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  • Art[sy Fartsy],  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    GENDER.

    February 16, 2014 / No Comments

    GENDER it isn’t black & white no matter how much you want it to be …i made this for several reasons. it bothers me when i see someone’s gender identity being ignored, erased or invalidated for any reason*. it bothers me when i see people bitching about there being “too many labels” just because they themselves lack the need for them. it bothers me when i see people both within and outside of the LGBTQIA community (esp. within the genderqueer and non-binary communities) trying so hard to define this and that that they begin to paint things black & white, oversimplifying things to the point of erasing the shades of gray that so many people actually find comfort in. it bothers me when someone feels that they have the right to tell someone else that they aren’t the gender that they identify as because they don’t want to transition medically,…

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  • [Random] Thoughts,  Gender[queer],  Queer[ness]

    The Neutrois “Standard”

    February 11, 2014 / No Comments

    so, there’s a thread on AVEN that opens like this… A new (to me) concept was recently thrown in my path. It’s the idea that there are sex orientations as well as gender orientations; ie that sex is not strictly what you physically look like, but what you want to look like (sexual characteristics-wise). For example, neutrois would count as a sex orientation, not a gender one; neutrois, as I understand it, is a desire to present as neutrally as possible, with the characteristics of neither binary sex. However, agender and genderless are gender orientations, because they specifically refer to the construct of gender, not physical aspects. This made a lot of sense to me, intuitively. It allows us to think of a single person as both neutrois and agender, to follow the above examples. Or neutrois and demi-guy, or androgynous man, or female agender, or any combination. I’m wondering how many…

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    Snapchat rant #214

    July 12, 2016

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    March 7, 2013

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    June 1, 2014
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    「友情結婚」

    January 10, 2014 / 1 Comment

    今夜 新しい言葉や慣用語を習った:「友情結婚」 mixiのAセクシャルのグループで友情結婚のオフ会についてのメッセージがあって、Googleでその言葉を調べた。そうすると意外にもたくさんのヒットがあって、適当にクリックするとたくさんの面白いBBSが見つけた。 ...親から結婚しろと口うるさく言われていて困っていまして・・・自分はゲイなのでそこの所を理解している女性と友達になってゆくゆくは友情結婚出来たらいい ??? wow. 信じられないと言うより信じたくない辛い事実だね…それがゲイである日本人の境遇だと言うこと。 i learned a new phrase tonight: “yuujou kekkon” (lit. “friendship marriage”) there was a message posted to an asexual group on mixi about an offline “friendship marriage” meetup, so i googled the phrase and got a surprising number of hits. from that, i stumbled upon one of many interesting message boards. ….my parents keep telling me to get married, it’s so annoying […] it would be great if i could find a woman whom i could marry with the understanding that i’m gay ??? wow. that gay people in Japan feel the need to go to such lengths is a truth that hurts.

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    October 8, 2018

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    August 11, 2013

    QAC 39 – Biromantic + Panromantic Pride! | Being Both Bi & Pan

    September 23, 2015
  • Gender[queer],  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 21 – Gender Identity & Feminism

    January 3, 2014 / No Comments

    i’ve never identified as a feminist and yet when it came to questioning my gender identity i somehow felt guilty for wanting to identify as anything other than my assigned gender, ie female. was i betraying myself? someone else? women everywhere?? i guess my relationship with feminism was and will always be more complicated than i’d thought. surely it’s not just me?

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    QAC 47 –  Re: “Transitioning” in Japan / Body Mods & Dysphoria || Tea & Word Vomit

    February 28, 2016

    QAC 30 – Gender Expression / Presentation Blurb

    October 28, 2014

    “You are freaking perfect how you are.”

    June 19, 2018
  • [Random] Thoughts

    SIGH.

    January 1, 2014 / No Comments

    …it’s really depressing thinking about all the money i’m going to have to save up and then spend just to do away with something that i don’t need nor want. …and then it’s depressing thinking about all the people out there who’d love to have this thing that i don’t need/want. SIGH.

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    re: ….so. selfies.

