URGENT: a question for WTF/quoiromantics
i’m working on a collab video that will be explaining what WTF/quoiromantic means and i’d really like to check in with WTF/quoiromantics and especially with @epochryphal before the video goes live, but i have a very short deadline to meet before it does so quick replies would be appreciated!
do you think the following is an appropriate analogy for explaining what WTF/quoiromantic means?
>> imagine there’s a questionnaire with a question asking “Are you religious?”
>> a person who isn’t would probably answer “no”.
>> a person who doesn’t relate to religion at all, who doesnt care enough to even answer such a question because maybe religion isn’t even a thing they want to make a conscious decision about either way, might answer “N/A” to skip the question entirely.
>> answering a question with “no” is not the same thing as answering with “not applicable”. in the case of romantic identities, aromantic is often the equivalent to answering the question “Do you experience romantic attraction?” with “no.” quoiromantic is the equivalent of answering with “N/A”.
>> there are many reasons why someone might choose “N/A” regardless of what the question is and there are just as many reasons why someone might identify as quoiromantic, not /just/ because they don’t understand what romantic attraction is.
thoughts?
(i’m sitting in a cafe on my phone so can’t format or tag this the way i’d like. will edit this post later.)
edit: thanks everyone for all of your feedback!
after some discussion, the video has been recorded and sent to the person hosting the collab. this is what i ended up saying:
>> imagine there’s a questionnaire and one of the questions on it is “Are you religious?”
>> a person who isn’t would probably answer “no”.
>> a person who doesn’t find the question relevant to them OR who doesn’t understand what even constitutes as “religious” OR a person who can’t answer that question with a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’ because it’s too complicated OR a person who just doesn’t want to answer the question for whatever reason might choose “N/A” (or “not applicable”) to skip the question entirely.
>> responding to a question with “no” is not the same thing as responding with “N/A” (or “not applicable”) and when it comes to romantic & sexual identities, aromantic & asexual are often the equivalent of saying “no” when asked the question “Do you experience romantic/sexual attraction?” whereas wtf or quoi is often the equivalent of saying “N/A” or “not applicable”.
>> regardless of what the topic or question, there are numerous reasons why someone might choose “not applicable” or “N/A”, especially when the topic is as complex as religion or the ways in which you experience attraction to someone. not being able to differentiate between different types of attraction is one of many reasons why someone might identify as wtf or quoiromantic or sexual.
