2016 | Page 4 of 30 | Queer As Cat

[A]sexuality, Feedback, Q&A, Queer[ness]

Feedback: “From Anon coming out to friend who might know…”

November 10, 2016 / No Comments

anonymous said: From Anon coming out to friend who might know: So I came out to her and it went really well. She made it causal for me, lol. She didn’t say if she knew or not. I feel so much better now. Now to work on coming out as nonbinary lol. Thank u, Vesper. 🙂 ( re: anon from these posts, perhaps?) thank you for coming back (again) and sharing the good news, anon. so glad to hear that things went well for you. 🙂 her response to you coming out this time is really encouraging, i think. hopefully she will respond in an equally awesome way if / when you come out to her again. either way, best wishes!

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…today America elected Donald Trump as president.

November 9, 2016 / No Comments

…today America decided for me that i can’t “come home” for at least another 4 years. i might not have anyway, but at least the option was there. there’s a lot of talk of people wanting to leave America. i get that. i said the same thing living in America when Bush was elected. if only i’d known that leaving America doesn’t actually mean escaping it. not like i’d thought, anyway. next year will be my 10th year of living abroad. i never imagined i’d ever live abroad at all let alone for as long as i have, but the longer i do the harder it becomes to envision a life back in America again. even so, 4 more years on top of the time i’ve already spent abroad puts me that much closer to having spent half of my life abroad… but perhaps that doesn’t even matter, because after today…

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November 9, 2016 / No Comments

…no words. just emotions.

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Q&A: “There’s a guide that answers a lot of questions about [asexuality]… Do know where I can find it?”

November 8, 2016 / No Comments

anonymous said: So I’m but to a friend but I don’t think I explained asexuality really well. There’s a guide that answers a lot of questions about it, but I’m having trouble finding it. It’s like an ace 101 thing. Do know where I can find it? i’m afraid that i don’t know which guide you’re referring to, but maybe these links could also be of some help to you? ”Q & Ace: An Introduction to Asexuality” – AsexualityArchive “Asexuality 101″ – Asexual Awareness Week Downloadable Resources – Asexual Awareness Week “Asexuality 101″ – A Trivial Knot “What Is Asexuality?” – WhatIsAsexuality.com if anyone has anything to add to this, please feel free to.

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Q&A: “what do you think about asexuality and the LGBTQ community today?”

November 7, 2016 / No Comments

aro-probably-ace-ravenclaw said: Hi, Vesper! As my url says, I’m somewhere in the ace spectrum. I saw your video about asexuality and the LGBTQ community, and I need to ask: what do you think about it today? Something change? hi! thanks for watching the video and for asking. while i would change some things about that video if i were to redo it today, the gist of what i said in those 16 minutes of blabbering remains true today and can be summarized by what i said @3:58: my personal stance on [asexuals being part of the LGBTQ community] is that anyone who feels that they are queer, anyone who identifies with the word ‘queer’, anyone who identifies as being part of the LGBTQ community has every right to identify as such. and those who do not feel like they identify with such a community or that they want themselves associated…

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Feedback: “just found ur videos, thank u so much for speaking up on this stuff…”

November 7, 2016 /

anonymous said: hey man, just found ur videos, thank u so much for speaking up on this stuff, so nice to see a nb agender person speaking on these issues. I’m just starting to figure out my identity, and honestly u have been such a blessing. ur lil white pet is p cute too, lil prickly hamster. honestly haven’t seen many voices that aren’t above like 25, and just knowing that u r nb, ace, and panrom is so relieving. so scared that this was just a phase. thanks again man, ur the best thanks, anon, for watching and for going out of your way to send me this nice message. i’m not agender myself (i’m maverique), but being agender and / or non-binary, asexual and pan certainly isn’t something that one ‘grows out of’, even if something does happen to change for you or for me later in life. i’m…

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Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”
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A.F.K.

November 1, 2016 / No Comments

i will be (semi-)AFK from Tumblr Nov. 2nd (Wed) – Nov. 6th (Sun) JST as i’ll be visiting Tokyo and Shizuoka. while i’ll still be around ‘liking’ posts for future reference / reblogging, i won’t be posting or reblogging anything nor will i be responding to asks. if for whatever reason you need to contact me, email (queerascat at gmail dot com) or Tumblr’s messenger are your best bet. as always, i’ll still be active on Twitter, Instragram, Snapchat, and elsewhere, so if you want to check out what i’m up to or see random snaps of what i’m doing (such as the Instagram video above taken during my last trip to Tokyo), maybe follow me outside of Tumblr? either way, 行ってくる！ see you in a few days.

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Huffpost: “When The World Doesn’t Know You Exist: Coming Out As Non-Binary”

October 30, 2016 / No Comments

Life would be easier if it came with a guidebook. If it did, maybe it wouldn’t have taken me 27 years to realise that I didn’t actually have to subscribe to society’s assertion that everyone is either male or female. At the very least, ripping the book to shreds in a fit of rage would have made for great stress relief. Then again, had there been such a book I probably wouldn’t have grown up to be the person that I am today and I wouldn’t change that for the world. Hello, my name’s Vesper. I’m a 31 year old non-binary person who’s here today to tell you that gender is a much more beautifully complex thing than society would have you believe. That some people, such as myself, are neither male nor female but a different gender(s) entirely […] the blog post that i wrote for Ditch The Label…

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Q&A: “I feel like im going to cry I told my mom im ace…”

October 27, 2016 / No Comments

anonymous said: I feel like im going to cry I told my mom im ace by saying it casually sorta in a convo, she said no im not and said when I go back to the doc (my anxiety/psychologist doc) she would bring it up and “fix me” im frustrated and Sad sorry for venting? a million and one internet hugs, anon, if that’s something you’re okay with. i’m really sorry your mom responded in such a horrible way. she obviously doesn’t even understand what it is that you told her or how much trust you’d put in her in deciding to even tell her at all… i hope that your doctor is more educated on the subject of (a)sexuality than your mom is and realizes that a person’s sexuality is not something that can be or even need be “fixed.” either way, i sincerely hope that your mom starts putting…

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Q&A not Q&A: “I’m just here to vent. I’m a closeted ace and just now…”

October 26, 2016 / No Comments

anonymous said: I’m just here to vent. I’m a closeted ace and just now in a small class w people I like made fun of asexuality and it wasn’t especially rude or mean but it still shocked me somehow… I’m still shaking. Maybe cause it’s sich a deep secret of mine oh anon, i’m sorry you were subjected to that. i think many people who read this will be able to relate to how you feel because we’ve be in similar situations and needless to say, it can really hurt. wishing you a wonderful rest of the day to help drown out that horrible part of your day. perhaps taken in some of the awesome ace positivity going around Tumblr at the moment in celebration of Asexual Awareness Week if that’ll help take your mind off it at all. <3

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