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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “my friends told me she decided that “mom” is gender neutral and shes going to keep calling me that…”

    November 13, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: my friend group has always had this thing where they call me “mom”. a while ago I came out as trans to most of them, and one of my friends told me she decided that “mom” is gender neutral and shes going to keep calling me that bc it’s just our thing. but it’s kind of been bothering me lately bc I don’t want that used for me anymore. I feel like if I tell them that, they’ll get annoyed and ignore me and think I’m making a big deal out of it, when it actually kind of makes me dysphoric. my humble opinion is that you should be up front with them. tell them what you’ve told me, that being referred to as “mom” makes you feel dysphoric/that you aren’t comfortable being referred to as that anymore. if they’re really your friends they shouldn’t ignore or belittle your…

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    Vesper H.

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    February 23, 2016
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    QAC 30 – Gender Expression / Presentation Blurb

    October 28, 2014 / No Comments

    …what began as a blurb turned into a rant. how predictable. in this video i blurb/rant about my own gender expression and (as always) how society pisses me off. i curse quite a bit in this video, so….

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    July 21, 2013

    QAC 10 – Gender Dysphoria & Body Mods

    July 6, 2013

    one of many reasons why “QUEER” means so much to me.

    September 23, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 26 – Gender Dysphoria: It’s Complicated. (a rant)

    June 30, 2014 / No Comments

    GENDER DYSPHORIA ISN’T BLACK & WHITE. NOTHING is black & white and i really wish people would stop acting as if body dysphoria is the black and social dysphoria the white of gender dysphoria. IT’S FAR MORE COMPLICATED THAN THAT. and that’s before you even consider that even internal/body dysphoria is inevitably connected to society, which i didn’t talk about at all in this video. anyway, i feel like more people need to acknowledge this fact, advice/resource blogs and websites especially. …i can’t even remember what it was that set me off on this rant. it was triggered earlier this week, but it wasn’t until today that i had time to get in front of a camera zzz…

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    November 14, 2015

    GENDER.

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Mental [Un]health,  Queer[ness]

    that feel when…

    June 28, 2014 / No Comments

    ….you think about how impossible it is to “pass” as a non-binary person.

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    October 15, 2015

    one of those days.

    April 2, 2015

    …one of many examples of why navigating セクマイ / LGBTQIA spaces in Japan can be painful at times.

    October 7, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Art[sy Fartsy]

    “the faces of Vesper”

    June 8, 2014 / No Comments

    one day the locs that frame my face will be gone and i can’t help but wonder if i’ll even recognize my own face without them— they’ve become such A Thing. either way, the love-hate relationship with my hair continues for now…

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    QAC 45 – Forced Out of the Closet: 2 Years Later | Coming Out Again (Non-Binary Bi / Pan Asexual)

    January 26, 2016

    re: ….so. selfies.

    February 15, 2015

    …mmm, decided there hasn’t been enough Calcifer on this blog, so here you go.

    November 20, 2017
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 10 – Gender Dysphoria & Body Mods

    July 6, 2013 / No Comments

    i think that dealing with dysphoria is all about owning the situation– taking control of the things that you do have at least some control over and doing what makes you happy. for me at the moment, that involves getting a septum piercing. 😛 i happen to like certain body mods, but body mods aren’t for everyone.

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    QAC 31 – Relationships… Meh.

    November 17, 2014

    transphobia & non-binary erasure in Japanese media

    March 17, 2016

    totally random Yukihari / hazardaĵo pri Yukihari

    June 26, 2014
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    QAC 08 – Non-Binary Social Dysphoria (Body, Hair, etc)

    June 14, 2013 / No Comments

    i.e. why society makes me want to bind my chest, chop off my ass and cut off my hair.

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VESPER H.

YouTuber & Blogger

Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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Recent Posts

  • literal “social distancing” from the ace community April 1, 2020
  • legalized weed in America: one of many chips on my Black shoulder March 7, 2020
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