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  • [A]sexuality,  Queer[ness]

    Cosmopolitan: “Everything You Need To Know About Demisexuality”

    March 20, 2017 / No Comments

    Cosmopolitan revisited an article on demisexuality that was originally published in 2015, featuring it on their Snapchat today. the article was also featured on Snapchat’s “Discover” alongside a CNN feature on a trans man’s experience with dating. the article can be found on Cosmopolitan.com.

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    Vesper H.

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    September 18, 2017

    QAC 22 – LGBTQ J-Magazines: Garçon Girls + Novia Novia

    February 10, 2014

    identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

    July 21, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I identify as gray-ace, but it feels too vague to me and causes unnecessary worries to my partner…”

    June 20, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi Vesper! I identify as gray-ace, but it feels too vague to me and causes unnecessary worries to my partner about pushing me to do things I don’t really want (that never happens). I haven’t been able to find a more specific term. I do feel sexual attraction, so much that it’s obvious to me, but only when I decide I want to feel it in an interaction with someone. Cupio and recipro don’t fit. I call it conveniosexual as a joke because it is convenient, but is there an existing word? …i really hate to say this, but if your partner is concerned about pushing you to do things that you don’t really want to do, it seems unlikely to me that changing your identity would at all be a solution for that. forgive me if i’m out of line for saying this, but i’m doubtful that…

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    May 11, 2017

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    June 23, 2016
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “can i use asexual as an umbrella term?”

    January 4, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: can i use asexual as an umbrella term? i identify with more than one (a)sexualites (cupio/demi/grey) so i think it’s a lot easier to just say im asexual sure, go with whatever feels comfortable and right for you, be it asexual, ace, ace spectrum, etc. some will disagree with me on this, but people use asexual as an umbrella word to mean various things all the time. i’m not an authority on the word asexual and i am not about to police others’ usage of the word.

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    April 5, 2018

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “what is graysexual”

    January 2, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: what is graysexual graysexual / gray-asexual is an umbrella term for people who experience sexual attraction infrequently, rarely, weakly, only under certain circumstances, etc and for people who feel a connection to asexuality but who do not identify specifically as asexual. see http://www.demigray.org/faq for more information.

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Is it possible to be Heteroromantic, bisexual and asexual all at the same time?”

    August 10, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Is it possible to be Heteroromantic, bisexual and asexual all at the same time?   it is entirely possible to be heteroromantic and __sexual at the same time. i am confused, though. what do you mean by bisexual and asexual? do you fluctuate between the two? or perhaps you experience sexual attraction towards some genders but then experience none towards other(s)? if it’s the latter, i’d personally (and this is just what i’d personally do, i am not telling you to do this) probably identify as heteroromantic bisexual rather than heteroromantic bisexual asexual. being bisexual does not mean that you experience sexual attraction indiscriminately. it’s common for there to be gender(s) that one isn’t sexually attracted to, so i wouldn’t feel a need to identify as asexual on top of bisexual. also, being asexual means that one doesn’t experience sexual attraction regardless of gender, which contradicts being bisexual.…

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “i am a 20 year old female and i have been questioning my sexuality for the longest time…”

    March 29, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: hello, i am a 20 year old female and i have been questioning my sexuality for the longest time. i may have come to the conclusion i might be grey-ace? seeing that i have never really been interested into getting in a relationship, though i have had a few crushes (both female and male) and even felt sexual feelings, but i did not want to engage in any of that b/c it felt awkward for me to put myself in that position. i don’t really know what to categorize myself as. hello anon. sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. anon, if you feel like gray-ace is a word that describes you, then i say go with that and see where it takes you. identity labels like “gray-ace” are useful for communicating information about yourself and your identity to others, as well as for finding community…

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    my collection…

    March 7, 2013 / No Comments

    …of pride bracelets. 🙂 neither one on its own accurately describes me, so i wear them all. btw, all of them were made by the talented Shauna Taylor of Dancing Leaf Studios. 🙂

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    Vesper H.

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    February 27, 2019

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    October 12, 2015
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy]

    “i am asexual”

    February 12, 2013 / No Comments

    05/23/2018 edit: *continues to scratch head* @2013 Vesper

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    QAC 23 – Being Forced Out of the Closet (Bi/Panromantic Non-binary Asexual)

    February 24, 2014

    QAC 22 – LGBTQ J-Magazines: Garçon Girls + Novia Novia

    February 10, 2014

    custom shirt

    October 13, 2013

VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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