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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I’m trying to understand the differences between maverique, agender, gender neutral, and neutrois.”

    May 25, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I’m trying to understand the differences between maverique, agender, gender neutral, and neutrois. What does being a maverique feel like to you and how does it differ from the other terms? I know what these terms MEAN, but not how these genders are EXPERIENCED. everyone has their own unique experience with gender, so there is no one “maverique experience”, “agender experience”, etc. what being maverique feels like to me isn’t necessarily going to match how other maveriques feel. that disclaimer aside, some links that may help you: “maverique: why i coined the word” – where i talk about why i stopped identifying as neutrois, how being maverique feels to me and how that differs from being gender neutral or genderless. “goodbye neutrois, hello maverique” – video version of the above “how is maverique distinct from agender?” – where i respond to an ask about the difference between being…

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    Vesper H.

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “i am agender, but also a girl, simulaneously and constantly.”

    May 2, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: i am agender, but also a girl, simulaneously and constantly. im nervous about telling people this because i dont want them to tell me i cant be be angender AND a girl. i usually just say im nonbinary but specifically im an agender girl. is this okay? of course it’s okay, anon. you aren’t obligated to tell anyone anything about your genders to begin with. if you do choose to tell someone something, it’s entirely up to you what / how much you tell them. in fact, i’m pretty sure that a lot of people come out as non-binary and leave it at that sometimes, not because they don’t identify as a more specific gender (or genders) but just because they don’t want to have to deal with people’s negative reactions or questions. there is absolutely nothing wrong with simplifying or selectively choosing what you tell people because…

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    Vesper H.

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  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 49 – Singular ‘They’ | Gender Neutral Pronouns | This Has Been A PSA

    April 24, 2016 / No Comments

    singular ‘they’: voted word of the year in 2015 by the American Dialect Society, used by English speakers everywhere– even by Shakespeare– and yet today some people insist on claiming that using ‘they’ in the singular is “ungrammatical,” “trendy” or “uneducated.” pull up a chair and have a seat, because if you’re one of those people, this video was made for you. but hold up, there’s no way i’d put so much time and effort into a video just for your pathetic ass. more than anything, this video is dedicated to everyone out there fighting to have their pronouns remembered, used and respected. as hard as it is, don’t give up or feel guilty for asking people to use your pronouns. your comfort is important. your identity is valid. your request to be referred to with specific pronouns is 100% justified and worth fighting for. stay strong. next time someone…

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  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “i have a question if i’m agender and i like cis girls and genderqueer people…”

    April 14, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Eyy, i have a question if i’m agender and i like cis girls and genderqueer people… What’s my sexual orientation? yeaaah, putting a name to one’s orientation does get complicated when non-binary people are involved, doesn’t it? that said, i’m afraid i can’t tell you what your sexual orientation is. that’s something that you’ll have to decide. there are non-binary and/or agender people who are attracted to girls and genderqueer people who identify as bi since bi is defined as attraction to two or more genders, but there are also non-binary and/or agender people who experience similar attraction but don’t identify as bi. what matters most is what word / identity feels “right” to you. whatever word / identity that may be, try running with that and see how it feels. you can always change it if it doesn’t feel right. 🙂 sidenote: i’m assuming you have reasons for…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “how is maverique distinct from genderqueer/non-binary…”

    January 16, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi, Vesper! Please, be aware that I often struggle to accurately express myself (b/c autism+), but my request is for help with self-education re: gender. I have trouble reading/parsing academic/jargon-heavy texts, but I want to understand gender variances, esp. non-binary. (e.g., how is maverique distinct from agender?) It’s all very confusing, and I fear many transgenders will hate me b/c I’m cisgendered, b/c the things I see on my dash re: cishate are scary… I just want to understand. T^T Oh, crap, I meant to ask how maverique is distinct from genderqueer/non-binary. I found out on the gender wiki, though, that both non-binary and genderqueer are umbrella terms, so… I feel like I’m making an ass of myself. I think that I’ll probably never understand because I don’t have the same struggle, but I’d like to try. hi! don’t worry, you’re not making an ass of yourself. gender…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “can a person also choose to be a gender that doesn’t align with the one they were assigned at birth?”

    November 8, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: So I know it is possible to choose to be queer and that doesn’t make a person’s queer identity any less legitimate, but can a person also choose to be a gender that doesn’t align with the one they were assigned at birth? I think I might be agender, but this isn’t something that “I’ve always known,” which I feel like is the typical narrative around trans folk. …well, first off, i should probably say that i do not think that it’s possible to choose to be queer. it’s certainly true that one chooses to identify as queer and that if one comes to identify as queer due to outside factors, that does not make that queer identity any less legitimate, sure. but even then being queer isn’t a choice. one doesn’t wake up one day and choose to be queer. and i’m pretty sure that’s not what…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “does agender not fall under the non-binary umbrella?”

    October 29, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: This is more of a clarification question. Usually I see articles and posts say non-binary, but sometimes I see agender intentionally separated, so does agender not fall under the non-binary umbrella? Thanks! it depends on who you ask. generally speaking, agender is usually included as part of the “non-binary umbrella” as a gender that is not binary. that said, some agender people define their identity as being non-participatory of gender as a social identity system or as genderless. because of that, they may choose to separate themselves and/or their identity from the non-binary umbrella/community because associating with the non-binary community: suggests that their identity as agender is a gender– a non-binary gender –rather then a complete lack of gender is participating in gender, which they do not want to do does that make sense…? ^^; the non-binary community at large tends to include agender people, but some agender people…

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “Quick question: is agender a part of non-binary?”

    July 21, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hey! Quick question: is agender a part of non-binary? I always think so, but I never really hear them in the same context. Thanks, I know you’re usually rather busy!   hi! any gender that does not fit into one of the two categories that society systematic splits gender into (ie. male / female) is commonly considered to be a non-binary gender. this includes agender as an agender person is neither male nor female. that said, how an agender person views themself in relation to the non-binary community at large is up to them. 🙂

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 30 – Gender Expression / Presentation Blurb

    October 28, 2014 / No Comments

    …what began as a blurb turned into a rant. how predictable. in this video i blurb/rant about my own gender expression and (as always) how society pisses me off. i curse quite a bit in this video, so….

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    “yellow as a maverique”

    June 25, 2014 / No Comments

    disclaimer: this overly simplistic graphic is in NO WAY meant to illustrate nor erase the numerous and diverse genders that exist. JUST OVERSIMPLIFYING FOR EASE OF UNDERSTANDING, FOLKS! …had to put the disclaimer on the image itself as well because i know eventually Google will pick it up, separating it from this post and the context needed to view it with.

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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