお前オカマ?! (don’t tell me you’re a tranny!)” “sensei’s on OUR team!” “but you’re a girl!” “キモイ!ホモかよ?! (eww! what are you, a homo?!)” “only girls would understand, right *given name*!” and the saddest, most frustrating part is that most of this is said by kids under 10 years old…

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  • Feedback

    Feedback: “I have decide to come out as asexual today…”

    October 4, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I have decide to come out as asexual today and I don´t know how I feel about it, but I am kinda happy and somewhat relieve and wanted to tell you in this site first because you were my first contact with asexuality and thank to you I have learn so many things. Thank you for your channel, for your blog and your kindness with us anon that came with our questions. Is really reasurring know there is a person like you. So, yeah. Ace pride!   !!!!!!! good luck, anon!!! i sincerely hope that it goes well for you! and wow, i’m incredibly honored to be the first person you told. thank you, anon, and thank you for the incredibly kind words as well. it really is an honor to be able to help you and anyone else in any way. <3 w00t!! ace pride, indeed!!

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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