    February 15, 2015

    QAC 05 – Gender Blurb: Neutrois?

    May 29, 2013

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    July 12, 2016
  • [Random] Thoughts,  YouTube[r]

    QAC 20 – Aspirations, Goals & More For 2014

    December 29, 2013 / No Comments

    goodbye 2013 and good riddance! in this video i talk about my goals for 2014, including coping with depression/dysphoria through cycling, getting connected with Japan’s LGBTQIA community and saving money for a hysterectomy. i also talk about my (lack of) transitioning and my new name! a huge THANK YOU! to all of my followers and subscribers! there’s undoubtedly lots more videos to come in 2014. 🙂

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    カルシファー、お帰り。 Welcome Home, Calcifer.

    September 17, 2017

    …one of many examples of why navigating セクマイ / LGBTQIA spaces in Japan can be painful at times.

    October 7, 2016

    story time: when “American” is more important than “African”

    January 7, 2017
  • Gender[queer],  Japan[ese],  Queer[ness]

    neutroisって日本語でなんと言いますか。

    December 26, 2013 / No Comments

    while randomly watching videos on YouTube i came across the vlog of a Japanese FtX (their words, not mine) person. i was so happy that i immediately started typing a comment introducing myself, but when it came to saying that i’m neutrois i couldn’t figure out how to say it. see, Japanese kind of sucks…. there is no word to distinguish between SEX and GENDER– the both equate to 性 (sei). i dare say that the entire concept of gender vs sex is lacking in Japan, but that’s a topic for another time. i thought that maybe neutrois could be translated as 無性者 (museisha; literally translates to “person without sex/gender”) but apparently that’s used to mean asexual! wtffffff….. so then i thought that maybe i could say 中立性者 (chuuritsuseisha), which literally translates to “neutral person” but apparently 中立性 (chuuritsusei) is used in regards to having a neutral stance on any given thing and so wouldn’t really be used specifically for gender despite 性 (sei)…

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    May 11, 2013

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    June 25, 2014
  • [Random] Thoughts,  Japan[ese],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 19.5.5 – [Life Update] Japan: The First 3 Weeks

    December 9, 2013 / No Comments

    sorry for being MIA for so long. in this video on blurb on and on about various random things that i have seen or experienced in Japan thus far. in short, work is going well and my piercings + attempts at gender neutral attire have all gone over fine thus far. more interesting videos to come in the future!

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    July 21, 2013

    カルシファー、お帰り。 Welcome Home, Calcifer.

    September 17, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  [Random] Thoughts,  Queer[ness]

    #asexual pride shirt

    October 27, 2013 / No Comments

    got my custom made shirt in the mail yesterday. 🙂 had to take these photos a million times as my hair was always covering something. ;( see also: this post and this post about the design of this shirt

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    March 1, 2017

    QAC 54 – Confusing Gender Envy & Admiration with Attraction || Non-Binary | Asexual

    October 10, 2016

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    August 4, 2017
  • [A]sexuality,  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 19 – Asexuality: An FAQ

    October 25, 2013 / No Comments

    in honor of Asexual Awareness Week (Oct. 20th – 26th, 2013) i decided to attempt to make a video to help raise awareness about asexuality. the FAQ includes: @00:56  – what is asexuality? @01:12  – isn’t that celibacy? @01:42  – maybe you should get your hormones checked? @02:38  – isn’t asexuality unnatural? @04:27  – so if you’re asexual you’re a virgin/never want sex? @05:49  – how can you know if you’ve never had sex?@06:57  – do asexuals masturbate? @07:46  – i have a low/high sex drive. could i still be asexual? @09:04  – do asexuals never fall in love? @09:51  – what are other types of attraction? @11:38  – what if someone rarely experiences sexual attraction or only experiences it under certain circumstances? @12:45 – where can i find out more? please note that the content of this video is just MY personal answer to various questions and i most…

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    QAC 72 – Outted To Religious Mom: 4 Years Later | HRT | Non-Binary Relationship || #ItGetsBetter?

    September 18, 2018
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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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