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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “do you happen to know of resources about autism in the Japanese community…?”

    November 14, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi I’m sorry if this is worded weird or not a good question but do you happen to know of resources about autism in the Japanese community and/or the US Japanese community? I’ve been having trouble finding any. hi, anon. sorry for the delay in replying. i’m afraid that i won’t be of much help to you on the topic of autism (自閉症 / jiheishou) in Japan or within the Japanese-American community. if you can read Japanese or are looking for information to pass on to someone who can, the Autism Society of Japan’s website is probably as good a place as any to start? i can say, however, that having taught in Japanese schools for 7 years, i’ve pretty much come to the conclusion that much like that organization’s ridiculous, late 90′s, cookie-cutter website design and content, general resources and even just public awareness of anything related…

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    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Black[ness],  Japan[ese]

    Re: growing up and dealing with antiblackness in Japan [video]

    October 18, 2017 / No Comments

    queernigga: !!!  So my friend sent me this video on growing up and dealing with antiblackness in Japan and it’s SO. REAL. It’s only in Japanese (sorry non-Japanese speakers).  I encourage you to watch and share. For students of Japanese language – the dialogue is super clear and you might be surprised at how much you understand! 人権啓発ビデオ 「わたしたちが伝えたい,大切なこと ~アニメで見る 全国中学生人権作文コンテスト入賞作品~」(1/4)【差別のない世界へ】(字幕あり) i really like this up until the “you should make yourself vulnerable and explain yourself and your hurt feelings to your bully” and the subsequent, mildly offensive optimism of said bully responding with “oh geez, i never thought about or noticed your feelings. i’m sorry! i won’t do it again” bit– but eh. i’m a jaded as all fuck black gaijin living in Japan who has zero experience actually going through the Japanese school system as a student. i would say that. that aside, i do like this video. it’s easily the best…

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    “too butch.”

    April 29, 2019

    a 1.5 hour conversation with a random Nigirian

    October 12, 2017

    it began with locs…

    February 25, 2018
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I stumbled across the term Maverique a few days ago…”

    October 15, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I stumbled across the term Maverique a few days ago. Before I went w/ the gender I was assigned at birth (cuz ¯_(ツ)_/¯), but the definition just “clicked”. After reading more about it I’m not sure if I can ID that way tho, cuz while I don’t feel genderless, or like a man/woman, I do feel kinda “feminine”, but it’s not like “”””feminine””””, you know? It’s really “me”/innate & unrelated to things outside myself, but feminine as a word still fits, just the concept of feminine is my own. Thoughts? sorry for the slow reply, anon. i’m sorry that my definition of maverique being what it is has caused you to question whether you can identify as maverique or not. my personal stance is that if you feel like ‘maverique’ describes you then it does, even if ‘feminine’ also happens to describe you as well. i’m the last person to…

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    QAC 27 – Goodbye Neutrois, Hello Maverique (ie. me changing labels)

    July 7, 2014

    QAC 13 – Staying In The Closet

    August 11, 2013

    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2016 musings

    May 15, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Hi, I identify as bi and aro and I’ve been questioning being on the asexual spectrum for a year…”

    October 2, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: (part 1/2) Hi, I identify as bi and aro and I’ve been questioning being on the asexual spectrum for a year but I can’t get anywhere. I’ve always noticed I wasn’t attracted to my partners even before I knew asexuality existed but oddly, it didn’t bothered me or made me question things on the moment. However, I can have fantasies about people I know or celebrities but it never becomes reality. When I have sex with my partners, it’s because I have a libido and I feel emotionally good with them. (part 2/2) I can’t relate with most ace stories since I have fantaisies, a libido and sex. But at the same time, I can’t totally relate either with allosexual way of things. And being bi means I exist in that weird paradox where I can’t draw the line between being attracted to all genders or none. I…

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    an example of intersectional acephobia if ever there was one…

    December 16, 2015

    QAC 50 – Biphobia x Non-Binary Erasure x Binarism || Bi Non-Binary People Exist

    June 12, 2016

    identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

    July 21, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Is the concept of a qpp common in the Japanese ace community?”

    September 22, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Is the concept of a qpp common in the Japanese ace community? in so far as i’m aware, no. i’ve never heard of anything that could be considered to correspond to the concept of (a) queerplatonic partner(s) (QPPs) or queerplatonic relationships (QPRs) in Japan. which isn’t necessarily to say that the concept itself does not exist at all, just that if it does i don’t think it’s common and i have not seen a single word or phrase used to describe such a concept… yet.

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    Burnt Out & Neurotic: The Toll of Blogging While Ace and Mentally Ill

    December 26, 2018

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Black[ness],  Feedback,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Feedback: “I have been enjoying your thoughts on visibility!”

