• QAC on YouTube
  • QAC on Tumblr
Queer As Cat

gender・ sexuality・ race ・intersectionality

  • Home
  • About
    • About QAC
    • About Vesper
  • Photos
    • Instagram
    • Tokyo Rainbow Pride
      • 2014
      • 2015
      • 2016
      • 2017
      • 2018
  • Resources
    • Asexual POC Resources
    • #LGBTQIA in Japan
  • Contact
  • Home
  • About
    • About QAC
    • About Vesper
  • Photos
    • Instagram
    • Tokyo Rainbow Pride
      • 2014
      • 2015
      • 2016
      • 2017
      • 2018
  • Resources
    • Asexual POC Resources
    • #LGBTQIA in Japan
  • Contact

Subscribe via Email

Enter your email address to subscribe to the QAC blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. :)

Twitter

My Tweets

Instagram

No images found!
Try some other hashtag or username
  • Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I just saw how to say you’re non-binary in Japanese and it was super exciting for me…”

    August 30, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi. I just saw the ask you answered about how to say you’re non-binary in Japanese and it was super exciting for me to see. I’m a non-binary teen living in Japan, and it’s amazing to see that because it’s a sign that there is an active community of non-binary people that is large enough for these words to exist. It’s wonderful. ( re: this post ) hello, anon. thanks for stopping by to drop me this ask because it’s exciting for me to hear that my post was able to reach someone like you. awesome! while awareness of Xジェンダー people still has a long way to go in Japan (as it does for non-binary people around the world), there definitely are active Xジェンダー people in Japan. in Japanese, many describe themself as MtX, FtX, Xジェンダー or any of the other terms i mentioned in the post that you…

    continue reading
    Vesper H.

    You May Also Like

    “You are freaking perfect how you are.”

    June 19, 2018

    QAC 01 – Introduction

    May 11, 2013

    QAC 46 – “Race / Gender Doesn’t Exist!” | The Argument of Social Constructs

    February 11, 2016
  • Feedback

    Feedback: “Hey i saw somewhere that u made that cool infographic a few years ago…”

    August 30, 2017 /

    anonymous said: Hey i saw somewhere that u made that cool infographic a few years ago and i just wanted to thank you. I hope this was ok (i was 15 at the time so not aware of likw plagiarism and ahit) but i ended up using that infographic on some sexuality sheets i made to help people around me understand better lgbt+ identities. With that fueled a life of activism and enthusiasm towards educating people about lgbt+ stuff, the sheets even helped a few of my friends come out! And some of them discovered what their identities were! I’ve now reached a point where i got to make my own (non-infographic-plagiarised) pamphlets (all fancily printed) for my universitys lgbt+ socs freshers bags so 100s of people in one go will be seeing them! So basically thank you, you were part of this journey i’ve gone on and what you…

    continue reading
    Vesper H.

    You May Also Like

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I think I may be asexual. I romanticize the idea of being with a male partner later, but then I’m a maladaptive dreamer…”

    August 30, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: So I have a question. I think I may be asexual. I romanticize the idea of being with a male partner later, but then I’m a maladaptive dreamer. I have issues with trusting people, men specifically. I don’t have any sexual attraction to men, I occasionally get crushes, which are romantic in nature, but never sexual. I do masturbate, but more like a release than actual arousal, Infact I don’t even get aroused that much. Couple moths back I kissed a guy on impulse and it disgusted me. Please help. [ cw: masturbation, arousal mentions ] hello, anon. sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. i don’t know how much help i’ll be as i can’t tell you whether you’re asexual or not (that’s something you’ll ultimately have to decide for yourself), but… someone asked me how to know whether they’re ace or not awhile…

    continue reading
    Vesper H.

    You May Also Like

    QAC 03 – Romantic Orientations & Other Types of Attraction

    May 24, 2013

    Asexy Aces at Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2014 (04/27/2014)

    May 7, 2014

    QAC 01 – Introduction

    May 11, 2013
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “…does [maverique] coexist with genderfluidity?”

