Q&A: “Do you think its okay for me (personally) to reject the idea of romantic orientation?”
anonymous said: Do you think its okay for me (personally) to reject the idea of romantic orientation? I don’t feel like I fit with aromantic either. Romantic orientation just doesn’t feel like a useful concept to me. I feel like I can’t even distinguish “romantic attraction” and “sensual attraction” and whatever. The way I’m attracted to people is in a way that I can’t pick apart: all the feelings go together and nothing stands out as ‘this specifically is romantic attraction.’ Can’t I /just/ be asexual? without a doubt you can (and should) feel free to discard or reject the idea of romantic orientation etc etc in regards to yourself if you do not find the concept to be useful to you. there is absolutely no requirement that you identify or describe yourself as anything. honestly, it would do the asexual community good to recognize that romantic orientation (among others)…
Q&A: “if someone is a cis girl who is romantically attracted to girls and nonbinary people is she considered biromantic?”
anonymous said: if someone is a cis girl who is romantically attracted to girls and nonbinary people is she considered biromantic? or does biromantic just refer to being attracted to the binary genders? biromantic describes anyone of any gender who is romantically attracted to two or more genders, be those genders binary or not, so yes. biromantic would totally describe the person in question. it’s also worth mentioning that although biromantic is more commonly used, polyromantic– ie. romantic attraction to multiple (but not necessarily all) genders– could also describe the person in question. which term a person uses ultimately comes down to personal preference.
AskAPan Week 06 – “Genderblind”ness (+DOMA comments)
my (humble) opinion on many pansexual’s and panromantic’s use of the term “genderblind” and why such a term is highly problematic, plus brief comments re: DOMA.
romantic orientation pride
….lazily made these because i have yet to see any pride-related things regarding romantic orientations. what are romantic orientations? see this video.
QAC 03 – Romantic Orientations & Other Types of Attraction
in this video i try to explain how there are several types of attraction, including romantic, sensual, aesthetic and sexual attraction. i also go on to explain that there are also romantic orientations in addition to sexual orientations and how these two orientations do not always match each other. i am certainly no expert on this topic, but i feel that this topic is not discussed enough, so i made this video with the hope of furthering awareness and discussion about the matter. i apologize if i have confused for offended anyone. re: the “Orientations” image used in this video, see here. feedback and comments are welcome. hope i explained things clearly/correctly enough. ;(
QAC 04 – Why I Identify as Panromantic & Biromantic
in this terribly long video, i blurb on and on about how i came to identify as a panromantic AND biromantic asexual. that’s right, i said pan and bi. many people quote bisexuality as meaning “attraction to males and females,” but that’s just binarist and ignorant, imho. there are bisexual who do define their own attraction as such, but regarding bisexuality and biromanticism in general, there is absolutely nothing that suggests the existence of only two genders or that “bi” is at all limited to attraction only towards males and females. example definitions of bi that many people fail to consider: – attraction to the SAME and to OTHER genderS than oneself. – attraction to AGENDER and to FEMALES. – attraction to GENDERQUEER and to GENDERFLUID. – attraction to MALES and to NEUTROIS. – etc etc bisexuals and biromantics are the ones who get to define their respective orientations, not…
