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  • Feedback,  Q&A

    Feedback: “I just wanted to say your presence on tumblr and YouTube has really inspired me…”

    September 10, 2016 /

    anonymous said: I just wanted to say your presence on tumblr and YouTube has really inspired me. When I’m in a better situation where I can be out in a few years, I (as a neutrois person) am eager to become a nonbinary youtuber. Your videos have really inspired me to, one day, be open about who I am and talk on subjects hat are important to me. it really is an honor, anon, to have been inspirational to you and to receive a message like this. thank you. <3 i genuinely look forward to seeing you on YouTube (and/or Tumblr) some day. i don’t take for granted the fact that i’m able to be out on the internet like i am because i know that many aren’t in such a position. i also think that wanting to talk about subjects that are important to you on YouTube is incredibly…

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • Feedback

    Feedback: “you know sometimes i don’t go on your blog for a long time and then…”

    September 9, 2016 /

    anonymous said: you know sometimes i don’t go on your blog for a long time and then i see you on my dash again and i read your posts or watch your videos and i think damn. you’re so intelligent and charismatic, i mean you express yourself so well and your ideas are so interesting. thank you for being in this world, you rock. ……..i’ve literally stared at this ask for a good 20 minutes and all i can say is: *incredibly grateful yet uncomfortable and doesn’t know what to do because Unwarranted Kindness noises* <3

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    Vesper H.

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    Feedback: “I just wanted to thank you for your post on the alterous vs platonic thing…”

    February 23, 2016
  • [A]sexuality,  Gender[queer],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “I can’t explain why it’s so easy for me to say I’m trans and so hard to say I’m a lesbian…”

    September 9, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hello. I’ve always been aware and proud, even as a kid, of my transgender identity. It was never hidden. But when it comes to sexuality it’s another story. Now that I’m older, I know that I have always been a lesbian but the less I can say is that I’m not very clear about it, I’m ambiguous when I speak about sexual orientation with people. Always fighting for lgbt rights but not saying clearly that I’m gay. I can’t explain why it’s so easy for me to say I’m trans and so hard to say I’m a lesbian hi, anon. i’m afraid that i don’t have any solid answers for you… i’m sure that a lot is involved in why you find it so hard to be as open about your sexuality as you are about being trans. to throw out but a few (among many) possible factors,…

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    Vesper H.

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  • [A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Can I be heterosexual but biromantic in this case?”

    September 9, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hii… Ummm I have a question. I’m a cis-woman. All my life, I identified as just being straight but for a couple of years now, I have found myself being attracted to several women who seem androgynous or more masculine presenting(?) Idk if this is a good description. Idk what to feel bc I’m not sure if I want to have sex with them but I am attracted to them? Can I be heterosexual but biromantic in this case? I’m so confused. I feel weird my feelings are all over the place. hello. 🙂 there are certainly people who identify as biromantic heterosexual whose experiences are similar to yours, anon! having said that, i think you’ll also find that people with experiences which are similar to yours identify in all kinds of ways because there is no One True Way™ for anyone to identify. for example, not everyone…

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    Vesper H.

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    July 27, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “Are there any (commonly used?) gender neutral pronouns in Japanese like there are in English?”

    September 7, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Are there any (commonly used?) gender neutral pronouns in Japanese like there are in English? I love your blog btw, your posts about Japanese are fascinating 🙂 (see also: this post) ah, thank you! although at this point i feel the need to throw out a huge disclaimer. [image reads: i’m totally a non-fluent, non-native speaker of Japanese and as such, i might not even know wtf i’m talking about! :’D but thank you for asking anyway! – Vesper] anyway, i’m inclined to say no, there are no gender neutral pronouns in Japanese like there are in English. in English, “gender neutral pronouns” generally refers to third-person pronouns used by one person to refer to another person. in Japanese, third-person pronouns aren’t used anywhere near as frequently as in English and it’s relatively easy to avoid gendering a person without using actual third-person pronouns at all, making gender neutral third-person…

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    May 11, 2013
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A

    Q&A not Q&A: “I’m a female androgyne & clothes are a problem for me.”

    September 6, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi. I really like your style. I’m a female androgyne & clothes are a problem for me. I’m skinny & short & I like men’s clothes but they don’t fit me because they are all too big for me. So I hate how I look like. I see pictures on the internet with beautiful women wearing great men’s clothes, they are divine but where I live there’s not a single shop for genderqueer. When I’m trying to tell this to someone, girls are telling me that with my body I can wear what I want. Yes… in a shop for women thanks, anon. 🙂 i totally share your frustration when it comes to shopping for clothes…. i, too, prefer clothes that tend to be in “men’s” sections. i’m also (very) short and have more curves than i care to admit… that, combined with how selective and uncompromising i…

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    Vesper H.

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    June 30, 2014
  • Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

    Q&A: “How do I tell someone I’m non-binary in Japanese?”

    September 4, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: How do I tell someone I’m non-binary in Japanese?

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  • Q&A

    Q&A: “do they pronouns work like plural or singular?”

    September 3, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: Hi sorry to bother you, english is not my first language and i always get confused, do they pronouns work like plural or singular? I mean talking about a nb person u say “they is very pretty” or “they are very pretty”? not a problem, anon. 🙂 even when ‘they’ is used to talk about a single person, it is still used in almost the exact same way as it would be used to talk about multiple people. in other words, it is grammatically plural. subjective: they are very pretty. objective: i hugged them. possessive determiner: their smile makes me happy. possessive pronoun: the choice is theirs. reflexive: they are proud of themself.* * the only difference is that the reflexive form of plural ‘they’ is ‘themselves’ (eg. ‘they are proud of themselves’). some people use ‘themselves’ even for singular ‘they’ when talking about a single person, but i prefer ‘themself’. hope this helps.

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    February 23, 2016
  • Gender[queer],  Q&A

    Q&A: “Do you know any non-binary pronouns besides they/them?”

    September 3, 2016 / No Comments

    anonymous said: I am pronoun-confused. Do you know any non-binary pronouns besides they/them? there are many, many gender neutral pronouns in the English language besides they / them / their. to throw out a few of them as examples: co / co / cos e(y) / em / eir ne / nem / nir ve / ver / vis xe / xem / xyr ze / hir / hir again, those are just a few. see list of gender neutral pronouns on Wiktionary.org for even more pronouns. there’s also more detailed information about the history and usage of various gender neutral pronouns in English (and other languages) on Nonbinary.org’s wiki. last but not least, there’s also the option of using no pronouns at all, which many people seem to forget is even an option. if knowing how to use certain pronouns is confusing or difficult for you, you may be interested in checking out…

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    February 28, 2016

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    July 23, 2017

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  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    re: WHINGE: navigating セクマイ stuff

    September 2, 2016 / No Comments

    -※ (continued from here) ….ah, M. i don’t know what to do with you anymore. you’re trying, and i really appreciate that, but… sigh.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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