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    Q&A: “what is romantic attraction vs sensual?”

    April 14, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: i haven’t heard of sensual attraction until recently but i’m having a hard time separating it from romantic attraction? like what //is// romantic attraction vs sensual? sorry if this is a really basic question!   not a “really basic question” at all! honestly, the world at large doesn’t even distinguish between different types of attraction, they’re all considered to be part of the same thing. it’s the asexual and aromantic communities that started dissecting attraction into different categories and it can be very confusing at times. within ace and aro communities, attraction is commonly broken up into 5 categories: platonic, aesthetic, sensual, romantic and sexual attraction. see these posts to find out the basics on all of them: [ 1 ] + [ 2 ]

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    Vesper H.

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    Q&A not Q&A: “For the longest time, I identified as demiro, for a pretty similar reason.”

    April 4, 2015 / No Comments

    anonymous said: For the longest time, I identified as demiro, for a pretty similar reason. I never understood romance for what it apparently is– I don’t now, either– but I have always had pretty intense squishes. Romance seemed like the “answer”– a grown-up, committed relationship, more than friendship. But, similar to what you’ve said, I was never the one to initiate it. My confusion really culminated when my romantic partner way back when told me that he loved me, and I…just couldn’t say it back. I got even more confused later as I kept seeing these squishes as romance, questioning my “sexuality” as I developed one on a same-gendered friend, who later shot me down horribly. Another relationship revealed that I thought of my partner as a sibling, not as anything romantic. I’m in a QPR now, after figuring things out “enough,” but there’s still a lot of confusion; I still…

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    a convo with 10yo students (100% unedited)

    December 28, 2014 / No Comments

    student K: sensei, do you have kids? me: ….??? NO. student K: why not? me: because i don’t. do your work. student K: sensei, you’re almost 30! you have to get married! me: …..why do you remember my age and why are /you/ telling me this??? student K: *cheeky grin* because everyone gets married and has kids by 30, of course! students H & D: *nod in agreement* me: ……… *face in hand*  

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  • [A]sexuality,  Art[sy Fartsy],  Queer[ness]

    romantic orientation pride

    May 29, 2013 / No Comments

    ….lazily made these because i have yet to see any pride-related things regarding romantic orientations. what are romantic orientations? see this video.

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    Vesper H.

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  • [A]sexuality,  Queer[ness],  YouTube[r]

    QAC 03 – Romantic Orientations & Other Types of Attraction

    May 24, 2013 / No Comments

    in this video i try to explain how there are several types of attraction, including romantic, sensual, aesthetic and sexual attraction. i also go on to explain that there are also romantic orientations in addition to sexual orientations and how these two orientations do not always match each other. i am certainly no expert on this topic, but i feel that this topic is not discussed enough, so i made this video with the hope of furthering awareness and discussion about the matter. i apologize if i have confused for offended anyone. re: the “Orientations” image used in this video, see here. feedback and comments are welcome. hope i explained things clearly/correctly enough. ;(

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VESPER H.

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Queer As Cat is the blog and YouTube channel of Vesper, an American expat currently living in Japan.
reoccurring topics include: #asexuality, #nonbinary, #queerness #blackness & #mentalhealth

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