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  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I can’t explain why it’s so easy for me to say I’m trans and so hard to say I’m a lesbian…”

    September 9, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hello. I’ve always been aware and proud, even as a kid, of my transgender identity. It was never hidden. But when it comes to sexuality it’s another story. Now that I’m older, I know that I have always been a lesbian but the less I can say is that I’m not very clear about it, I’m ambiguous when I speak about sexual orientation with people. Always fighting for lgbt rights but not saying clearly that I’m gay. I can’t explain why it’s so easy for me to say I’m trans and so hard to say I’m a lesbian hi, anon. i’m afraid that i don’t have any solid answers for you… i’m sure that a lot is involved in why you find it so hard to be as open about your sexuality as you are about being trans. to throw out but a few (among many) possible factors,…

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    Vesper H.

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    June 23, 2016

    spotted: same-gender marriage feature on Japanese news

    October 12, 2015

    QAC 24 – Labels: Why They’re Important + Why I Use Them

    March 17, 2014
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Japan[ese],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    ”Daily ? UGHs”

    October 4, 2015 / No Comments

    random doodle about random things that i hear my students say to each other or that they say to me on any given day that make me go UGH. “SHE’s 30 and not married! lol” “you don’t have kids??” “don’t worry, you still have time! (to get married, have kids)” “lol T-chan もしかしてお前オカマ?! (don’t tell me you’re a tranny!)” “sensei’s on OUR team!” “but you’re a girl!” “キモイ!ホモかよ?! (eww! what are you, a homo?!)” “only girls would understand, right *given name*!” and the saddest, most frustrating part is that most of this is said by kids under 10 years old…

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    July 12, 2016

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    December 10, 2017

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    March 11, 2016
  • Q&A

    Q&A: “People know me as “straight” but I am afraid to come out as bisexual when I really haven’t had any experience with girls.”

    September 10, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Ever since elementary school I have looked at girls the same way I look at guys, but when I was younger I never thought anything of it. In 6th grade my first kiss was a girl, just a quick peck; since then I’ve only been with guys. I’m currently in a serious relationship with a guy, but lately I have been putting a lot of thought into my sexuality. People know me as “straight” but I am afraid to come out as bisexual when I really haven’t had any experience with girls.   hello, anon! my apologies for taking so long to respond to your ask. ;( being in a relationship definitely makes coming out more challenging. on top of that, coming out as bi presents even more unique challenges. for one thing, people are likely to try and question or invalidate your sexuality because of your ‘lack of…

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    April 5, 2018

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 13 – Staying In The Closet

    August 11, 2013 / No Comments

    in this video i talk about how i’ve come to the conclusion that i won’t ever be coming out to my mom. at least, not intentionally.

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    October 10, 2016

    Ace & Non-binary Pride @Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2015 (04/26/15)

    May 10, 2015

    QAC 23 – Being Forced Out of the Closet (Bi/Panromantic Non-binary Asexual)

    February 24, 2014
  • [A]sexuality,  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 06 – Coming Out as a Panromantic Asexual

    June 1, 2013 / No Comments

    i’m soooooo sorry for this video being so long. i clipped out as much as i could while still maintaining what i think may benefit someone. things discussed in this video (in order): – coming out while in a relationship – coming out more than once – coming out to religious family – dealing with serious illness while coming out – whether or not to come out at all it’s funny because after recording this i ended up coming out to my doctor (GP)… THAT was an interesting experience for sure… wish i had gotten it on video lol. it went pretty well considering who it was. afterwards i made an apointment for a piercing with rainbow-colored jewelry to celebrate the past year and to kick my gender dysphoria in the ass. what a day. this was originally made for Askapansexual, a collab channel i’m a part of, but i…

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    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2016 selfies

    May 14, 2016

    gender non-conformity sure does make for good entertainment for cis people, huh Japan?

    April 25, 2016

    QAC 73 – 【Asexuality In JAPAN】An Interview ♠【アセクシャルって?】日本x英語圏  || #AAW2018

    October 26, 2018

VESPER H.

YouTuber & Blogger

Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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