    August 30, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I had a question about maverique. I am genderfluid and I am sometimes a boy, a girl, agender, or bigender but I have another gender that I normally just call yellow because I was uncomfortable with the term gender neutral. Maverique sounds like the perfect description for it. Is it okay to use it when describing my possible genders or does it not coexist with genderfluidity. Thank you! hello, anon. maverique is no different from any other gender in that some maveriques are monogender (ie. only have one gender, that being maverique) while others have or experience multiple genders, one of which is maverique. if you’re comfortable describing yourself as maverique, then by all means please do. know that you don’t need an ‘okay’ from me (or anyone else) to do so, although thanks to you and many others asking, i can say with confidence that you’d be in…

    continue reading
    Vesper H.

    You May Also Like

    Ie Uru Onna Gyakushuu S2E3: “A home that is accepting of all [kinds of] love?!”

    January 24, 2019

    “…what it means to become America’s boogieman”

    July 12, 2017

    photos from Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2014 (04/27/2014)

    May 7, 2014
  • [A]sexuality,  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “do people in japan know about asexuality or intersex , graysexuals , aromantics…?”

    August 30, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: i was wondering, do people in japan know about asexuality or intersex , graysexuals , aromantics…? they know about lgbt but what about these? is there any kind of awareness to it? ( i discovered that im ace flux and still questioning whether demisexual or graysexual, but also that im biromantic seemingly and was wondering if it would be a problem there? are people accepting or aware of them or just lgbt?) it’s hard to make a broad generalization about an entire country of people, but generally speaking, i’d say that awareness of intersex people, the ace spectrum and the aro spectrum– and indeed, LGBT everything– is behind where it is in, say, the US. at the same time, Japan is a very diverse place. within the same country, even among the same demographic of people, awareness can vary greatly. everything i’m saying and about to say is…

    continue reading
    Vesper H.

    You May Also Like

    Re: Tokyo Ace Meetup

    April 5, 2015

    Ace & Non-binary Pride @Tokyo Rainbow Pride 2015 (04/26/15)

    May 10, 2015

    the ‘Sin City’ asexual

    January 10, 2019
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Would you mind telling me some basic LGBT vocabulary in Japanese?”

    August 30, 2017 / No Comments

    hush-hush-little-heart said: Hi! I just found out about your blog, and I’d like to ask you something. I’m part of the LGBT community, and next year I’m going to study a Japanese Philology at the university. Would you mind telling me some basic LGBT vocabulary in Japanese? Just so I can understand and talk a bit about it, please ♡ (I’m a trans boy, and pansexual btw :3) oh also! (sorry i forgot to write it in the other ask) Do you know anything about getting hormones (testosterone, in my case) in Japan? Is it easy? Just in case, because I’d like to have a job/live there in a future, at least for some time   hi. 🙂 sorry for taking so long to get to your asks. regarding LGBT terminology in Japanese, it’s a little hard to answer that question because it’s so broad…. so instead, i’m going to…

    continue reading
    Vesper H.

    You May Also Like

    on the discrepancy between “asexual” in English & Japanese and confusion regarding demisexuality.

    May 12, 2017

    gender non-conformity sure does make for good entertainment for cis people, huh Japan?

    April 25, 2016

    literal “social distancing” from the ace community

    April 1, 2020
  • Feedback,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    Feedback: “anon who asked abt alternatives to neutrois – your answer was helpful!”

    August 24, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: anon who asked abt alternatives to neutrois – your answer was helpful! i haven’t seen much discussion abt neutrois as a term, so it’s good to know i’m at least not the only person who feels this way. ( re: this post ) thanks for coming back and responding. 🙂 indeed, despite the lack of talk about neutrois these days, you’re most definitely not alone. i’m sorry that months later, i still don’t have an alternative to neutrois to suggest to you, though… as i mentioned in a recent ask, i feel like even though there are people who do use ‘agender’ to mean ‘a complete lack of gender’ (ie. genderlessness), at the same time there are a lot of people who use ‘agender’ to mean something else, including ‘gender neutral’ (ie. not genderless, but rather a gender that is itself neutral). this may be nothing more than a faulty…

    continue reading
    Vesper H.

    You May Also Like

    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Is it just me, or has the definition [of agender] shifted?”

