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[A]sexuality, Black[ness], Queer[ness], YouTube[r]

an example of intersectional acephobia if ever there was one…

December 16, 2015 / No Comments

“…seriously??” i thought to myself upon getting this notification via the YouTube app, in my email inbox and then on the YouTube homepage. i was just going to ignore it and move on, but after seeing the same notification for a third time i decided to look further… …i was prepared for things to get worse, but not this worse. the above is only a sample of the bullshit that can be found on this guy’s YouTube channel. dare i even subject myself to watching any of the videos, let alone the video in question? as always, curiosity killed the cat… ……..so this guy was pointed in my direction by someone who has obviously watched several of my videos (ie. by someone who cannot not know that i am non-binary) but who is still misgendering me and who for some reason felt the need to disclose personal information about me, my mental health…

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Vesper H.

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Q&A: “Can nonbinary lesbians be monosexist?”

December 7, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: Can nonbinary lesbians be monosexist? I’m bisexual and I used the term monosexual during a conversation with someone I’ve been seeing and they were not happy about it. They identify as genderqueer and a lesbian and said that the term monosexual limits who can identify as a lesbian and ignores nonbinary folk. I don’t feel like they were being monosexist but were they? I feel the term is useful but they had very valid points. monosexism, in short, is the belief that monosexualities (ie. heterosexuality and homosexuality) are the only “true” or “legit” sexualities. e.g. the belief that non-monosexuals (bisexuals, pansexuals, polysexuals etc) are “really just either straight or gay.” literally anyone of any sexuality or gender could hold such beliefs, so literally anyone could potentially be monosexist. however, your friend taking issue with the term monosexual (as some people do for various reasons) and saying that it limits who can…

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Vesper H.

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Q&A: “”Wow, I would have never known you use to be a girl!” How would that be offensive?”

November 26, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: I saw the pictures you reposted with the transgender people. The one that said, “Wow, I would have never known you use to be a girl!” How would that be offensive? I feel like that would be an okay thing to say? Sorry if I’m coming off as rude. ? (the post in question) saying something like that to a trans person is offensive for several reasons. perhaps some of the biggest reasons are that: a trans person never “used to be” anything. just because doctors and society assumed them to be something else in the past doesn’t mean they were ever anything other than the gender that they are. just as a trans man doesn’t start being a man after transitioning, a trans man doesn’t stop being a girl after transitioning. they were never a girl to begin with. it can be dysphoria inducing to have someone…

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Vesper H.

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Persistent Depression & Anxiety: My Personal Journey

November 15, 2015 / 1 Comment

this post corresponds to a vlog that i will be posting have posted on my channel soon, but i figured i’d write out my feelings now and test the waters on Tumblr first. warning: talk of death and self-harm, along with lots of negativity in general. also, this post is extremely long. 15-some-odd years. that’s how long i guesstimate that i’ve been suffering from depression and anxiety. and yet i’ve only become aware of this over the course of the past 3~ years and have only come to accept it within the last year. like my sexuality and gender, mental health is something i’ve had to learn about and navigate entirely on my own. the journey has been rough

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Q&A: “can a person also choose to be a gender that doesn’t align with the one they were assigned at birth?”

November 8, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: So I know it is possible to choose to be queer and that doesn’t make a person’s queer identity any less legitimate, but can a person also choose to be a gender that doesn’t align with the one they were assigned at birth? I think I might be agender, but this isn’t something that “I’ve always known,” which I feel like is the typical narrative around trans folk. …well, first off, i should probably say that i do not think that it’s possible to choose to be queer. it’s certainly true that one chooses to identify as queer and that if one comes to identify as queer due to outside factors, that does not make that queer identity any less legitimate, sure. but even then being queer isn’t a choice. one doesn’t wake up one day and choose to be queer. and i’m pretty sure that’s not what…

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Pride haul

October 31, 2015 / No Comments

today’s haul from Yokohama Rainbow Festa. 🙂 got a good selection of ace stuff, a non-binary necklace, a pair of aromantic earrings and the latest editions of Novia Novia (lesbian/bi womens’ mag) and LapH (FTM mag). everything aside from the magazines is from にじいろ小町/Nijiiro Komachi, a shop that gives artists a place to sell their goods. there was non-binary, genderqueer, aromantic, pansexual and asexual stuff that i didn’t buy even buy! it’s great to see artists being more inclusive when they make things. i’m pretty sure some of the artists who are making the ace things are ace themselves. i even met one of them today! 🙂 thinking about doing a giveaway at some point in the future as i really don’t need nor want all of this stuff… D; tomorrow i’ll be editing the crazy amount of video that i took in Yokohama and Tokyo zzz…

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Q&A: “does agender not fall under the non-binary umbrella?”

October 29, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: This is more of a clarification question. Usually I see articles and posts say non-binary, but sometimes I see agender intentionally separated, so does agender not fall under the non-binary umbrella? Thanks! it depends on who you ask. generally speaking, agender is usually included as part of the “non-binary umbrella” as a gender that is not binary. that said, some agender people define their identity as being non-participatory of gender as a social identity system or as genderless. because of that, they may choose to separate themselves and/or their identity from the non-binary umbrella/community because associating with the non-binary community: suggests that their identity as agender is a gender– a non-binary gender –rather then a complete lack of gender is participating in gender, which they do not want to do does that make sense…? ^^; the non-binary community at large tends to include agender people, but some agender people…

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#SpiritDay2015

October 15, 2015 / No Comments

as a teacher i’ve seen and heard of a lot of bullying, especially here in Japan where, sadly, #SpiritDay isn’t even really a thing. even though none of my students will take notice of it, i’ll be wearing purple today in honor of #SpiritDay. ※ took it upon myself to edit some of GLAAD’s #SpiritDay images to make them more accurate about myself and included an illustration of some homophobic and transphobic things i’ve heard my students saying to each other.

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Vesper H.

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QAC 40 – The Gender Tag! | Maverique

October 12, 2015 / No Comments

me talking about my non-binary gender, maverique, as part of The Gender Tag, a project by Ashley Wylde. i also rant a bit about navigating my gender when even the non-binary community seems a bit too tied to the gender binary. – if you’re unfamiliar with The Gender Tag Project, find out more here: http://ashleywylde.com/videos/the-gender-tag-project/ – if you’re interested in learning more about maverique, check out: http://maveriques.tumblr.com/ ========= The Gender Tag Prompts ========= @00:35 1. How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that definition mean to you? @02:26 2. What pronouns honor you? @02:31 3. Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear. @04:13 4. Talk about your choices with body hair. How do you style your hair? Do you have facial hair? What do you choose to shave, or choose not to shave? @06:47 5. Talk about cosmetics. Do you choose to wear makeup? Do you paint your nails? What…

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Q&A: “So if male-ish-ness is usually called masculinity, and female-ish-ness is usually called femininity…”

October 11, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: So if male-ish-ness is usually called masculinity, and female-ish-ness is usually called femininity, would maverique-ish-ness be… maveriquinity? lol i love this line of thought! maveriquinity…. that is quite the word. /mav(ə)ˈrēkɪnɪti/ i like it, although i’m sure some people will find it difficult to pronounce.

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