i hesitate to post this at all*, but i’ve been casually mulling it over for a little while now and am getting no where in keeping this to myself, so here goes nothing… there’s a relatively new word going around on Tumblr: alterous.
i’m working on a collab video that will be explaining what WTF/quoiromantic means and i’d really like to check in with WTF/quoiromantics and especially with @epochryphal before the video goes live, but i have a very short deadline to meet before it does so quick replies would be appreciated! do you think the following is an appropriate analogy for explaining what WTF/quoiromantic means? >> imagine there’s a questionnaire with a question asking “Are you religious?” >> a person who isn’t would probably answer “no”. >> a person who doesn’t relate to religion at all, who doesnt care enough to even answer such a question because maybe religion isn’t even a thing they want to make a conscious decision about either way, might answer “N/A” to skip the question entirely. >> answering a question with “no” is not the same thing as answering with “not applicable”. in the case of romantic…
anonymous said: Do you think its okay for me (personally) to reject the idea of romantic orientation? I don’t feel like I fit with aromantic either. Romantic orientation just doesn’t feel like a useful concept to me. I feel like I can’t even distinguish “romantic attraction” and “sensual attraction” and whatever. The way I’m attracted to people is in a way that I can’t pick apart: all the feelings go together and nothing stands out as ‘this specifically is romantic attraction.’ Can’t I /just/ be asexual? without a doubt you can (and should) feel free to discard or reject the idea of romantic orientation etc etc in regards to yourself if you do not find the concept to be useful to you. there is absolutely no requirement that you identify or describe yourself as anything. honestly, it would do the asexual community good to recognize that romantic orientation (among others)…
i’ve been off-handedly questioning whether i may be somewhere along the aromantic spectrum or not for a while now, but since i felt no rush to tack on yet another identity label onto my already crazy-long list of identity labels, such thoughts have mostly gotten swept under the rug before really getting anywhere. well, since i have a bit of free time on my hands now thanks to spring break, i promised myself that i’d explore this topic more. what follows is just me putting thoughts into words… many, many words… for my own sake. may Cat God be with you if you attempt to get through this.