    August 23, 2017 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I’ve got a question about agender. I was sifting through some of your old posts and noticed that you’ve previously framed agender as including “doesn’t have any gender identity at all.” Is it just me, or has that definition shifted? I use quoigender over agender because I’ve always gotten this vibe from the nonbinary community(ies) that agender is a gender identity, like how asexuality is a sexual orientation. (Incidentally, I hope that you’re hiatus has helped you recover.) hello anon. thanks for the kind wishes and sorry for taking so long to get to your ask. i’m guessing that the old post that you are referencing might be this one? either way, i feel like everything that i said in that post still holds true today and not much has changed…? the non-binary community in general– and indeed, many agender people themselves– still has / have a tendency…

    continue reading
    Vesper H.

    You May Also Like

    “the ace community goes overboard with words?” i.e. word vomitted “nah”

    April 5, 2018

    Cosmopolitan: “Everything You Need To Know About Demisexuality”

    March 20, 2017

    “love languages”?? communication tool.

    May 1, 2019
  • [A]sexuality,  Black[ness],  Feedback,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Feedback: “I’ve know I was asexual since I was 12, and I felt broken. Till this day I still know, but I reject it…”

    August 15, 2017 /

    anonymous said: Hello! I’m Pangrayromantic and asexual. I feel so weird just admiting this, I’ve know I was asexual since I was 12, and I felt broken. Till this day I still know, but I reject it, mostly because the world has what I don’t have and I feel like I have to catch up. I feel like my asexuality dosnt fit in and it isn’t important, but this is mostly because I lack a sexuality lol. But it’s amazing to see another African American , who’s in the asexual and pan community! hi! sorry for taking so long to respond to your message. i hope you’re doing well, in spite of recent events… i’m sorry to hear that you’ve struggled with (and continue to struggle with) your (a)sexuality for so long. while i personally do not view my asexuality as being a lack of sexuality, i can still imagine…

    continue reading
    Vesper H.

    You May Also Like

    AskAPan Week 07 – Family responses to the LGBTQ community

    July 5, 2013

    commentary: “Where Is The Asexual Representation in LGBTQ Pride?”

    June 10, 2017

    identity politics leave little room for agency; a thought.

    July 21, 2017
  • Japan[ese],  Q&A

    Q&A: “I’ve explained to my mom a couple of times what asexuality and aromanticism are and how they differ…”

    August 9, 2017 / No Comments

    buffintruda said: I’ve explained to my mom a couple of times what asexuality and aromanticism are and how they differ but she can’t remember. She’s very supportive of me being aroace so I don’t think it’s purposeful. Japanese is her first language so it might be better to explain in Japanese, but I can only speak English. I understand if you’re busy, and this isn’t too important, but if you have the time and energy, could you link a website that fully explains it or write your own explanation? Thank you! hi! sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask. i’ve decided to respond to it publicly because others may find the information in it useful, but i will gladly take the post down if you’d so prefer. just let me know. i don’t know whether your mom will find this easier to understand or not, but this…

    continue reading
    Vesper H.

    You May Also Like

    YouTube Tokyo Pride Academy 2017

    YouTube Pride Academy 2017

    July 1, 2017

    QAC 74 – 1 Year on HRT: Non-Binary Dysphoria | Euphoria | “Passing” || The T Files #010

    January 3, 2019

    Ash Hardell’s “The ABC’s of LGBT+” in Japanese!

    November 25, 2017
34567

VESPER H.

YouTuber & Blogger

Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

Subscribe

Stay up-to-date with notifications of new posts by email.

Recent Posts

  • literal “social distancing” from the ace community April 1, 2020
  • legalized weed in America: one of many chips on my Black shoulder March 7, 2020
  • willpower, sweat, and tears January 30, 2020
  • 🎬 QAC 79 – The Neverending Queer-y: My Queer Ace Journey || LGBT YouTube & COPPA January 4, 2020
  • #YouTubeIsOverParty: COPPA & The Hypocrisy of YouTube December 15, 2019

Categories

Time Machine

Tags

ace anon aromantic asexual asexuality asks bi feedback gender gender identity genderqueer identity intersectionality intracommunity issues i rant when i'm tired japan LGBT lgbt in Japan LGBTQIA life in japan maverique me non-binary nonbinary in Japan opinion personal problematic things QPOC queer questioning random thoughts sexuality stuff i made terminology this has been a Vesper original this is my life tired Vesper is tired trans transgender vlog Xジェンダー youtube セクマイ 外人の目から見た日本 日本

Categories

Instagram

No images found!
Try some other hashtag or username

Follow QAC

© Queer As Cat 2013 - 2025