[A]sexuality,  Q&A,  Queer[ness]

Q&A: “I think I might be anything but straight, and it’s terrifying.”

anonymous said:

I think I might be anything but straight, and it’s terrifying. I don’t know if I want to label myself but I feel like I have to for the people surrounding me. Let me not have a label if I don’t want to. Let me live. I don’t know where to go from now.

anon, you most certainly don’t have to label yourself and there is absolutely nothing wrong with not being sure of your sexuality or anything else in life.

even if others are obnoxious enough to try and co-pilot or even hijack it, the fact is that you are in control of your life and identity. you and only you. what you do from here is entirely up to you. hell, you don’t even have to do anything at all if you don’t want to.

discovering something new about yourself can certainly be terrifying, especially at first, but hopefully in time the fear will subside and perhaps then you could look at it as an adventure or challenge? an adventure/challenge that you don’t have to undertake at all if you don’t want to, but if in time you do find yourself interested in undertaking it and getting to know yourself more, it needn’t involve labeling yourself and it most certainly needn’t involve anyone else at all. no one need even know unless you want them to.

remember that you’re in control. you are. as long as you do you, it doesn’t matter what else you do or don’t do. everyone else be damned.

best wishes, anon! things’ll be okay. you’ll get through this! 🙂

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