    September 22, 2017 / No Comments

    adventures-in-asexuality I have been enjoying your thoughts on visibility! I’ve often thought of it as kind of the ability to access narratives about yourself (or about other people, I guess, but my priorities here are inherently centered on people being able to find narratives about themselves, or about who they want to be) – a bit broader than just fiction narratives, including things like healthcare narratives or relative narratives or what you have. I have said the word ‘narrative’ too much. ( re: this post ) thanks for sharing your thoughts. 🙂 i’ve actually never re+ally thought of narratives or the ability to access them as visibility, but as representation…. but now that you mention it, i guess it totally is a form of visibility, just not in the way that i usually think of visibility… …which i guess is part of the frustration that i have with usage of…

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    September 15, 2016

    Re: “”Visibility””

    September 18, 2017

    “too butch.”

    April 29, 2019
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “…”love wins/love is love” can be kind of alienating…”

    September 19, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I just had a eureka moment when looking at your recent reblog of a post on how “love wins/love is love” can be kind of alienating… As an aro ace, the whole “love” angle is definitely implicitly exclusionary. The core of my being aro ace is that I DON’T love anyone That Way, and community rhetoric consistently fails to reflect that. Not to mention that I find the “twoo wuv” thing eye-roll-inducing at times. Your thoughts? ( re: this post ) i agree that in addition to ignoring, excluding and / or alienating trans and non-binary people, as pointed out in the OP, such rhetoric also  ignores, excludes and alienates those for whom “love” (be it in the traditional, romantic sense or at all) is not a thing– or at least, is not The Thing that defines their connection to the LGBTQIA community. such rhetoric posits love as some…

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    an example of intersectional acephobia if ever there was one…

    December 16, 2015

    Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2016: Asexual & Trans / Non-binary Awesomeness!

    May 14, 2016

    『[4コマ]☆ノンセクシュアル☆』

    May 25, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Black[ness],  Feedback,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    Re: Re: “”Visibility””

    September 19, 2017 / 1 Comment

    oodlenoodleroodle: queerascat: for the longest time it struck me as odd, the way that the LGBT community at large upholds “visibility” as some kind of goal or ideal to be fought for. it wasn’t until recent years that i actually stopped and thought about it enough to realize why reference to and usage of “visibility” in this way bothers me so much. as someone who has always been and will always be hypervisible because of their race, it baffles me when people advocate for visibility as if visibility is what we all want; as if visibility is even a means to getting what we all want. this upholding of visibility as something important for all of us to fight for seems grossly negligent of the fact that some of us are already more visible than others and that that very visibility is part of what has gotten some of us bullied,…

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    QAC 16 – Asexuality and the LGBTQ Community

    September 9, 2013

    QAC 22 – LGBTQ J-Magazines: Garçon Girls + Novia Novia

    February 10, 2014

    Studio Ghibli’s 『思い出のマーニー』 // “When Marnie Was There”

    August 11, 2014
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “how would a person go about separating gender identity and presentation?”

    August 31, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: hey there! i just came across this blog, so im unsure where to look or search. how would a person go about separating gender identity and presentation? i personally when i first learned about feminism, i immediately understood no actions, feelings, way of dressing/presenting signified anything about gender. though it’s maybe left me a bit lost now (currently i recently started using the label neutrois lesbian, and only feeling “feminine” or “womanness” when i thought of my attraction to women)? hi anon, i feel like it’s worth pointing out that not everyone does view their gender as being separate or independent of how they present or express themself. and that’s okay. some people do feel like how they present / express themself is reflective of their gender or vice versa. there is a push now to draw a clear line between these two things, but not everyone feels…

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    October 30, 2016

    QAC 22 – LGBTQ J-Magazines: Garçon Girls + Novia Novia

    February 10, 2014

    QAC 25 – Quasi-review: Nabeshirts / ナベシャツ Binders

    June 17, 2014
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I think I may be asexual. I romanticize the idea of being with a male partner later, but then I’m a maladaptive dreamer…”

    August 30, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: So I have a question. I think I may be asexual. I romanticize the idea of being with a male partner later, but then I’m a maladaptive dreamer. I have issues with trusting people, men specifically. I don’t have any sexual attraction to men, I occasionally get crushes, which are romantic in nature, but never sexual. I do masturbate, but more like a release than actual arousal, Infact I don’t even get aroused that much. Couple moths back I kissed a guy on impulse and it disgusted me. Please help. [ cw: masturbation, arousal mentions ] hello, anon. sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. i don’t know how much help i’ll be as i can’t tell you whether you’re asexual or not (that’s something you’ll ultimately have to decide for yourself), but… someone asked me how to know whether they’re ace or not awhile…

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    February 25, 2017

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    May 17, 2016
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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