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    Q&A: “i am a 20 year old female and i have been questioning my sexuality for the longest time…”

    March 29, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: hello, i am a 20 year old female and i have been questioning my sexuality for the longest time. i may have come to the conclusion i might be grey-ace? seeing that i have never really been interested into getting in a relationship, though i have had a few crushes (both female and male) and even felt sexual feelings, but i did not want to engage in any of that b/c it felt awkward for me to put myself in that position. i don’t really know what to categorize myself as. hello anon. sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. anon, if you feel like gray-ace is a word that describes you, then i say go with that and see where it takes you. identity labels like “gray-ace” are useful for communicating information about yourself and your identity to others, as well as for finding community…

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    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Black[ness],  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 35 – Body Image: An Intersection of Black, Non-binary & Asexual Identity

    March 16, 2015 / No Comments

    trigger warning: body negativity, gender dysphoria, hints of self-harm, cursing a rant about my own negative body image and how that body image intersects with my identity as a black non-binary asexual. i touch upon a lot in this long video, so for your ease of viewing: ====== Time Points ======== @00:00 – introduction @00:57 – dismissal of my body issues @02:18 – height and dysphoria @05:08 – having lordosis and being misgendered @09:53 – hypersexualization of my butt as a black non-binary ace @12:44 – hypersexualization of my lips as a black non-binary ace @13:27 – self-destructive habits: lip picking @15:33 – hating my natural hair @19:00 – body modification and body positivity @21:16 – i’d love to hear from you ======================== “awkward but necessary” pretty much sums up this video.

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    Re: “”Visibility””

    September 18, 2017

     “Things Asexual People Want You To Know” – BuzzFeed LGBT

    October 29, 2017

    spotted: same-gender marriage feature on Japanese news

    October 12, 2015
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    spotted: LGBT 101 on Japanese TV

    February 21, 2015 / 1 Comment

    there i was, doing stuff on my computer completely ignoring my tv when i look up to some celeb guessing at what LGBT stands for, saying stupid shit like B stands for ばあちゃん/grannies and T stands for 父ちゃん/daddies to be funny. i only got my phone out in time to take photos during the 1 minute that was spent talking about the subject seriously in which the guy “educating” the panel of celebs talked about how approximately 5% of people in Japan are LGBT, about bullying in schools, about coming out and about how to respond if someone comes out to you. seriously 日テレ. it’s great that you spent 1 minute educating people, but you also spent 1 minute making light of the subject. not good enough.

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    photos from Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2014 (04/27/2014)

    May 7, 2014

    on the discrepancy between “asexual” in English & Japanese and confusion regarding demisexuality.

    May 12, 2017

    one of many reasons why “QUEER” means so much to me.

    September 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 34 – Distancing Yourself From Family

    February 16, 2015 / No Comments

    dealing with family can be tough. really tough. it took many years for me to finally realize and admit to myself that i have been coping by physically distancing myself from my family and this has actually helped me a lot over the years. to those of you out there struggling while living with your family, i hope this video will be of encouragement to you. no matter how bleak things may seem at times, stay strong. you can get through it! i had no idea what to do for this video’s thumbnail, so there you go.

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    Studio Ghibli’s 『思い出のマーニー』 // “When Marnie Was There”

    August 11, 2014

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016

    QAC 37 – Forced Out of the Closet: 1.5 Years Later (Non-Binary Asexual)

    June 16, 2015
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Mental [Un]health

    re: ….so. selfies.

    February 15, 2015 / No Comments

    one last addition to the “self-esteem boost”: sketch i did from memory without referencing the actual photo, so some details aren’t accurate. this is why i need another tumblr blog, i feel bad posting this kinda stuff here but i still wanna post it somewhere. ;(

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    literal “social distancing” from the ace community

    April 1, 2020

    01.12.2018: T Day à la Snapchat.

    January 12, 2018

    tfw TERFs.

    March 1, 2017
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Mental [Un]health

    …so. selfies.

    February 15, 2015 / 1 Comment

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    Black Mirror: “San Junipero”

    July 6, 2017

    spotted: LGBT 101 on Japanese TV

    February 21, 2015

    “Dyke Deck” by Catherine Opie

    November 20, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    sexnormativity

    January 12, 2015 / 2 Comments

    like “heteronormativity” and “amatornormativity”, can we please make “sexnormativity” a thing? simply put: sexnormativity: the assumption that sexual attraction and/or a desire for sex is a universal trait that everyone shares. the ace community has long since been battling sexnormativity as it plays a large role in a/acephobia. however, aces are not the only ones suffering from sexnormativity. people who are repulsed by and/or adverse to sex people with “low”/”high” libidos teenagers young adults seniors survivors of sexual assault/abuse and so many more literally anyone and probably everyone is affected by sexnormativity to some degree or another at some point in their life because sexnormativity ties into so many things: peer pressure, stereotypes, hypersexualization, desexualization, heteronormativity, amatonormativity, slut-shaming, victim blaming, trauma invalidation, erasure, parental/familial expectations and the list goes on. awareness and discussion of sexnormativity needs to go beyond the confines of the ace community. please let this be a thing that the world is made…

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    Antiblackness and Binarism: Grindr in Japan

    January 6, 2018

    Ace & Non-binary Pride @Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2015 (04/26/15)

    May 10, 2015

    allo by default: hypocrisy in “aspec” spaces

    February 25, 2017
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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