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Gender[queer], Q&A, Queer[ness]

Q&A: “I was wondering if maverique individuals can sexually/medically transition.”

July 3, 2017 / No Comments

anonymous said: Hi! I currently started identifying as your term maverique and I was wondering if maverique individuals can sexually/medically transition. I’m DFAB and I used to identify as trans non binary hi! sorry for taking so long to get back to you. while the concept of “transitioning” by undergoing surgery and / or other pursuing other medical changes to one’s body is most commonly associated with (binary) transgender people, anyone of any gender can (and do) pursue these things. including maveriques.

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Vesper H.

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[A]sexuality, Gender[queer], Q&A, Queer[ness]

Q&A: “people always talk about realizing they’re queer and having known something was ‘different’ in them…. and i never really felt like that…”

March 23, 2016 / No Comments

anonymous said: hi, ive been thinking lately, people always talk about realizing they’re queer and having known something was ‘different’ in them all along but only understanding it then. and i never really felt like that, not in a way i realize now. and maybe it was the way i was introduced to lgbt+ stuff (im really forever grateful for having someone to do that cause it really got me out of a toxic homophobic mindset earlier on) but it makes me wonder if im really trans, bc like being trans makes me really happy, but it was never really a click for me more of a slow, ‘hey! Maybe this is me?’, idk i feel like i probably could’ve gone on my whole life being a ‘woman’ if i didn’t know about trans/nonbinary people :/ its really upsetting cause now im starting to think, what if im just doing…

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Q&A: “can a person also choose to be a gender that doesn’t align with the one they were assigned at birth?”

November 8, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: So I know it is possible to choose to be queer and that doesn’t make a person’s queer identity any less legitimate, but can a person also choose to be a gender that doesn’t align with the one they were assigned at birth? I think I might be agender, but this isn’t something that “I’ve always known,” which I feel like is the typical narrative around trans folk. …well, first off, i should probably say that i do not think that it’s possible to choose to be queer. it’s certainly true that one chooses to identify as queer and that if one comes to identify as queer due to outside factors, that does not make that queer identity any less legitimate, sure. but even then being queer isn’t a choice. one doesn’t wake up one day and choose to be queer. and i’m pretty sure that’s not what…

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Q&A: “[mom’s] been telling me is that if I really am trans, I would’ve known since I was little.”

October 29, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: I came out to my mom yesterday as trans, and I kind of regret it. all she’s been telling me is that if I really am trans, I would’ve known since I was little. she’s telling me it’s probably just a phase and that I need to talk to someone. she seems really set on it, as if it’s just a problem to be solved. she told me I’m probably having an identity crisis. I don’t know what to do anymore, and I feel invalid. was I really supposed to know from a young age? it very much sounds like your mom is currently struggling with denial and grief, which is really common when a child comes out to their parent(s). she’s basically projecting her own feelings onto you, desperately hoping that she’s right. she’s telling you the same things she’s telling herself in an attempt to cope…

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