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Q&A: “What is sexual attraction exactly?”

July 9, 2015 / No Comments

fajitasvanitas said: (Coming from an ace) what is sexual attraction exactly? Is it like “I want to have sex with this person?” Or?? coming from another ace who has never actually experienced sexual attraction first hand, that sounds about right. at least, in so far as i understand it. or as i put it in another post re: libido vs sexual attraction: for many people (including asexuals), it can be hard to distinguish between sexual attraction and sex drive/libido because they often do influence each other. if a sexual person feels sexually attracted to someone, that someone generally becomes the driving force behind one’s sex drive. however, it is totally possible to experience one without the other. in other words, sexual attraction is being attraction to/drawn to someone in such a way that that person becomes the target of one’s sexual feelings (libido).

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Vesper H.

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Q&A: “…do you think there could be other types of attraction?”

July 7, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: I know a lot of the time in discussions about asexual identities people break down attraction into 4 different categories: sexual, romantic, aesthetic, sensual (well and sometimes platonic). But do you think there could be other types of attraction? Sometimes I see people and I feel /something/ but I wouldn’t really categorize it as one of those – argh its so confusing! Am I just experiencing one of those types of attraction in a strange way?? without a doubt there could be (read: probably is) more to attraction than the categories that the ace and aro communities tend to refer to. attraction, as with feelings in general, is an insanely complex thing that most certainly cannot be neatly boxed into or described by categories. it doesn’t get said enough that not everyone even finds the existing categories helpful or meaningful in describing their attraction(s). you could be experiencing…

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Q&A: “How can I tell the difference between libido and sexual attraction?”

June 1, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: So, I have identified as a panromantic asexual for a while now, but I just entered my first romantic relationship and am beginning to question this. We make out sometimes, and I get aroused. How can I tell the difference between libido and sexual attraction? He’s the only one I would want to have sex with, but is this sexual attraction or just loyalty to my partner? hello, anon! sorry for taking so long to respond to your ask! i can’t tell you whether what you’re experiencing is one thing or another. ultimately, only you can decide that. i can say, however, that becoming aroused can and does happen to anyone, regardless of what their sexual orientation is. it’s simply a physiological reaction to stimuli which has no bearing on one’s sexual orientation. also, i personally do not consider arousal to be the same thing as libido/sex…

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Q&A: “to be sexually attracted to someone, do you necessarily have to fantasize about…?”

April 13, 2015 / No Comments

anonymous said: I’m sorry if this is dumb, but I’ve always been confused about the difference between romantic attraction and sexual attraction. To be sexually attracted to someone, do you necessarily have to fantasize about partaking in sexual acts with that person? I’m wondering because I have never been attracted to sex or anything related to sex. I don’t think I’ll ever have sexual fantasies about anyone, and my disinterest in sex has nothing to do with my religious or moral beliefs. Is this normal? anon, i feel like you’re asking the wrong person this question since i’ve never even experienced sexual attraction myself lol….. based on my understanding of sexual attraction, what you’ve described (fantasizing about partaking in sexual acts with someone) may be a part of sexual attraction for some people, yes. however, someone can fantasize about partaking in sexual acts without actually wanting to partake in such…

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QAC 19 – Asexuality: An FAQ

October 25, 2013 / No Comments

in honor of Asexual Awareness Week (Oct. 20th – 26th, 2013) i decided to attempt to make a video to help raise awareness about asexuality. the FAQ includes: @00:56 – what is asexuality? @01:12 – isn’t that celibacy? @01:42 – maybe you should get your hormones checked? @02:38 – isn’t asexuality unnatural? @04:27 – so if you’re asexual you’re a virgin/never want sex? @05:49 – how can you know if you’ve never had sex?@06:57 – do asexuals masturbate? @07:46 – i have a low/high sex drive. could i still be asexual? @09:04 – do asexuals never fall in love? @09:51 – what are other types of attraction? @11:38 – what if someone rarely experiences sexual attraction or only experiences it under certain circumstances? @12:45 – where can i find out more? please note that the content of this video is just MY personal answer to various questions and i most…

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AskAPan Week 06 – “Genderblind”ness (+DOMA comments)

June 28, 2013 / No Comments

my (humble) opinion on many pansexual’s and panromantic’s use of the term “genderblind” and why such a term is highly problematic, plus brief comments re: DOMA.

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QAC 03 – Romantic Orientations & Other Types of Attraction

May 24, 2013 / No Comments

in this video i try to explain how there are several types of attraction, including romantic, sensual, aesthetic and sexual attraction. i also go on to explain that there are also romantic orientations in addition to sexual orientations and how these two orientations do not always match each other. i am certainly no expert on this topic, but i feel that this topic is not discussed enough, so i made this video with the hope of furthering awareness and discussion about the matter. i apologize if i have confused for offended anyone. re: the “Orientations” image used in this video, see here. feedback and comments are welcome. hope i explained things clearly/correctly enough. ;(

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